Trouble finding purpose, wanting ordinary life?

[abbap]

Hello all,

Lately I’ve been really questioning myself if living an ordinary life is all God wants from me…?
I see so many people who are passionate about their jobs or career, but I haven’t found that - in fact, I haven’t really felt “fulfilled” in my “earthly” life, if you will. And seeing these motivated people makes me desire that, but I don’t know how to get there or find it. In recent years/months, I feel I’ve grown much spiritually and I know God is the fulfillment of all desire, but is it wrong to only seek to advance spiritually and not professionally in life? I went to school for graphic design (I do enjoy it) and currently work full time in the field, but I don’t feel I’m motivated to continue doing this forever. I think I have a desire to just be a good mother and wife, helping my future husband raise a good Catholic family.

So is it wrong to really only want to just grow spiritually and advance in virtue, and not necessarily in the worldly life? (not that I don’t do my part and live according to my state in life…and not that I don’t enjoy things of this life - it’s just not what truly drives me, ya know?) Sorry if this doesn’t make sense. I guess I’ve just been struggling to find my place in life. I suppose God knows the cries of my heart and will lead me, as I am open to what He wants from me, because quite frankly, I feel lost.

Pax.

 

[dollysro]

This book is amazing, I heard the author speak and it all makes so much sense. Hope it helps http://www.dungbeetle.org/the-book/

 

[Gabika50]

I joined the military- it was a great discernment opportunity and a time of spiritual growth.

 

[nadal]

I don’t think it’s wrong to not pursue success in your career. Raising a godly family is actually quite a good goal. And if you look for some purpose: There are so many needs in this world and filling those can make your life more purposeful. And Jesus told us to spread the Gospel and make disciples. We can do that anywhere.

 

[Bataar]

I’m in the same boat. Life just seems pointless. I have no real hopes, goals or passions.

 

[Elizabeth3]

So is it wrong to really only want to just grow spiritually and advance in virtue, and not necessarily in the worldly life?

No. This is not wrong. If you grow spiritually and advance in virtue it will have an impact on your worldly life as well. It will help to inform decisions you make in your temporal life. You will have integrity in the work you do because you will be motivated by something much more than fulfillment in a career. It’s ok to not want to strive for career success. There’s only so much room at the top of any organization anyway and most people spend their lives on the bottom to middle career rungs.

I think I have a desire to just be a good mother and wife, helping my future husband raise a good Catholic family.

This is a fine ambition. Marriage and raising a family may be ordinary but that doesn’t mean there aren’t many ways to be fulfilled and challenged and to find growth in that life path. JPII said the family is the school of love. Don’t listen to the world which devalues family as not as important as a career. Perhaps it’s not that you lack any motivation at all. It’s that you find a lack of motivation to dedicate your life to a career and job success. So what? If you have a passion and desire for marriage and family, make a plan to order your life in a way that will help facilitate that happening for you. God bless!