Urgency In correcting someone

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Say I want to admonish someone for something that is grave matter. The person in question does not know that what they are doing is grave. What is the prudent thing to do; Inform them right away or wait untill the time is right?

If I inform them when the time is not right, they may be less inclined to listen.

If I do not do it right away they may commit the sin again.
 
I don’t know if you telling them is a wise decision. Ultimately it’s up to God. If it is someone close to you, let them know that you are concerned about something. Try to make sure there aren’t anybody else nearby. You don’t want to advertise the issue. Otherwise, silence may be the best thing you can do.
 
I think that if you are willing to help this person (and it sounds like you are), and you are able to talk to this person in a private manner, I would say do it. Be prepared that the person may reject the idea, but I think it can be a disservice to the person to let them risk their eternal soul because of silence. It can be as simple as, “Hey, you know what? I was reading ___ blank the other day, and I learned ___ isn’t what God has in His plan for us.” That can open up a dialogue on this.
 
Step 1. Find a mirror.
Step 2. Look in the mirror.
Step 3. Check for logs.
Step 4. If logs are found, remove them.
Step 5. Love your brother, and talk with them.
 
If you know someone is going to unknowingly commit a sin, you are morally obligated to inform them of the sinful nature of the act. That being said, if you wait, a sin could be on both your souls. I understand that it may be beneficial to wait for an opportune moment, but it’s probably not worth it (in case they do it again before you tell them). I strongly reccomend you talk to this person as soon as possible. However, that doesn’t mean you have to blurt it out as soon as you see them- it’s ok to use some tact.

I wish you the best in confronting this person.
 
Pete said:
Say I want to admonish someone for something that is grave matter. The person in question does not know that what they are doing is grave. What is the prudent thing to do; Inform them right away or wait untill the time is right?

If I inform them when the time is not right, they may be less inclined to listen.

If I do not do it right away they may commit the sin again.
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How do you know that the person in question does not know what they are doing is grave. If you haven’t talked to them about it then you are just making an assumption. You are assuming if they knew then they wouldn’t do it but that might not be the case.

You haven’t actually said if the person you are talking about is a Catholic or not. If they are not they probably won’t care anyway whatever you say.

If you feel inclined to talk to them it should be done privately using common sense and in a friendly and constructive manner and not in a scolding way.
 
Pete said:
Say I want to admonish someone for something that is grave matter. The person in question does not know that what they are doing is grave. What is the prudent thing to do; Inform them right away or wait untill the time is right?

If I inform them when the time is not right, they may be less inclined to listen.

If I do not do it right away they may commit the sin again.
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U can try ur best, but u cannot expect everyone to listen to u!🤷
 
I’d say tell that person, but I would be discrete and as soft as possible with the person. Because the more gentle you are with a person, the more willing to listen they become.
 
Inform them immediately in the appropriate manner. It’s a spiritual work of mercy: admonish the sinner.
 
Scottgun said:
Inform them immediately in the appropriate manner. It’s a spiritual work of mercy: admonish the sinner.
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I don’t know the answer to the dilemma, I will have to think about it some more. My question is, how does one admonish a “sinner” if that person is not aware s/he is sinning?

Not to say the unknowing/unaware person should not be told, but why call s/him a sinner?
 
I tried to be a witness to a very good friend of mine months ago b/c in the past she was moving in with each of her boyfriends and sleeping with them. She is single right now so I thought maybe my witnessing would assist her in finding what truly matters in a relationship.

I shared stuff I learned from Bible study & from what I read in articles/saw on the news in a very subtle way by emailing her as well as my other friends so we could have topics to discuss and share ideas and opinions.

My friend blew up at me claiming that she doesn’t want me to send her anything “preachy” and that no report, article, lecture, etc. is going to change her mind about how it’s wrong to live/sleep with the opposite sex.

The sad thing is that she went as far as to tell me that she doesn’t agree with the church’s theology and has left it altogether to find another religion that suits her.

We’ve been best friends since grades school and have gone through so much over the years. Now, she won’t even speak to me b/c I spoke the truth. (sigh)

I still pray for her anyway and hopefully, she will find what she is looking for.
 
Dear Crohnie4life,

I too have a similar situation, although my friend is a male relative. He invited a newly-widowed friend he had known a long many year ago to see him in another state (they had not seen each other since high school - about 30 years later). she came and moved in! :eek: When I learned of htis I sent a letter in email format to him, warning of what he was undertaking. he never acknowledged it (two years ago).

I used to ask him to marry her and he said he would ask her, but recently they have had their ‘battles’ and she appears to be someone he should not marry (many problems she has not dealt with). I thought he would tell her to move out, and he implied this, but this has not happened yet, and from another family member I learned they had patched things up. 🤷 Since he is a relative, I feel like i should pull him aside and speak to him, but he is not a communicative sort and is always hidden, if you take my meaning. I really dont’ know what would go in one ear and out the other. He says he is a Christian, but does not go to church anywhere (born Catholic).
 
By the way, there is proof of their living arrangements: they miscarried a child a few months ago. While I consoled her (and him), inwardly I prayed and continue to pray for their rapid conversion and repentance.
 
MarieCecelia said:
Dear Crohnie4life,

I too have a similar situation, although my friend is a male relative. He invited a newly-widowed friend he had known a long many year ago to see him in another state (they had not seen each other since high school - about 30 years later). she came and moved in! :eek: When I learned of htis I sent a letter in email format to him, warning of what he was undertaking. he never acknowledged it (two years ago).

I used to ask him to marry her and he said he would ask her, but recently they have had their ‘battles’ and she appears to be someone he should not marry (many problems she has not dealt with). I thought he would tell her to move out, and he implied this, but this has not happened yet, and from another family member I learned they had patched things up. 🤷 Since he is a relative, I feel like i should pull him aside and speak to him, but he is not a communicative sort and is always hidden, if you take my meaning. I really dont’ know what would go in one ear and out the other. He says he is a Christian, but does not go to church anywhere (born Catholic).
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Although you are concerned about your relative, it sounds as though he is old enough to make up his own mind. Those who have ears will hear. Apparently he doesn’t. Let it go.
 
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