Transgender relations?

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Hey everyone, so Ive fallen for this guy recently, and something has told me their the one. We havent started dating yet but Ive recently found out they were a FTM (Female to Male Transgender). I have always seen them as a man and perceived myself as a straight woman, but I wonder, does this make me lesbian and therefore sinful? I still have feelings for them and they said that mentally they are a man but not biogically. So any advice on what to do?
 
May I ask your age? Teen, 20’s,30’s,etc…
Also, how long have you known this person?
 
You are a minor and shouldn’t be seeking the council of strangers on the internet. Talk to your parents, a guidance counselor, a priest or any other trusted adult in your life. They will be better able to help you. I noticed on another thread you struggle with intrusive thoughts. I would mention that as well. God bless.
 
He is not the one. You aren’t even dating, nor should you date him.
 
Okay, I’ll try to work up the courage to ask my parents, thank you for the advice. Anyways, last question, would you think we could still be friends? They are a great person personality wise. Taking what the other poster said to mind I would try to cease my feelings.
 
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Just based on your post history I would say no. Not trying to disparage you but I don’t think you have the maturity to distinguish between feelings of friendship and feelings of love. You’ve only known the person for a few months, haven’t dated, yet you think they are the one. Talk to your parents. I’m sure they love you and will understand.
 
Okay thank you, I know it’s going to be hard but it’s for the best I guess.
 
No, this does not make you a lesbian. Furthermore, merely being attracted to someone who presents themself as a female is not sinful. Engaging in a sexual or romantic relationship with a female is sinful. However, this person is clearly not “the one”. It’s really unlikely that you are going to find “the one” as a teenager. Even if you were fortunate enough to come across the person that is to be “the one” this early in life, they aren’t “the one” yet and won’t be ready to be “the one” for you for some time. What you need to do now is discern how close of a friendship is appropriate to keep with this person at this time. I advise you to consult your parents or a trusted counselor on that subject as they know you personally and care about your well-being.
 
So would you say merely being a person who I joke around with is fine? And yea I guess your right lol, probably some teenage crush.
 
Typically, yes. The issue is that you’ve currently got a crush going on and that complicates things, at least for a time. That’s why I recommend talking about it with someone you know and trust.
 
so when i eventually get over my feelings it will be fine for me to be friends with them, and yes i will talk to some trusted adults, thank you for your answer.
 
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