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This may be a bit hard to follow, but here goes. My brother has a 13yo son who lives with him. He is not with the mother. He married a girl and they now have a son. His wife is from a large family and she has an 8yo brother.
My nephew, the 13yo was for some months performing homosexual acts on the 8yo and bullying him into reciprocating. This revelation shocked us all and meant that my nephew can never see his stepmothers family or the victim again. He has been to couselling and nothing seems to be getting any better.
The mother has had nothing to do with her son since this happened. She never showed much of an interest in her son and asked my brother to have him come live with him about 4 years ago.
She has not called or bothered to see the boy since this all came out. (She also married and had another son)
We wondered where all this came from. Maybe he was abused by the stepdad but we really dont want to accuse when we don’t know.
He had also been downloading porn at school and was in trouble for that.
Today the school rang my brother because he was caught soliciting another student for sex. Or the other student told someone. We do not know what to do… HE’S 13 YEARS OLD!!! WE JUST DON’T GET IT!!!
He told his dad that he doesn’t think he can change.
He seems to have no conscience or ability to see right from wrong. He had no remorse for what he had done the first time this all came out.
My brother and his wife are beside themselves and don’t know what to do. It seems this boy will be heading for a life of misery and/or jail if we don’t get the right help.
Please, please pray for him, for his family for us, for the victim…Any advice? Any suggestions??
 
jules11 said:
This may be a bit hard to follow, but here goes. My brother has a 13yo son who lives with him. He is not with the mother. He married a girl and they now have a son. His wife is from a large family and she has an 8yo brother.
My nephew, the 13yo was for some months performing homosexual acts on the 8yo and bullying him into reciprocating. This revelation shocked us all and meant that my nephew can never see his stepmothers family or the victim again. He has been to couselling and nothing seems to be getting any better.
The mother has had nothing to do with her son since this happened. She never showed much of an interest in her son and asked my brother to have him come live with him about 4 years ago.
She has not called or bothered to see the boy since this all came out. (She also married and had another son)
We wondered where all this came from. Maybe he was abused by the stepdad but we really dont want to accuse when we don’t know.
He had also been downloading porn at school and was in trouble for that.
Today the school rang my brother because he was caught soliciting another student for sex. Or the other student told someone. We do not know what to do… HE’S 13 YEARS OLD!!! WE JUST DON’T GET IT!!!
He told his dad that he doesn’t think he can change.
He seems to have no conscience or ability to see right from wrong. He had no remorse for what he had done the first time this all came out.
My brother and his wife are beside themselves and don’t know what to do. It seems this boy will be heading for a life of misery and/or jail if we don’t get the right help.
Please, please pray for him, for his family for us, for the victim…Any advice? Any suggestions??
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He needs to see a psychiatrist **right away **and consistenlty, not just a jaunt at the school counselor. There is a dark underbelly with this child and it, in my opinion, has abuse written all over it. I wouldn’t point fingers either but let a doctor try and sort that out with the kid. This is so sad! I will pray for your family.
 
I am so sorry for your family. I too will pray for your nephew and family. I agree he must have counseling therapy and so too the family.
 
Amen - the child needs professional help, which of course he won’t get over the internet.

Find a counsellor who is an expert in the sort of behaviour he’s doing.

My urgent prayers in the meantime.
 
I’m not sure where, but I know there are psychologists with expertise in treating young people with SSA. Anyone out there know how to find such experts? The psychologist could also work with your nephew on his other problems, but it would be worthwhile to investigate the SSA. It does seem that your nephew has had some abuse or at the very least has been exposed to some things he shouldn’t have been exposed to. How was this boy as small child? Did you know him well, then?
I will add him and your family in my prayers. What an awful situation.
 
Giannawannabe said:
I’m not sure where, but I know there are psychologists with expertise in treating young people with SSA. Anyone out there know how to find such experts? The psychologist could also work with your nephew on his other problems, but it would be worthwhile to investigate the SSA. It does seem that your nephew has had some abuse or at the very least has been exposed to some things he shouldn’t have been exposed to. How was this boy as small child? Did you know him well, then?
I will add him and your family in my prayers. What an awful situation.
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We saw him as a young child, but not much. His mother had a daughter and was a single mother and was upset when she fell pregnant with him. She wanted an abortion but my brother convinced her not to. She then turned off my brother and hardly saw him through the pregnancy. He saw very little of him as a young baby, but his mother and my brother kept a very distant and strained relationship.
She married some years ago, and has had another child(he’s about 8 now).
She didn’t seem to like or get along with this boy much and he was in trouble constantly at school. When he was about 10, she asked my brother if he take him as he was too much for her.
Now we know she has different morals to those we have and I’m sure he’s seen many inappropriate things, but he’s a closed book and will not tell anyone anything.
We don’t know where any of this has come from.
I have a 14yo son and they get along well but they do not talk much about these things.
Since all this started which was about 4 months ago, his mother has not seen him or bothered with him. It makes me wonder if there is more to this than she would care to tell… I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but why would she just not bother to see her son for 4 months?? And after she was told about this?
He has talked a little to my daughter and he says that he feels his dad doesn’t care about him and that it doesn’t matter what he does, it isn’t good enough. My brother can be a bit hard on him, but this is far more sinister than that. It seems to go far deeper and he’s doing things I couldn’t even imagine he would think of! I mean, I may be naiive but he doesn’t even seem to have hit puberty yet!
We don’t have much here in south australia and I don’t know where they can turn to. He is attending a Christian school, so maybe they will have some idea as to who he can see.
Thankyou for your replies. This is all such a shock! It’s such disturbing behaviour.
And I don’t think that he would even be able to make a good and honest confession as he doesn’t seem to understand the gravity of what he’s done wrong or even recognise it as wrong. He doesn’t seem to have a consience. Can a child as young as 13 be addicted to porn and deviant sexual acts?
Does anyone know the web address of Courage?
Thanks…
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I don’t know what part of the country you are in. However, I showed your link to a friend last nite in chat that is involved in Courage. He gave me his impression of the young person so I thought it might be good if you contact ‘Courage’. Here is the link…
couragerc.net/
 
Pani_Rose said:
I don’t know what part of the country you are in. However, I showed your link to a friend last nite in chat that is involved in Courage. He gave me his impression of the young person so I thought it might be good if you contact ‘Courage’. Here is the link…
couragerc.net/
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Thankyou Pani Rose…can you tell me what your friend thinks of this? Any insight would be very welcome. We’re at a loss to understand his behaviour. He’s been brought up a catholic although his mother is very anti-religion.
We are in South Australia… so I don’t know if there is anything here that helps with problems like his. We fear that he will end up in jail or worse if something is not done.
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Part of the problem is caused by having parents who are separated or divorced. One of my nephews is a huge problem for his parents as well, getting into drugs and getting arrested for various activities. His mother was emotionally, psychologically and probably physically abused by my brother.

I’m sure my nephews behavior problems are related to having such a volitile household. He was rarely disciplined and probably spoiled by both sides. (Each side used him -doted on him- to get at the other) Even with he was arrested, he was bailed out rather than forced to face the consequences of his actions (at least for a day or two). Being in jail is a horrible experience but for some folks, I think it may an eye opening experience that is long overdue.

Maybe some sort of therapy or intervention would work, but at some point he may be overdue to face the consequences of his own actions. Most people learn these lessons fairly early in life but for a few, it come much too late. I don’t think anyone has the right answer for this when it has reached the point of criminal activity.

Maybe your nephew needs to visit a jail or prison and talk to someone who has already traveled his path. He definitely needs a huge dose of reality and maybe seeing where he is headed for, can shock him out of his current behavior. My nephew has been seeing a counselor. We haven’t seen or heard about him for a year or two. Maybe that is a good thing, because all the news before was negative…
 
jules11 said:
Thankyou Pani Rose…can you tell me what your friend thinks of this? Any insight would be very welcome. We’re at a loss to understand his behaviour. He’s been brought up a catholic although his mother is very anti-religion.
We are in South Australia… so I don’t know if there is anything here that helps with problems like his. We fear that he will end up in jail or worse if something is not done.
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Jules, you and your family are on my prayer list. However, please know that Courage specializes with folks with homosexual tendencies. I don;t think that’s the focus right now. The good thing is that they have several Austrailian locations.

I implore you. Please seek professional psychological help first. Your nephew’s actions are psycho-sexual and criminal. I don’t feel that because your nephew may be gay that he is doing these reprehensible things. His outbursts are linked to somewhere darker. Again, I really feel a lot of abuse here. Please seek professional psychological help which will be better able to treat your nephew more holistically.
 
This child needs to be placed in a residential treatment center. There, he will receive the kind of therapy needed for his extreme behaviors. This child has a very serious problem that I do not believe can be corrected in any other type of setting. I was a therapist in this type of treatment center many years ago. The children receive around the clock care and can make great strides toward correcting very disturbing behaviors. Please look into this, and may God bless your family.

Krisy
 
Jules, I will keep you and your family, especially your nephew, in my prayers also. I don’t remember it now, but when my husband and I went to Catholic Familyland, we saw a very holy priest there who talked to us about my husbands excessive anger outburst. This priest asked my dh if his parents wanted him when his mother got pregnant. He truly believes that if a mother doesn’t want a child while in the womb, that the baby knows this and has psychological and other problems in his life. He asked us to pray for healing of unwanted thoughts of desire for him from his mother. You say that this boys mother did not want to have him but wanted an abortion. She probably also reflected this in raising him during his first 10 years of his life. How sad, but he has been abused and it is reflecting in his behavior. What a difficult situation for you all.

You might want to pray a Deliverance prayer for your nephew also. It can’t hurt. If you are interested let me know.
 
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RAANDERUD
 
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My nephew has been pulled out of school and is living with my 80yo mother at the moment. I don’t think him being sent away is going to help in anyway at all.
To further complicate things… my bro and I had a falling out and I have ‘waved the white flag’, so to speak, in order to help out but he refuses to let our differences go.
Apparently my nephew is saying it wasn’t his fault. Which he often says when he’s in trouble. He cannot take responsibility for his own actions or his part in anything. His whole intention is to shift the blame, but he gets that example from his father.
I think the fact that his mother got married, had another child, then sent him to his dads, and now his dad has gotten married and had another child and has sent him away (probably for a short time, but still sent away) when he gets too hard, gives him a message that he’s too much trouble.
He is not given anything to occupy his time, he has no hobbies, no interests that he’s allowed to pursue… and as the saying goes, ‘the devil makes work for idle hands.’
Please pray for this boy… I feel so sad but I cannot do anything to help as his dad holds grudges and won’t allow me to.
I have a 14yo son and they are good friends and are allowed to be ‘boys’ together and have fun. I think he needs someone his age to just hang around with.
 
Does he know that you are showing a great deal of concern for him? I hope so. I think if he knows that someone out there cares for him and loves him as much as you do is a step in the right direction. I have been praying for him and your family every night.

**However, it does not change the fact that he needs to see a shrink right away and regularly. I feel as if this behavior will only escalate if not addressed immediatley. **

I’ll keep praying! You keep loving this boy and he’ll be alright!
 
If you live in Australia, contact any CHRISTIAN HEALING MINISTRIES. They all work with GOD and the HOLY SPIRIT> Ask all the churches, especially Pentecostal, or Catholic.

The teen in question will need Deliverance. It is amazing how powerful this is.

Good luck. rich
 
I’m praying for YOU and him and the whole family! As everyone has said, get him professional help. Take care of yourself as well, okay… whatever that means!!
God Bless You!!
 
Thankyou everyone so much for your advice and prayers. I cannot get him to see a psychiatrist as my brother and I are not talking, not due to me not trying to smooth things over, but he won’t have it.
My nephew was staying with my mother, but she is 80, very sick and not able to cope with all of this. She has heart problems and was very emotional and stressed about this today.
He has been removed from the school and won’t be returning. It is so sad… I wish I could help more, but I can’t.
 
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