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I posted this on another site and would like to also request your advice:
How do we work for unity in the Church when some who disagree with Catholic moral teaching still consider themselves good Catholics?
I regularly attend daily Mass at my parish and meet for fellowship and coffee after Mass. During the past election, I was dismayed that about half of those who meet after daily Mass not only planned to vote for candidates who they knew supported abortion, but more importantly felt that abortion should remain legal. Even one of our priests who occasionally joins us for coffee complained that many people who want to make abortion illegal don’t care about what happens to those who give birth in poor conditions or to infants with severe handicaps. Although his statement could have been taken in different ways and doesn’t necessarily mean he agrees that abortion should be legal, one of the abortion supporters piped in: “Yes, there are gray areas”. Our priest offered no clarification.
Exchanging niceties around the coffee table and discussing the weather or the local sports team now seems like a superficial way to pretend we are united. I now only occasionally meet in the back room for coffee. Although I still go to daily Mass, I go less frequently than I used to and no longer find the companionship enjoyable. Part of the reason I don’t go as often as I used to is because I am trying to find a balance where I can also exercise a few times during the week. But part of the reason is also that I want them to know that their beliefs, words, and actions have been damaging. I pray for them and in my heart I am still able to love them, although in a much more sorrowful way. I am also willing to forgive and am open to the possibility that some have asked for forgiveness in the sacrament of reconciliation, but strong statements made in the past make me believe that genuine sorrow is not a high probability. How can I forgive them if I don’t even know if they’re sorry? Is there any point in forgiving them in my heart if I don’t know if they’re even sorry?
I am confused as to whether I am behaving rightly or if I have been wrong in withdrawing. What is the proper way to be charitable? I feel like I am betraying the many unborn who have died and continue to die by acting as if this serious difference has had no effect on our fellowship, yet there are only so many times I can bring up the issue and beat my head against a brick wall. I am saddened and frustrated and feel like it’s time to shake the dust from my sandals in protest against them, although I’m not even sure the right way to do that. I don’t know how to act towards these Catholics who have openly expressed extremely anti-Catholic beliefs.
How do we work for unity in the Church when some who disagree with Catholic moral teaching still consider themselves good Catholics?
I regularly attend daily Mass at my parish and meet for fellowship and coffee after Mass. During the past election, I was dismayed that about half of those who meet after daily Mass not only planned to vote for candidates who they knew supported abortion, but more importantly felt that abortion should remain legal. Even one of our priests who occasionally joins us for coffee complained that many people who want to make abortion illegal don’t care about what happens to those who give birth in poor conditions or to infants with severe handicaps. Although his statement could have been taken in different ways and doesn’t necessarily mean he agrees that abortion should be legal, one of the abortion supporters piped in: “Yes, there are gray areas”. Our priest offered no clarification.
Exchanging niceties around the coffee table and discussing the weather or the local sports team now seems like a superficial way to pretend we are united. I now only occasionally meet in the back room for coffee. Although I still go to daily Mass, I go less frequently than I used to and no longer find the companionship enjoyable. Part of the reason I don’t go as often as I used to is because I am trying to find a balance where I can also exercise a few times during the week. But part of the reason is also that I want them to know that their beliefs, words, and actions have been damaging. I pray for them and in my heart I am still able to love them, although in a much more sorrowful way. I am also willing to forgive and am open to the possibility that some have asked for forgiveness in the sacrament of reconciliation, but strong statements made in the past make me believe that genuine sorrow is not a high probability. How can I forgive them if I don’t even know if they’re sorry? Is there any point in forgiving them in my heart if I don’t know if they’re even sorry?
I am confused as to whether I am behaving rightly or if I have been wrong in withdrawing. What is the proper way to be charitable? I feel like I am betraying the many unborn who have died and continue to die by acting as if this serious difference has had no effect on our fellowship, yet there are only so many times I can bring up the issue and beat my head against a brick wall. I am saddened and frustrated and feel like it’s time to shake the dust from my sandals in protest against them, although I’m not even sure the right way to do that. I don’t know how to act towards these Catholics who have openly expressed extremely anti-Catholic beliefs.