The APA has made choosing a therapist easy

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The APA says that traditional masculinity is harmful.
But the author of the article says “…ask women who are looking for a husband whether the men they date exhibit too much masculinity, too little masculinity or just the right amount. I have talked to hundreds of women on my radio show (every week I have a “Male/Female Hour”), at speeches and in private who are dating to find a spouse. Not one has said men today are too masculine. Virtually all of them have said men today lack masculinity.”
 
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I could be reading the article wrong, but what the APA is defining as traditional masculinity, I define as lacking in masculinity. Being aggressive, not being able to talk about emotions, being possessive and controlling, being overly competitive. I want none of those in a man. They are not masculine.

Virtuous men are masculine. The above traits are vices.

Maybe it’s just a case of semantics?
 
This article is just awful. It contains no links to the APA so that people can read it for themselves (here it is for those curious), but even then is clearly not of high quality. A considerable amount of it is name-calling, and the best counterpoint to anything said - which again we don’t know - is anecdotal experience. Granted, I’m not sure how much he actually read. He tries using WWII as a positive for masculinity, which the APA themselves uses under “Supporting the positive”, albeit the APA uses war more generally:
It’s also important to encourage pro-social aspects of masculinity, says McDermott. In certain circumstances, traits like stoicism and self-sacrifice can be absolutely crucial, he says. But the same tough demeanor that might save a soldier’s life in a war zone can destroy it at home with a romantic partner or child.
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I mean, reading his article gives the impression that the APA never brought something like that up.

In short: Please hold yourselves to higher standards than this.
 
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I agree with you.

There are some areas where I would agree and disagree with APA.

For example, I agree with their point that psychologists should promote fathers’ involvement in their children’s lives through play or other areas.

But other parts (such as teaching male clients about male privilege) reeks of feminist therapy, which is actually a specific branch of therapy. Because of this, I don’t like the document as a whole as it appears to be a document for therapy in general, rather than one for a specific view/ideology.

I think ultimately the problem lies in them defining being a man as some sort of construct, and as a result, their explanations are just weird at times.
 
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