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My Cousin is getting married in November, she is not a Catholic, neither is her Fiance. They are having a service at a hotel followed by a reception. Is it appropriate for me to attend this wedding since it is not in a Catholic Church?
 
I really believe that if you like your cousin and have always been on good terms with her, then go. I’ve been to all sorts of weddings; different religions, no religion… if you want the relationship to move forward (and even witness to your cousin someday about Christ and the Church), then go to the wedding with a happy heart.

The only reason why I’d recommend you not going is because you believe that her choice of spouse is a very bad decision and you feel that you can’t support the marriage in any way, even by attending the wedding.

Is there any other information that you’d care to add?
 
Since neither the bride nor the groom is Catholic. I see no reason to not go.
IMHO, I would go.
 
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Cupofkindness:
I really believe that if you like your cousin and have always been on good terms with her, then go. I’ve been to all sorts of weddings; different religions, no religion… if you want the relationship to move forward (and even witness to your cousin someday about Christ and the Church), then go to the wedding with a happy heart.

The only reason why I’d recommend you not going is because you believe that her choice of spouse is a very bad decision and you feel that you can’t support the marriage in any way, even by attending the wedding.

Is there any other information that you’d care to add?
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Thanks, No I dont have a problem with her choice of spouse. I thought it would be a good idea to go but want to make sure that I’m not doing anything against my faith as a Catholic.
 
Why don’t you post this on a forum that is moderated by a priest, just so that you have the peace of mind knowing that you can go in good conscience?
 
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Cupofkindness:
Why don’t you post this on a forum that is moderated by a priest, just so that you have the peace of mind knowing that you can go in good conscience?
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I did also post this on the Ask an Apologist forum. They are slower to respond so I’ll wait patiently for their response.
 
If none of them currently are Catholic- or are ‘fallen away’ Catholics, then I see no reason not to attend :).
 
At the risk of stating the obvious, only Catholics are obligated to observe the “Catholic form” of marriage. Marriage pre-dates Christianity, although Christ has elevated it to the dignity of a sacrament.

If two Jews, two Moslems, two atheists, whatever, get married in their appropriate venue, it is still a valid, albeit non-sacramental marriage. I guess I’m a little lost as to what the concern here would be. I’m always somewhat fascinated to see the differences in wedding customs among non-Catholics.
 
if neither party is Catholic, why would they get married in a Catholic church? they are not bound by marriage laws that bind Catholics so you are free to attend, assuming they are both free to marry and there is nothing objectionable about the ceremony or the locale, i.e. DD got invited to a wedding of HS friends held at a local strip club where one of them worked. Needless to say we sent a card and did not attend the wedding.
 
As previous poster have said, as long as both parties are non-Catholic, there’s no problem with attending. Years ago, I was even a bridesmaid for a non-Catholic friend of mine who got married in a Methodist service. I got permission first from my confessor.
 
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Cupofkindness:
Why don’t you post this on a forum that is moderated by a priest, just so that you have the peace of mind knowing that you can go in good conscience?
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My response fro Ask an Apologist was that it is ok to go as long as both are non-Catholics.
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Me and my husband were both baptised in the catholic church, our son too, but due to the usual fast pace of life then and our immaturity plus we did not have the financial capacity to do a church wedding we opted for a Civil wedding in the city hall with the promise of a church wedding . We just recently celebrated our 7th year anniversary and so far we still haven’t gotten around to a church wedding, but I am really looking forward for a church wedding on our 10th year anniversary, do we do a renewal of vows? a blessing of marriage? what kind of ceremony do we need to prepare for? Please advise me on this one we are really a blessed couple because the years that we had together strengthened our love and feelings for each other and we would like the church to be a part of our bond.
 
don’t wait to have your marriage blessed by the church, it is a fairly straightforward process (assuming neither of you has ever been married before). If you wait for an artificial date like your anniversary, you will be waiting forever, and shutting yourself off from the immense graces of the sacrament of matrimony Jesus is waiting to pour down upon you and your family. Please call your pastor today and get moving on this. Also, don’t wait on the convenience of your family, date for renting a hall etc., that is not important. You can have your celebration anytime, but you don’t want to spend a minute longer than you have to separated from Jesus in the sacraments.

You typically will meet with the priest or deacon who prepares couples for marriage for pastoral counselling and practical details. You will be guided on how to return to confession, since you need to be in the state of grace for the sacrament of matrimony. Your diocese may have a special retreat for couples such as yourselves (you are not alone, many are in your circumstances, don’t be shy). You can have a ceremony as elaborate or simple as you want, usually a liturgy of the Word (you can choose from among approved scripture readings) and the exchange of vows and blessing in church, by priest or deacon, in front of witnesses you choose. Allow about 6 months, but it can be sooner.

If either of you has not made 1st communion or confirmation, that is not a barrier, you can begin preparing for those sacraments now, and receive them when your marriage has been convalidated.

Please see your pastor today, 3 years is too long to wait, Marriage is tough enough without the graces of this beautiful sacrament to help you, bring Christ into the heart of your family as soon as possible. Welcome home.
 
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bambi:
plus we did not have the financial capacity to do a church wedding we opted for a Civil wedding in the city hall with the promise of a church wedding . .
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forgot to say, for other couples contemplating marriage, that financial capacity is no limit to having a Church wedding, if a couple wishes to marry in their parish Church the fee for use of the church can be waived in case of true necessity, and in any case is much less than any of the other typical wedding expenses. The rest of it–dress, tuxedo, hall, band, big dinner are not necessary and no reason to delay a sacrament.
 
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