Fasting and abstinance can have more than one meaning. I mean, when I hear abstinance, the first thing I think of is sex, not meat as it means when we refer to abstaining on Fridays.
Lent IS a time of reflection and spiritual seeking. Jesus spent 40 days and 40 nights alone in the desert reflecting and spiritual seeking. We reflect by chosing worldly things that effect us most and giving them up. There is no rule about what you have to give up (other than abstaining from meat on Fridays). You don’t HAVE to give up dancing for Lent. There is no rule about that. I haven’t gone out dancing for years, so that wouldn’t really be a sacrifice for me. On the other hand, how much time do I spend playing computer games? Now I use that time for other things, like prayer or spending more time with family and friends.
The idea of not celebrating during Lent is that it is the precursor to the death of Jesus. So by all means, this shouldn’t be the happiest time of the year. It is a solomn time. But that doesn’t mean we have to go around moping and laughing is forbidden. On the contrary, the Bible says to not let on that you’re fasting and making sacrifices. I know people who have birthdays during Lent and they still get to have parties and eat cake and ice cream (as long as they didn’t give that up for Lent!)
Plus, and don’t take this the wrong way, it isn’t our job to go around deciding if people are doing enough Lenten reflection and sacrifice. Yes, we all really should work hard at this, but there’s simply no forcing people to spend more time on their faith. And by worrying about what others are doing, you waste a lot of time worrying over something you can’t change. Instead of getting upset over it, pray for people you think need a better understanding of their faith.
Wow! Such good advice, you’d think I’d be taking it myself!
Still working on that whole perfection thing.