Here’s part of what’s posted on the US conference of bishops.
Any number of morally acceptable interventions may be used to overcome infertility. For example, surgery can overcome tubal blockages in the male or female reproductive system which prevent fertilization from taking place. Fertility drugs may also be used, with the caution that large multiple pregnancies may put mother and infants at risk. There are also many ways of tracking natural reproductive rhythms to enhance the chances for achieving pregnancy. The Pope Paul VI Institute at Creighton University in Omaha, Nebraska has been successful in helping couples overcome infertility using natural methods.
Most theologians consider the procedure known as LTOT, or Lower Tubal Ovum Transfer, to be morally acceptable. This involves transferring the wife’s egg beyond a blockage in the fallopian tube so that marital relations can result in pregnancy. Another method, more morally controversial, is called GIFT, or Gamete Intra-Fallopian Transfer. It involves obtaining a husband’s sperm following marital relations and aspirating an egg from the wife’s ovary. Egg and sperm are placed in a tiny tube separated by an air bubble, and the contents of the tube are then injected into the wife’s fallopian tube with the hope that fertilization will occur. Some theologians consider this to be a replacement of the marital act, and therefore immoral. Other theologians see it as assisting the marital act, and therefore permissible. Because the teaching authorities of the Church—the Pope and bishops—have not made a judgment about GIFT, Catholic couples are free to choose it or reject it depending on the guidance of their own conscience. If the teaching authority of the Church should judge the procedure to be immoral, however, GIFT should no longer be used.
The article is: Begotten not made: A Catholic view of reproductive Technology by John M. Haas, Ph.D., S.T.L. He is President of the National Catholic Bioethics Center, Boston, Massachusetts and a consultant to the NCCB Committee for Pro-Life Activites.
Hope this info is helpful. I too stuggled with infertility. We have one bio son and one adopted son. We hope to have another adopted son in the new year.
Infertility is heart breaking. People who have not experienced this condition do not understand what it is like. Everyone seems to have some unfounded advice on how you can get pregnant. I would suggest you let most of it go in one ear and out the other.
I found through prayer that I was best able to find out which direction God wanted me to go. With our bio son I got pregnant the last time we were going to try. I knew exactly when it was time to stop trying to have another bio child and to consider adoption. I know with complete certainty that we have the children God has intended for us. I believe the next one will also be chosen by God for our family.
May God guide your decisions.
If you get to the point where you’ve decided on adoption, I would suggest you read “Adopting after Infertility” by Patricia Irwin Johnston.
Thanks