Tips For A Happy, Holy & Healthy Marriage

[Zen]

I am sure many people out there would have something to share about what has been keeping their marriage and their family HAPPY, HOLY & HEALTHY. By sharing your tips to other people who may read this thread, you are actually helping them in some way, and perhaps in a very edifying manner. Tell us about your experiences. Thank you!

 

[ProudArmyWife]

I know this wasn’t what you meant when you posted your topic, but here it is…

When my now husband was a cadet at West Point, he said he learned the best advice ever from his military sponsor. He would say to his wife:

You’re right…
You’re always right…
I don’t know what I was ever thinking

 

[AirForceMama]

My husband’s commander told me just this morning the best advice he ever received, and it was from a 2 star general:

Your wife is always one rank above you.

Works for me I guess that makes me Captain Kelly

Oh, and a few of my own :

Don’t nag.

Trust him until he breaks your trust. Then trust him again.

COMMUNICATE.

Write notes in his lunchbox.

Tell him you love him everytime you part.

Kiss him in the hallway.

Always say Thank You.

Always follow through - if you say “I’ll rub your back if you rub mine”, be sure you do it.

Don’t “vent” to your friends over your and your spouses arguments. It will make your friends have a negative view of your spouse and a biased side when you ask for their advice.

Make time for each other - go out to dinner once a week, rent a movie, etc. If you have kids - get a sitter or put them to bed.

Hold hands during Mass (while you are sitting).

Hold hands when walking outside.

Pinch his rear every once in a while.

 

[rayne89]

Love your spouse for who they are not for who you hope they’ll become.

Forgive, Forgive, Forgive

Keep naming calling out of your marriage

Nuture marital intimacy - communicate, never make it a chore

Natural Family Planning - it teaches alot more than child spacing

Pray together, read the Bible together, pray the rosary together

If your spouse does not share your faith -pray, have patience, pray, live your faith, and pray some more. Do not beat your spouse over the head with morality and religion

Treat your spouse as friend - we cut our friends a lot more slack.

Marriage isn’t 50/50 - it’s 100/100. Give 100 percent - always.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Let little irratations go - all of us have flaws.

Continuely seek marriage improvement - reading, retreats, weekends like Marriage Encounter.

Say I love you often. Create habits such as always saying I love you before walking out the door, going to sleep ect.

Hug, kiss, cuddle, tickle, hold hands, laugh -HAVE FUN TOGETHER.

Address any control issues a.s.a.p - a controlling spouse can suffercate a marriage.

Show love to your spouse in the way they’ll appreciate it not in the way most comfortable for you.

If it is possible have/adopt children. Among many other things they bind you together in a special way and children tend to be a great cure for selfishness.

Do not over focus on the children. They need lots of love and attention but do not neglect your spouse. A healthy marriage is one of the best things you can do for your children.

Do not take your spouse for granted. Remember life is short - you may not get tomorrow to say I love you or apologize.

Make decisions together -always include prayer in decision making.

Live within your means - credit cards/debt very oftens puts a huge strain on marriage.

Encourage each others interests & goals - be supportive

Guard yourself to be chaste within your marriage - pornography is like poison in a marriage. Sexual sins a huge source of pain and scars in a marriage.

Compromise, make sacrafices, and do not let pride get in the way.

Do not belittle your spouse in private or in public.

One of the biggest things in marriage is forgiveness. You married a human being not a saint, and your not a saint either - forgive
and put it in the past.

Pray for your spouse everyday.

 

[puzzleannie]

Don’t sleep together before marriage.

Don’t contracept.

throw a brick through the TV

 

[genevieve]

rayne89:

Love your spouse for who they are not for who you hope they’ll become…
… Pray for your spouse everyday.

What a great list!
This list should be given to every couple setting out in their married life together.

 

[Zen]

Thanks for those who have posted excellent ideas in this thread…Let’s hope to get more from other readers & friends. God bless us all!

 

[rayne89]

genevieve:

What a great list!
This list should be given to every couple setting out in their married life together.

Thanks for the compliment. Many of my suggestions were hard learned lessons. But they’re lessons that I won’t forget. God Bless.

 

[mass4life]

Greet your husband with a smile and kiss when he comes home from work…make sure he feels good to come home, even if later you want to gripe at him about something.

Don’t forget to look your spouse in the eyes deeply, the way you did before marriage. It’s easy to forget after a few years.

Don’t contracept.

Ask him details about his work or workmates. Be interested in him.

Don’t forget to “play” together, especially in front of your children. It’s okay to playfully tease each other AND the children!

Pray together.

Don’t subscribe to TV.