Talking to a priest about personal matters

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I’m a teenager …16yeara old to be specific. Lately my life has taken a 360 degree turn starting with my grandmother passing away last year followed by witnessing my dad getting beaten up by his own brother. The past few months have been horrible and I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster …at the same time my parents aren’t being supportive cause it’s affecting my studies and my grades have fallen from an A to a C …my parents blame me for my fallen grades …I don’t disagree with them but they don’t know what’s happening. I also recently broke up with my boyfriend who turned out to be an absolute jerk. I feel soo tired and helpless at the moment. I’m not getting support from home and I haven’t told any of my close friends about anything . The only person who knows what I’m going through and is being very supportive is my cousin who is 17 years old …she suggested that I should talk to a priest in my church for guidance regarding my situation now…but I’m not sure it’s the right thing to do …I’m soo confused about what to do …help plz!!!
 
It’s fine to talk to your priest, if you remember that he is there to give you spiritual counseling. His advice might be about how to take your troubles to God, or pray, or feel less despairing, etc.

If you feel you actually need some mental health counseling, that is something you should reach out to a mental health counselor to get, not your priest.
 
Talk to someone you trust about this. Normally, talking about tough matters helps relieving them. A priest could definitley be helpful.

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Yes! Please reach out to your confessor for help! I had a private meeting with my priest at the rectory a couple weeks ago and it really enriched me. He was very supportive of what I was going through and offered his best advice.

There is a reason we call priest “Father”, and they indeed are fathers of their parishes. Your spiritual and overall welfare should be a concern for him. If you reach out to him and to the Church I am sure you will get help!
 
OP, yes, talk to a priest, and talk to your guidance counselor or a trusted teacher. You will get better help from them than any strangers here on the internet. You have a few things going on at once and need a strategy to cope with them.

You say that your parents don’t know what’s going on, so maybe you really ought to start out by talking to them. I am sure they would help you if they only knew what was wrong. And we know that teens like to hide their feelings sometimes and keep to themselves.

Edit: OP, I looked at some of your past threads…
Your parents need to know what is going on. Please don’t hide it from them. You need to get some counseling for your problems.
 
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Sounds like you need some help with depresson. Say that to your parents. “Mom and Dad, I have been feeling very depressed lately and I think it would help for me to speak to a counselor and have a health check-up with a medical doctor”. If they igore you or deny you, then reach out to your school counselor. They can help you get the wheels in motion to get some help.

Depression is very common and nothing to be ashamed of. The sooner you seek help working through it, the sooner you will feel better and return to a more comfortable life.
 
No …I’m actually in college ( in my country we go to college after 10th grade) and my college doesn’t have a counsellor…so my best bet is a priest …I stay bang opposite the church so the priests are practically my neighbours …I am a little hesitant to talk to a priest cause all of them know my family well ( I belong to one of the oldest families in my area) so I don’t want to priest to tell my parents if I talk to him
 
If u r referring to the cutting …I kinda stopped it and I’ve been trying new ways to let my frustration out…
 
Izzy may I ask which country you are in as we may be able to suggest resources there?
 
The priest is bound to keep silence about what the two of you are talking about. Ask him to explain it to you when you first meet if he doesn’t take the initiative to mention it. All priests I know start with saying that at the first meeting they have with a person coming to seek counselling.
 
Yes. Talk to a priest and your parents. Please do.
Offering up prayers for you.
 
Thanks for the prayers…I’m thinking I’ll surely approach a priest from my parish …he’s in charge of the youth so he’s really kind …I’m reading tomorrow in church …so I’m planning on approaching him after mass
 
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