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Though I was not privy to what went on between my parents, I do not how it felt to is essence be termed a bastard following the annulment granted by the church.
It is interesting to note that my father went on to divorce his second wife, but finally wound up with a good match his third time around.
To this day, my mom has never married another man.
My feeling is that marriage is for life.
Annulment after 25 years of marriage seems wrong to me.
I suppose we all are entitled to our opinions over how the church handles things.
 
Marriage is to last until death.

By any chance, did you have any information as to the reasons for the annulment of their marriage?
 
Reuben_J said:
Marriage is to last until death.

By any chance, did you have any information as to the reasons for the annulment of their marriage?
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There is no reason to ask her that, and no reason any of us need to know the reason.
 
I know. It is a response to her post. I just want to maybe explain to her that annulment usually due to defects in the reasons for the marriage in the first place and that marriage is to last.

Sorry. I guess I didn’t read the earlier discussion.
 
The church did not call you a bastard child. Your parents were married. The church never said they were never married. You were never illegitimate.

I am sorry this has bothered you for so many years, but I think this is a a common misunderstanding from years ago.
 
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Though I was not privy to what went on between my parents, I do not how it felt to is essence be termed a bastard following the annulment granted by the church.
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But you aren’t termed any such thing! The annulment was a determination that no sacramental marriage existed; it doesn’t affect the legality of the marriage. And legitimacy simply means that your parents were legally married at the time of your birth.

I don’t know enough to say much more than that, but since it bothers you, I’d suggest speaking to a priest about it. He could no doubt explain better than I, and set your heart at rest.
 
You are misinformed. Annulments to not make anyone a bastard.
That is a huge misconception.
The ruling is in regard to the validity of the marriage not the ensuing offspring.
You are not viewed as a bastard by the Church
 
I think previous posters have explained things well. My sons are not bastards, even though my first attempt at marriage was annulled. Neither are you; and of course, the church would not have granted an annullment if one or both of your parents had not wanted it.
I am still nervous before confessions even though I try to go every couple of months, so I know how you feel, But you will feel good afterwards. I recommend you make an appointment with the priest so you don’t feel rushed. It’s tough when there are six people still in line and the priest has to leave in ten minutes!
 
Hello.

Very glad you posted. Just go to Confession. Or make an appointment with a good, holy priest. Just go. Be the Nike shoe and just go. All the angels will be rejoicing in heaven.

You are in my prayers. Please pray for me.
 
How can a marriage of 25 years be annulled?
If I was not conceived by two loving, married people, how can I not be a bastard child? If the marriage was not valid, then I am not legitimate.
I do not believe in the church’s authority to severe a marriage through this annulment thing.
What God has joined together, let no man separate.
Yes, I do have a problem with the church’s annulment thing. It is wrong!
 
Because legitimacy is a question of State not Church. The Sacramental marriage was annulled. The Church does not say that children of marriages that are annulled are illegitimate!
 
I want to place God in the center of my life for whatever life I have left to live on this earth.
It is time for me to do what God wants, not what I think I want.
With your prayers and God’s grace, I will get things going in the correct direction.
 
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