Update on closed son bullying thread

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First, it’s my son’s disposition to want to know details because he has Aspergers, and that is how it presents in him. We talked to him about not asking any questions. If brought up, he rejects info. If he inquires, phone gets taken away.

Friends were telling him how much it hurt them to hear the rumors. So, I called the friends and parents and asked them not to talk about this with son. Since many kids don’t tell their parents this stuff, they were clueless.

Our fault for allowing son on social media. We’re talking 15-16 year kids. That has all been shut down and husband monitors text messages.

The one girl has a horrible home life because dad wants here to be an elite athlete.

The second girl was told by son’s buddies that she is trouble and oversexed. These are guys who knew her.

We are desperately trying to find a Catholic therapist for my son. His previous therapist actually told him to be “less chaste.” He has no interest in girls other than friends, and no sexual interest. He wants to be an orthodox priest in a Polish orthodox order. He hates porn, doesn’t objectify girls, and is overly scrupulous. He goes to Confession every other week.

Maybe a spiritual advisor would be better. But DH and I are pulling our hair out trying to get him to forget last year. It stinks. But this is his Aspergers. Sadly, we have to parent him with this disability.

Many in our church praise him for his piety and knowledge of church law. Sadly, I think Satan tries to pull him down.

Thanks for the responses. I hope I answered everyone. And one huge difference will be youth group and hanging out with like-minded orthodox altar boys.

God bless and thank you.
 
I’m glad things seem to be improving, although I do feel like we’re starting in the middle of the story here…
 
In a nutshell, there were 3 girls…2 very aggressive…who wanted to date my son. Son’s not interested. He has a close girl friend (not girlfriend) who he would date if interested. He’s been discerning priesthood since age 10. He is now 16. Girls didn’t respect that and one of the girls started ugly rumors.

Son now in cyberschool. He gets updates from close friends, but we are shutting that down.

He really needs a Catholic therapist.
 
I think the thread got closed because eventually it got derailed to the Pennsylvania scandals which is not the OP’s fault nor intent. I also read some very presumptive comments to her own sanity which might have fired up the thread. But these are derailments to the storyline.
The OP is just spilling things out because of her stressful situation. I pray people will respect this and not bring politics into her new thread again.
 
Thank you @Mary888. I assure you and everyone else that my son’s experiences were investigated by the police and found to be credible. We also captured Internet evidence of such things being said about my son.

Sadly, the Grand Jury report will take precedent. I have told my son to refrain from saying he wants to be a priest. I am too afraid of the consequences.

Throughout my son’s freshman year, I was recovering from a traumatic (doctor’s words, not mine) leg injury, the loss of my mom, and these horrible rumors that, thankfully, the police followed up on after my son was punched. Kids started talking and showing texts or Instagram messages. One girl’s house is under surveillance because of her knowledge of ISIS statements. The officer told my son who to avoid, and he was happy to hear that my son is being cyberschooled.

Thank you for your kind response.
 
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The one girl has a horrible home life because dad wants here to be an elite athlete.

The second girl was told by son’s buddies that she is trouble and oversexed. These are guys who knew her.
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stop assuming about these girls and running these girls down.

A girl was told by your son’s friends that she is trouble and is over sexed. Thats bullying. Here you are talking about bullying on a bullying thread. You are the adult. You get to tell people to stop bullying, and talking badly about others.

Maybe if more love was shown , things would be different.
In any case gossip about the first girls home life and bullying the second girl are

not what the catholic church preaches.

Stop condoning it in any form.

you cannot get your son to forget last year, while you are still remembering and posting about it. Lead by example. Forget it yourself.

satan tries to pull us all down, your son is just one of the unwashed masses of all humanity in that respect. As Pope Francis says, Don’t dialogue with the devil.

put your foot down on speaking of these girls or allowing anyone to run them down. Be that example.
 
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We are. We are looking for suggestions for a Catholic therapist,

I am not making accusations. I am trying to explain what my special needs son needs.

Walk a mile in my shoes and you may better understand.
 
Thank you for giving a clear picture, prayers continuing :pray:t2:
 
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Who I am gossiping to? Nobody who knows these girls here. I am trying to paint a picture of how dire these girls are and get advice for a Catholic counselor. Tell me what to do better.
 
You have been trying for 6 months to stop talking about these poor girls? Then I would suggest you find a qualified Mental Health expert whether they are Catholic or not.
 
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I will ask the moderators to close the thread and remove it. It sounds like people are more concerned about them than the welfare of my son. Sad.
 
My son has gone to one for years because of his learning differences. Working with spectrum kids is hard work. We’ve done our part.
 
I am on the spectrum and I work with kids on the spectrum. Nice try.
 
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