To apply for divorce?

[cominghome1966]

The diagram says that there can be more or less than five layers. So right there I make it clear that not all layers apply in all situations.

The point of the graphic is to explore the post-divorce dynamic from the point of view of the child.

It is not off topic, since the OP specifically mentioned wanting to divorce so that she can remarry and create new half-siblings for her child. I am not willing to sugar-coat the structural inequalities that arise for kids in that situation.

Adults need the full information about what they are doing, otherwise they can’t make a truly informed decision.

 

[CatholicSpirit]

Men can be very logic minded. I would say this to a “man”: legalzoom.com has a divorce package that would save us $5-$10,000 each, do you want to split it? Mention that it requires you both to come to terms for the discounted divorce. Obviously, as a Catholic, I want you to save your marriage, and at the very least, your child. For your child: make it necessary for the to go to “Sunday school”, get the cost from the local church, and put it on the table. Child being Catholic is first. Second, play with the “self-mediated divorce package” to lure him into fixing whatever you can. I hope you can save it (your marriage). God bless!

 

[1ke]

Men can be very logic minded. I would say this to a “man”: legalzoom.com has a divorce package that would save us $5-$10,000 each, do you want to split it? Mention that it requires you both to come to terms for the discounted divorce. Obviously, as a Catholic, I want you to save your marriage, and at the very least, your child. For your child: make it necessary for the to go to “Sunday school”, get the cost from the local church, and put it on the table. Child being Catholic is first. Second, play with the “self-mediated divorce package” to lure him into fixing whatever you can. I hope you can save it (your marriage). God bless!

The OP is NOT in the US. The OP is in Australia. We are not permitted to give legal advice and advising a “do it yourself” divorce falls in that category.

 

[steve93]

You probably didn’t mean to, but please be aware this statement implies that the OP is “doing” something to her children when in fact her husband abandoned her. She is an innocent spouse and has no control of the fact that her husband left.

The chart isn’t really helpful at all. It seems laden with blame rather than helpful strategies for those who find themselves in these situations.

Exactly, what is she supposed to do? Force him back at shotgun point? He is the one who has transgressed, not her.
If the OP’s husband doesn’t know what marriage is (one *man *and one woman, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health) then how can he consent to marriage? Wouldn’t that be the annulment case right there?