As a solipsist myself, and specifically a soft solipsist, which is the position that your friend appears to be advocating, perhaps I can offer a helpful perspective. First off, there’s simply no way to refute the solipsistic argument. There’s no way that you can ever know if anything exists outside of your own mind. It’s the inescapable dilemma of the conscious mind. It can never gain a perspective outside of itself. It can never be sure of what’s real.
There’s nothing wrong with believing that the world is real. In fact it’s probably the rational thing to do, so long as one remembers that you can never know. You can never be certain. The question that you may wish to ask your friend is, if this world is only an illusion, then what would she be without it? Everything she knows. Everything she loves, and fears, and hopes, and feels are born of this world. So what would she be without it? The world may not be real, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not unspeakably precious.
In the end it doesn’t matter what’s real. What matters is how one chooses to live their life. You can choose to love, and cherish, and hope, and believe. Or you can choose to hate, and judge, and resent, and punish. Real or illusion it doesn’t matter, these are your choices. These are the choices that you must make, and these are the choices that your friend must make.
- I seem to experience things in reality.
- These things, if they were hallucinations or dreams, would have to be based in things I had experienced before.
- If there is no external world than I wouldn’t have experienced them.
- Therefore the external world exists
If you were an atheist this argument might be a bit more convincing, but seeing as you’re a Catholic, it begs the response: If a conscious being can’t imagine a world for which it has no experience, then where did God get the idea for creation from?
If reality can’t be known, how is it that what we claim to know about the external world generally is very reliable and generally coheres with the experiences of pretty much everyone? That is a huge bullet to bite for the skeptic.
Cognitive dissonance. The mind imagines a world that makes sense, because an irrational world would be logically incoherent, and prone to being torn apart by contradictions and paradoxes. For the conscious mind to exist, it must imagine a world in which its existence makes sense. It must have a framework in which to give itself context, and so it creates reality. Or to be more accurate, it doesn’t create such a reality, but rather it arises within such a reality, because it cannot exist outside of it. Its existence must have context and coherence, or it couldn’t exist. And so the conscious mind arises within a world that is logically consistent.
But unfortunately this reality can never overcome one overarching truth, one question that it cannot answer: Where did I come from? This unanswerable question leads to cognitive dissonance. The mind struggles to find an answer to this question. To imagine a world in which it knows where it came from, and why it exists, but it can’t. And so it exists in a world of conflict. Constantly struggling with the unanswerable questions: where did I come from, and why am I here? The world as I know it may simply be a reflection of that struggle.