Those Warm Feelings

[7violinS]

Is it wrong to have those warm feelings towards dear friends of the same sex? I’m pretty sure I’m not gay or anything but I was wondering if it’s wrong to have those close feelings that just make you want to hug the other person and want to be around them. I have a few friends that just make me smile by their presence and am a bit worried that the warmth I feel towards them might be a bit out of line. When would it be and when wouldn’t it be wrong? I have an idea as to what would be inappropriate but would like to know what others think.

 

[7violinS]

Is it wrong to have those warm feelings towards dear friends of the same sex? I’m pretty sure I’m not gay or anything but I was wondering if it’s wrong to have those close feelings that just make you want to hug the other person and want to be around them. I have a few friends that just make me smile by their presence and am a bit worried that the warmth I feel towards them might be a bit out of line. When would it be and when wouldn’t it be wrong? I have an idea as to what would be inappropriate but would like to know what others think.

 

[mschrank]

No, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s called love.

Yes, Love!

But not sexual love, it’s the same kind of love that made John rest on Jesus. Not sexual.

However, in our culture we do not have an acceptable social form for straight men to express those kinds of feelings. It’s pretty sad, because true Friendship as the kind expressed in the pre-Modern Christian, Greek worlds is not possible for modern straight men. Read Aristotle’s Nichomachean Ethics- he says the best kind of friendship is when two guys share their lives and interests and live together- but no, he wasn’t speaking of homosexuality.

I would never dream of holding my best friend’s hand, but if we were a bit tipsy we might walk down the street with our arms around each other’s shoulders… so, it’s really not a sexual thing, just a social thing. Society says being drunk and hanging on your best friend is okay, but if you’re sober, then you’re most definately a bender (or so says society).

It’s just sad that the gay culture has taken so much influence over society that we can’t even have warm feelings towards our friends without wondering if we are homosexuals ourselves.

 

[puzzleannie]

this is precisely why homosexuality is such a perversion and why the aggressive lobbying of gay activists to “normalize” such behavior is so destructive of society, that anyone would even ask such a question. This show how much our culture’s embrace of the gay agenda has perverted our normal notions of friendship, comradeship, and love.

 

[sing]

this is precisely why homosexuality is such a perversion and why the aggressive lobbying of gay activists to “normalize” such behavior is so destructive of society, that anyone would even ask such a question. This show how much our culture’s embrace of the gay agenda has perverted our normal notions of friendship, comradeship, and love.

No, I think the OP is being scrupulous.

 

[kell0618]

I have a dear friend with whom I guess you can say I share ‘warm feelings’. I enjoy being around her, look forward to hearing her voice on the phone and just have a general connection to her. I love her and she is a wonderful compliment to my life. Sexual attracted? No, nothing of the sort. I love her dearly and that is what close friendship is about.

Scrupulosity is indeed dangerous and please be sure that this isn’t the case in your situation. Nothing wrong with a strong emotional bond with someone of the same sex; there is so much within scripture in regard to the importance of friendship. If you feel that your relationship is leading you on a path away from God, that is your red flag and one that should not be ignored. A wise person once said, “If someone who you believe to be a gift from God leads you away from Him, alas, the gift was not from God after all.”

Peace be with you,

Kelly

 

[Sixtus]

Is it wrong to have those warm feelings towards dear friends of the same sex?

I think it is not only normal but wholesome and good to have those warm feelings towards others. Their gender is irrelevant.

 

[Sixtus]

Is it wrong to have those warm feelings towards dear friends of the same sex?

I think it is not only normal but wholesome and good to have those warm feelings towards others. 1 Peter 3: 8 Their gender is irrelevant.