To do or not to do...

[johto760]

I was searching google about these keywords:

“why women put you in the friend zone”, and I found this article:

bestrelationshipguide.com/the-friend-zone/top-5-reasons-you-enter-the-friend-zone

I don’t know anything that will make a woman attracted to me, the reason why I say this is because, I don’t think any girl has ever liked me before, but after reading the article above, I’ve reflected a bit about WHAT HAVE I BEEN AND WHAT I HAD BEEN DOING IN THE PAST, and suffice to say: “I have been 2 out of 5 from the top 5 reasons being talked about in the article”,

Thinking about it, I should indeed try my hardest NOT to become ANY of the top 5 reasons

stated in the article, and I’m going to pray and take action about it right NOW.

@THE REASON I POST:
The reason why I post this is because I’ve been bothered by the question that almost instantly popped out of my head:

@QUESTION THAT ALMOST INSTANTLY POPPED OUT OF MY HEAD
DO I REALLY HAVE TO LEARN “”"""" HOW TO ATTRACT “”"""" A WOMAN, JUST SO A WOMAN WOULD BE ATTRACTED TO ME?,

In line with the question that almost instantly popped out of my head, another question came into being

@ANOTHER QUESTION THAT CAME INTO BEING:
IS LEARNING HOW TO ATTRACT A WOMAN PART OF BEING CATHOLIC?..

what I mean with that another question is:
IF I LEARN HOW TO ATTRACT A WOMAN, WOULD THAT MAKE ME A BETTER CATHOLIC?,… I can see that “if I learn how to attract a woman, I would be successful in attracting women, I will probably get a lot of girlfriends and find it easier to persuade a woman into liking me, my life in this world will be filled with beautiful women that became attracted to me because I have learned how to attract a woman”,

Of course there’s that GOOD WAY OF USING YOUR POWERS and stuff, it goes like:

“If I learn how to attract a woman, then when I meet a nice chaste catholic woman, I will use what I have learned so that the woman that I am interested in will be attracted to me, then all I have to do is to figure out how to make our relationship last until we are ready to be married and so on…” I need to PRACTICE what I’ve learned so that I could be very good in attracting a woman, so I won’t expect to be GOOD in attracting a woman, THE FIRST TIME I TRIED IT, there will probably be a few or a lot of tries before I could get the hang of it, meaning I’d probably be practicing HOW TO ATTRACT A WOMAN with a few or a lot of woman before I start seeing some progress.

@FOLLOW-UP QUESTION
Is this kind of life, A CHRISTIAN WAY OF LIFE?, Learning how to attract a woman, how to CREATE attraction so that women will fall for you, will these concepts and way of living MAKE LIVING THE LIFE OF CHRIST BETTER?

 

[triumphguy]

Be confident in the gifts God has given you, then you will be attractive to yourself and others.

 

[Edmundus1581]

Even if you decide that you are not going to work to attract women, I recommend that you do work to avoid things you know that are likely to turn women off - and I thought the list was pretty good for that. This seems to be what you have concluded for yourself.

Fortunately, you’ve identified two areas. That should be manageable.

To me, it’s like going for a job interview. You put on a good suit and show your best behaviour. You don’t pretend to be something completely different from what you are by nature, but a little gloss is expected.

BTW, your post is very hard to read because of the different fonts and capitalisation, especially the very large fonts.

 

[johto760]

BTW, your post is very hard to read because of the different fonts and capitalisation, especially the very large fonts.

Thanks for the (name removed by moderator)ut, I’m sorry for the fonts though… ^^… I was just trying to give some lines some kind of an emphasis… ^^

 

[musicality]

First: Bold, italicize, and/or underline before you use all caps.

I am unfortunately greatly experienced in the friend zone, and I have visited websites similar to the one you have linked to in your post. That being said, I just want to comment on the veracity and reliability of sites like that one. The “techniques” and “theory” on websites like this come from a community known as the seduction community or pick up artists. Their ideas work (to a limited extent), but I would caution you that they may suggest taking actions that are not particularly Catholic.

Having read a good amount of their material, their theory comes down to this:

In order to attract a woman you must be socially aware, confident in your words and actions, and willing to take risks.

In practice this translates to the following:

• socially aware - avoiding socially awkward actions e.g. You want to talk to a girl you are attracted to, but she is in a group. Make sure that if you strike up a conversation in the presence of that group that you include them and introduce yourself to the group members.
  I considered expanding on this but there are so many possible situations.
• confident - I think this speaks for itself for the most part. e.g. Don’t expect a woman to go on a date with you unless you are confident enough to display interest and ask her on a date.
• taking risks - This is somewhat of an offshoot of confidence. e.g. You have just met a woman for the first time and you really seem to hit it off. If you’re willing to take a risk, make sure to let her know that you’d like to meet up with her some other time for a date and get her contact information.

Most of all, please don’t completely buy into the friend zone rhetoric. It’s true that most friendships do not end up in romance, but it is not impossible.