Thinking about Sex a lot

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Recently, I have been daydreaming about sex a lot. Not with any real person in particular, but with a future wife made up in my mind, and even thinking about oral sex with her. I DO always think about it that it is within a marriage. Is this sinful? I have heard that since I daydream about the sex within a marriage, and that it is mostly procreative sex, it is not sinful. But I am 15 so I am not sure. Is this mortally sinful? Venial? if you have any questions please let me know.
 
Whether or not the Church considers it sinful… Talk to a priest. It isn’t one-size-fits-all because everyone’s circumstances are different. A priest will help you figure it out.
 
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Thanks. Lust means “A strong craving for sex” And I technically am not lusting because I don’t want to have sex right now, but these thoughts may be a form of lust
 
I’m around your age (16 to be exact) and I have and still go through these day dreams presently (although not as much as before with an active prayer life). It is not a sin if you know it is wrong and you resent those thoughts. Also as the others said, talk to a priest:)
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Regardless it doesn’t sound very amicable for chastity’s sake. Also as you are 15 I reccomend not talking to strangers online about sexual things, for your own sake!

I would personally very much advice against trying to think these things. If they just come up into your mind, and you don’t willingly give into it, then it shouldn’t be sinful.
 
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IMO, your description aligns with coveting. I think if you were thinking scientifically about it, such as preparing for NFP, there wouldn’t be concern. But to daydream specifically about oral sex indicates you might be developing a selfish expectation for marital intimacy.

Definitely seek advice from a priest. And consider offering up prayers for greater love between you and your future spouse any time you daydream about marital intimacy.
 
Thanks. I actually don’t plan on using nfp but instead sex for mostly procreation and intimacy
 
You need to talk to a priest about this. We aren’t moral authorities and cannot tell you what is and isn’t sinful in such a subjective case.

While it may not be entirely sinful, per se, I would strongly advise against it. Certainly you have better ways to use your time and energy, right? How about working on bringing about your vocation rather than fantasizing about what it would be like? I’ve found that people who daydream about this stuff aren’t very experienced with women, and tend to have a harder time not objectifying them. Get out of your head and into the real world.
 
It is absolutely sinful to dwell on such things. It becomes grave when it moves into deliberate action one one’s own body, or a determined desire to do something illicit even if not possible (including certain unnatural acts, like you mentioned, when done out of curiosity or for their own sake, which are always illicit). And such thoughts lead quickly to the edge of this cliff.

Move your mind away quickly. Then go pray a decade of the rosary. Then ask a girl out on a real date - when the world is open again!

(I am a professional moral theologian, FWIW.)
 
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Seek chastity, pray more, go to Confession.

Our Lady, Saint Joseph and Saint Aloysius Gonzaga are the best ones to ask help in this case.
 
Learning nfp might help with the day dreams, it’s a useful skill to have to support your future wife.

If you do marry someone committed to following church teaching in this area, nfp and your ability to abstain may be keeping her alive. Learning about pregnancy complications may also help you stay in reality.
 
Confraternity of the Angelic Warfare will help you. say those prayers on the site.
 
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Learning nfp might help with the day dreams, it’s a useful skill to have to support your future wife.
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How on earth is thinking more about sexuality helpful for moderating sexual fanatasies?

I can see why the forums are shutting down. It’s stuff like this. Yikes.

OP - go spend time in your parish around nice Catholic girls, ask them on dates, and recreate with pious men who are trying to do well in chastity. Read more (real books) on ethics. Pray more. Fast more. Laugh and exercise more. You will be alright.

-K
 
The OP is underage and really needs to be talking to parents or a priest.

Matters of conscience should not be discussed openly in public forums.

@camoderator
 
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