The problem about being a twin

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The problem about being a twin is that many people compare us. My twin sister got accepted to two universities. She also got a higher SAT score than me. Apparently a score like mine gets you nowhere:(.

Whenever we run into people we know they start to congratulate my sister and they tell her that they hope everything works out for her. I plan on going to college too…the problem is that I haven’t been accepted yet. I feel down and depressed:(.

Everyone I know is going away for college (either out of state or going to live on the campus).
 
I know this is a terrible disappointment for you. I will keep you in my prayers. Make the most of your time at Hillsborough and then maybe you can transfer to a four year college later. It might be good that you and your twin will be on your own for awhile. I will pray for your success. God bless.
 
I feel for you… I don’t have a twin, but I had low SAT scores (but high grades). I ended up going to small college (like you are doing). But I used that small college as a stepping stone to the University I wanted to attend. It was an extra step, but it all worked out. The ironic thing was, I received high grades in college as well–the SATs were no reflection of my academic ability.

The best advice I can give you is don’t compare yourself to your sister like others do. You are a different person. Try not to envy your the praise your sister is getting. I am sure people just want to be kind to her and not mean to you. And if people do compare you, be kind, but say, “I have different plans.” Go to the community college and get that foundation to move on another school (or whatever you want to do). Don’t lose sight of your goal and work towards it as best you can. Also remember, things have a way of not going how you plan them sometimes, but most times the end result is something better than you could have imagined.

By the way, I’ve personally despised the SATs since my high school days. I feel it’s unfair to judge students by those test scores. But it is what it is for now.
 
Hey, it’s not just a twin thing. My younger brother is better looking, taller and more talented.
Speaks 4 languages fluently and 1 passably. (Including Japanese)
Incredibly talented artist and musician in multiple media and instruments.
His success has not subtracted from my life or happiness. Your sister’s success will mean she probably won’t be mooching off you in the future, believe me, it happens.

Anyway, what your sibling does is irrelevant to your life. I was very focused in high school because I knew from about the age of 8 what I wanted to do. It only required a college degree from an accredited institution so I went to the local commuter college in CA, one in the CSU system. I did exactly what I wanted.

Community college is a great place to knock out a lot of prerequisite and core courses at a cheaper price. (Have you been following all the articles and discussion on the over-investment in education? Students going into incredible debt and finding it will take years to pay off. Basically there’s an education bubble with student paying far more than is rational to get a degree from a named institution.)

Named institutions don’t provide a better education, they do provide networking to alumni throught the rest of your career. May or may not be important depending on your career.

Do you know what you want to do with your life? Do you know what kind of degree? I had a friend who was an artist, his dream in high school was to go to the Pasadena Art College- made sense due to the prestige of the school, credibility it gave him, and networking opportunities. He’s done very well as a commercial artist as a result.

I have nephew who had his heart set on a military-style college (VMI, Citadel etc.), he went to one, paid a fortune and is heavily in debt. He decided to become a police officer. He could have paid a lot less for a degree and be in the same position.

I had another friend who went to school for an engineering degree, mid-way through he decided he loved carpentry and quit school. He is now a master carpenter with his own business creating custom furniture and cabinets, again he does very well and loves what he’s doing.

My long winded point is your pursuit of an education should be in support of your goals in life and with a rational decision on the investment of time and money. Don’t be down about a community college, it is a wonderful opportunity to either explore various subjects to find what interests you, or if you have goals- to focus in on those things that will support your achieving them. Boost grades, build your academeic resume for the college of your choice that you want to transfer to.
 
I feel kind of lost right now…I don’t know what to do with my life or what my future will hold.
 
There is no problem about being a twin. Been one for almost 75 years. My brother is also my best friend. We are different people and have been given different gifts. Some will tend to compare you, it comes with the territory. But, do not be competitive. Love your twin and be happy for what she achieves.
 
PRAY!!!
The best times of your life have yet to come! You’re young!

Praying for you…

-Phil
 
Battle_Warrior said:
I feel kind of lost right now…I don’t know what to do with my life or what my future will hold.
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It will be fantastic at times, tough at times, and both at times. You’re like most folks at the end of high school struggling to figure these things out. Could explain your SATs, hard to apply yourself to something if you can’t see how it’s going to get you where you want to go.

Pray and spend some time in contemplation of what you like to do. What you could see yourself doing. If you truly can’t come up with anything, look at the catalog for the community college and pick a couple of subjects that spark your interest. Join some clubs or groups at activities you think you may like. Don’t be afraid to try new things because those are what will lead you to finding purpose to your life. My sister changed majors 6 times during college until she found her passion. She wouldn’t have found it without all the change and turbulence.

Make a list of all the things you want to experience in life. Then try crossing a couple off the list- SCUBA dive? Skydive? Learn a musical instrument? Whatever, as you experience more things it will lead you to discover yourself, who you are, what you want in life, what you do and don’t enjoy.
 
maybe its a chance for you to branch out and follow a different path from your twin…to get your own individuality and identity…if you had got the same grades and were going to the same university then people would still have compared you both or even worse treated you like one person!!!
use this as an opportunity to do what you want to do, rather than what your twin is doing!!!
 
When I was in high school, our valedictorian got a score about the same as yours. She went to a decent university. I wouldn’t be too down on that score, especially if your grades were decent and you were involved in other activities.

If it really bothers you, you could try to do some practice and retake the test. I took the SAT twice and my score went up about 100 points.

I agree with the other posters though, if you really dislike the college you applied to, you could take your core classes there and then transfer to another school. I don’t know if they have something like this where you are, but in GA there’s a guaranteed acceptance to 4-year universities as long as your GPA is above a certain grade. It’s a great way to save money and keep your grades high before focusing on your major-related classes!
 
Pray and become the best person YOU can be. God has a plan for your life, but waiting to see how it will unfold can be frustrating. 😦

You are a unique soul and God loves you for you. 👍
 
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