Top 10 Reasons to Marry Catholic

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Top 10 Reasons to Marry Catholic


  1. *]You’ll be better prepared for the daily joys and struggles of married life.
    *]Your love story will take on cosmic meaning – the newest chapter in God’s salvation history.
    *]Your children will know who they are, where they came from, and why they’re here.
    *]Your friends and family will thank you – no huge expense for a destination wedding.
    *]Your wedding ceremony will be beautiful and sacred, rain or shine.
    *]You’ll have an ever-present (24-7) spiritual and social support system from your parish community.
    *]You’ll be part of the world’s greatest social justice network – 1.2 billion Catholics worldwide
    *]You’ll both take your marriage commitment seriously – the most important job you’ll ever have.
    *]You’ll be a model for others – people will sense God’s presence in your relationship.
    *]You’ll be true soul mates – “Two Shall Become One.”
 
Sorry, but I see none of these as exclusively Catholic-marrying-Catholic things. And some are downright insulting. A child of a “mixed marriage” WON’T know who they are or why they’re here? Please. A marriage has to be Catholic-Catholic in order for the marriage commitment “to be taken seriously?” Very offensive. And if one’s Catholic bride is from the other side of the country, and the wedding is in her family parish, it very much becomes a “destination wedding.” You need to re-think these.
 
There are plenty of non-Catholics who take their marriage seriously and plenty of Catholics who do not. Taking your marriage seriously has nothing to do with being Catholic.

This thread is just silly.

-Tim-
 
TimothyH said:
There are plenty of non-Catholics who take their marriage seriously and plenty of Catholics who do not. Taking your marriage seriously has nothing to do with being Catholic.

This thread is just silly.

-Tim-
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Then maybe some of us can help with Even Keal’s list

How about:
Access to Catholic programs like “Marriage Encounter”
 
1Lord1Faith said:
Then maybe some of us can help with Even Keal’s list

How about:
Access to Catholic programs like “Marriage Encounter”
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Thank you. This is not intended to offend. I appreciate all (name removed by moderator)ut. I hope we can do it in a productive and charitable way. I should have indicated this is a “work in progress.”

There is a crisis in the Church. There is a marked retreat from marriage. Our children are demanding “why” they should follow, what they perceive as old, and dated “traditions”. Even our culture’s emphasis on selling “destination weddings” and “packaged weddings (ceremonies and receptions, all in one place)” is fueling this unfortunate trend.

We need to be alive in our response to Christ’s teaching on the indissolubility of marriage. (Luke 16:18; cf. Mark 10:11–12)

A sacramental marriage in the Church Jesus founded is how we, as Catholics, respond in full to His proclamation.
 
Tarpeian_Rock said:
Sorry, but I see none of these as exclusively Catholic-marrying-Catholic things. And some are downright insulting. A child of a “mixed marriage” WON’T know who they are or why they’re here? Please. A marriage has to be Catholic-Catholic in order for the marriage commitment “to be taken seriously?” Very offensive. And if one’s Catholic bride is from the other side of the country, and the wedding is in her family parish, it very much becomes a “destination wedding.” You need to re-think these.
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Yes, I’d say my husband and I have all these things. 👍

I’ll admit, are marriage isn’t perfect, but I have siblings who are married and both spouses Catholic; their marriage isn’t perfect either. In fact, they would probably say I have it the easiest in our husband/wife relationship of all our six siblings.
 
Even_Keal said:
Thank you. This is not intended to offend. I appreciate all (name removed by moderator)ut. I hope we can do it in a productive and charitable way. I should have indicated this is a “work in progress.”

There is a crisis in the Church. There is a marked retreat from marriage. Our children are demanding “why” they should follow, what they perceive as old, and dated “traditions”. Even our culture’s emphasis on selling “destination weddings” and “packaged weddings (ceremonies and receptions, all in one place)” is fueling this unfortunate trend.

We need to be alive in our response to Christ’s teaching on the indissolubility of marriage. (Luke 16:18; cf. Mark 10:11–12)

A sacramental marriage in the Church Jesus founded is how we, as Catholics, respond in full to His proclamation.
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I can appreciate where you are coming from. A sacramental wedding is very important. My husband and I had one even though he is not Catholic.

It is very important to teach our children how important marriage and family are. My husband believes this also. In fact the main reason I married him is because of his deep faith and commitment to God, and his family. I knew he would help me teach these values to our children. Just as there are Catholics that don’t share these values, there are also non-Catholics that do.
 
Sadly, item 6 is not per se true.

And with the exception of item 7, this list could hold for any Christian marriage.

ICXC NIKA
 
1Lord1Faith said:
Then maybe some of us can help with Even Keal’s list

How about:
Access to Catholic programs like “Marriage Encounter”
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Are these only open to couples where both spouses are Catholic? My husband has gone with me to Catholic programs before. We haven’t been to the Marriage Encounter program, but I would assume we could take advantage of it if we chose to.

He goes to Mass with me every Sunday, and even a lot of Holy Days and other days such as Ash Wednesday.

We also attend his Sunday morning service together every Sunday.
 
I just realized this thread was supposed to be titled “Top 10 Reasons to Marry within the Catholic Church”. - Not to be confused with “Top 10 reasons to marry a Catholic” or anything like that.

Also – It was supposed to be posted in the Sacraments and Liturgy forum.

I apologize for ruffling any feathers! I know the title and intent probably came across as arrogant.
 
Even_Keal said:
I just realized this thread was supposed to be titled “Top 10 Reasons to Marry within the Catholic Church”. - Not to be confused with “Top 10 reasons to marry a Catholic” or anything like that.

Also – It was supposed to be posted in the Sacraments and Liturgy forum.

I apologize for ruffling any feathers! I know the title and intent probably came across as arrogant.
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That’s alright. It’s great to see people care about the Faith and family!! 👍

I would just love it if faithful Christians of all denominations would start to listen to one another and come closer together. We would have a better chance at saving our society if we weren’t so divided. IMO
 
10gr8kids said:
I would just love it if faithful Christians of all denominations would start to listen to one another and come closer together. We would have a better chance at saving our society if we weren’t so divided. IMO
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I wholeheartedly agree! Thank you for your response.

My wife was Protestant when we married. As a cradle Catholic, I actually enjoyed having some type of bond with a more “evangelical” spirituality.

Once we had children and we decided to sent them to CCD, my wife was then drawn to convert to Catholicism. She will be the first to admit that it truly opened her up to her spirituality and to the fullness of Jesus Christ. We will always have a love and respect for our non-Catholic brothers and sisters who are seeking the Lord!

But that said…our Catholic faith is a large part of what helps us through the hard times, and also what helps us recognize and treasure the truly good times!

Thank you for your understanding!
 
I am glad you clarified the title. When I first read this, it compelled me to tell a story…I would still like to share my story but now I can give it in a different context:

I am a cradle Catholic and met a woman who was “unchurched” but I knew she was the person for me (you just know). Her parents were divorced…mom was Jewish and her dad was Presbyterian, but there was no faith background. I knew I would marry her, but kept thinking "oh boy, this will be a fun one to explain to my parents…and hers!

We married in the Catholic church (so it was not sacramental because she was not baptized). The priest who married us became our closest friend. My wife converted to Catholicism several years later (no pressure by me…it was her decision after our second child was born).

She works for the church now. We have 3 children, who all are being raised Catholic, are very active in the church, and take their faith very seriously.She is active in 3 different Catholic schools that my children attend. Both of us direct the liturgy and environment for our church.

We are celebrating our 20th anniversary this year. Although I consider myself a devout and active Catholic, as I look at my own shortcomings and look at my wife, I find that she is a better Catholic than I could ever hope to be (but I am trying). She has helped me become a better Catholic than I ever could have become without her.
 
Even_Keal said:
Top 10 Reasons to Marry Catholic


  1. *]You’ll be better prepared for the daily joys and struggles of married life. How?
    *]Your love story will take on cosmic meaning – the newest chapter in God’s salvation history. What does this mean and why is it important?
    *]Your children will know who they are, where they came from, and why they’re here.I can give you examples of Catholics who don’t know and non-religious people who do
    *]Your friends and family will thank you – no huge expense for a destination wedding.What Tarpeian Rock said.
    *]Your wedding ceremony will be beautiful and sacred, rain or shine. Are you saying there aren’t any Catholic bridezillas or groomzillas? Other than that it suggests that anyone other than Catholics are shallow in their approach to their wedding day.
    *]You’ll have an ever-present (24-7) spiritual and social support system from your parish community.Heh. Right.
    *]You’ll be part of the world’s greatest social justice network – 1.2 billion Catholics worldwideMayyybe.
    *]You’ll both take your marriage commitment seriously – the most important job you’ll ever have. There is an atheist on this board who along with their spouse approach their marriage in ways that are in sync with Catholic teaching but without the fanciful idea that somehow a church wedding and using NFP with inoculate their marriage against divorce or difficulties. I read too many single or single and engaged who post as though wearing a modest wedding dress or not using birth control and “doing everything right” will result in them having the godliest marriage ever.
    *]You’ll be a model for others – people will sense God’s presence in your relationship. Hmm, not necessarily.
    *]You’ll be true soul mates – “Two Shall Become One.”This should be true of any sacremental marraige and one doesn’t have to be Catholic for that, just Christian.
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Even_Keal said:
Top 10 Reasons to Marry Catholic


  1. *]You’ll be better prepared for the daily joys and struggles of married life.
    *]Your love story will take on cosmic meaning – the newest chapter in God’s salvation history.
    *]Your children will know who they are, where they came from, and why they’re here.
    *]Your friends and family will thank you – no huge expense for a destination wedding.
    *]Your wedding ceremony will be beautiful and sacred, rain or shine.
    *]You’ll have an ever-present (24-7) spiritual and social support system from your parish community.
    *]You’ll be part of the world’s greatest social justice network – 1.2 billion Catholics worldwide
    *]You’ll both take your marriage commitment seriously – the most important job you’ll ever have.
    *]You’ll be a model for others – people will sense God’s presence in your relationship.
    *]You’ll be true soul mates – “Two Shall Become One.”
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    1. Not necessarily true. In fact plenty of non-Catholic and non-religious couples are plenty prepared for marriage before hand. And conversely plenty of Catholic marriages fail in large part because the couples were unprepared.
    2. Plenty of non-Catholic marriages, particularly Christians ones, are part of God’s salvation history, particularly if you don’t subscribe to the idea that only those in the RCC are saved.
    3. As will children of many parents, be they Christian or not. Being Catholic does not have an exclusive claim to this. My own daughter will know who she is, where she came from and why she’s here, and my wife and I are civilly married in what the RCC would view as an invalid marriage.
    4. Many Catholic weddings are destination weddings. And plenty of non-Catholic weddings are similarly local. My own wedding would have been a destination wedding regardless of if I held it local or where we ultimately did.
    5. My own wedding was beautiful and sacred, both shine and freak late season snow storm. In fact it was more so for it.
    6. Indeed I do, but again, not a Catholic specific thing.
    7. Not sure what being part of a large social justice network necessarily has to do with marriage. Feel free to elaborate on this one.
    8. Can tell you from experience that marriage is taken very seriously in our household. And many others I know are similarly serious about the commitment, being Catholic is not required for this one. And being Catholic in no way assures marriage is taken seriously, again speaking form experience.
    9. Again, not a Catholic specific trait, or even necessarily true. Plenty of Catholic marriages fail and are anything but examples for others.
    10. This is again, not specifically Catholic, nor even true.
 
Padres1969 said:
  1. Not necessarily true. In fact plenty of non-Catholic and non-religious couples are plenty prepared for marriage before hand. And conversely plenty of Catholic marriages fail in large part because the couples were unprepared.
  2. Plenty of non-Catholic marriages, particularly Christians ones, are part of God’s salvation history, particularly if you don’t subscribe to the idea that only those in the RCC are saved.
  3. As will children of many parents, be they Christian or not. Being Catholic does not have an exclusive claim to this. My own daughter will know who she is, where she came from and why she’s here, and my wife and I are civilly married in what the RCC would view as an invalid marriage.
  4. Many Catholic weddings are destination weddings. And plenty of non-Catholic weddings are similarly local. My own wedding would have been a destination wedding regardless of if I held it local or where we ultimately did.
  5. My own wedding was beautiful and sacred, both shine and freak late season snow storm. In fact it was more so for it.
  6. Indeed I do, but again, not a Catholic specific thing.
  7. Not sure what being part of a large social justice network necessarily has to do with marriage. Feel free to elaborate on this one.
  8. Can tell you from experience that marriage is taken very seriously in our household. And many others I know are similarly serious about the commitment, being Catholic is not required for this one. And being Catholic in no way assures marriage is taken seriously, again speaking form experience.
  9. Again, not a Catholic specific trait, or even necessarily true. Plenty of Catholic marriages fail and are anything but examples for others.
  10. This is again, not specifically Catholic, nor even true.
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The OP is referring to Catholics that marry outside the Church.
 
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