Travelling with male friend?

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I am female and looking at taking a trip if travelling with a male friend. Would it be ok for us if we rented an apartment to stay at during a trip? We would obviously have completely separate bedrooms. He is not Catholic. I wanted to see what your advice would be?
 
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I think my opinion would depend on your age, and the kind of relationship it is. In some ways, it wouldn’t be any different than you staying in the same hotel in separate rooms.
 
I am 27, he is 30.

As long as we have separate bedrooms and stay privately when it comes to sleeping, whether in hotel or apartment, would that be ok?
 
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Well, you are certainly old enough. 😉
Is this relationship one where either of you are attracted to each other? If so, it could be a problem, but not necessarily so. No more than getting together at home.
 
At age 27 and 30, I would hope you are mature enough to stay in a shared accommodation with separate rooms, same as if you had a house-sharing/ roommates arrangement where people each had their own bedroom and then shared a common living space. Assuming that this isn’t going to be an occasion of sin for either one of you, and that you know the man well enough to know that he won’t try to take advantage of you, I’m not seeing a problem with it.
 
Wait for it though. Someone is bound to tell you it is always wrong. It will only be for you to decide by weighing many factors.
 
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Wait for it though. Someone is bound to tell you it is always wrong.
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This is true. Different people tend to see this issue differently, depending on their own culture, life experience and how they were raised. I spent years living in co-ed dorms, so the idea of having men living in proximity with their own bedrooms wasn’t a big deal to me.

Speaking for myself, if I personally did not know the man very, very well, I would be more concerned with how he would behave when the two of us were there all alone. As in, would I be putting myself at risk of sexual assault. I did have male friends who were very trustworthy in that regard, but there were other men I would not have trusted.
 
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_Abyssinia said:
I am female and looking at taking a trip if travelling with a male friend. Would it be ok for us if we rented an apartment to stay at during a trip? We would obviously have completely separate bedrooms. He is not Catholic. I wanted to see what your advice would be?
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Nothing wrong if nothing wrong goes down
 
At your age, why do you need the opinions of strangers on the internet on this topic?
 
Does it matter what age I am? Regardless of age people often need advice on this issue or that and I wanted to see what other catholics have to say because I don’t really have a Catholic I can go to in person to ask for such advice.
 
Aside from the issue of temptation, which is kinda up to you to discern, there is a possibility of scandal. It may not apply if you’re only staying somewhere temporarily though.
 
I don’t really see the difference between this and staying in two rooms at the same hotel.
 
How well do you know him? I guess you trust him or you wouldn’t even be considering this.

Have you seen the movie “When Harry met Sally”? There’s a little truth to that movie, but I guess everyone’s mileage may vary. I suppose in today’s ‘Me Too’ environment the character Harry might be labeled as a throwback by the media. I don’t remember if by the end of the movie he changes his opinion about platonic friendships.
 
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