Vasectomy in a previous marriage

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I am not 100% sure what catagory to pick, because this is my first time asking a question. My question is, what is the catholic stance on marrying someone who had a vasectomy years ago? My fiancé, who is not yet a catholic, had a vasectomy 10 years ago after the death of his 5 child. Him and I are both divorced, I have 4 children + I’ve had had 2 miscarriages. We are both still young enough to have more children, but we are okay if we don’t have more. I am devout catholic, and I grew up in a large catholic family, and my parents were always open to new life. While I have always been open, this would not be possible in our marriage, which again is okay with me, because After my own pregnancies I am not sure it would be safe to have more. He made a choice long before me after a tragic event, but I still worry about the state of his soul and our future marriage. Maybe I am just being a little old fashion.
 
If you are both divorced, then you would both need annulments to marry in the Church. Without annulments, the marriage would be invalid and nothing but fornication, regardless of the vasectomy issue.

In a different case, speaking generally, if a man has had a vasectomy, he has sinned gravely. He should repent, as should his wife, if she was involved in the decision. But subsequent to repentance, a married couple could have marital relations, despite the past vasectomy (if it is a past repented sin). They could not morally have sex if their intention is to enjoy relations without the possibility of conception. A vasectomy can sometimes be reversed, but this is not always morally required; it depends on the circumstances.
 
If he becomes Catholic and then confesses you don’t need to worry.

If he doesn’t become Catholic, you still don’t have to worry. It isn’t your sin, and he might not be culpable because he wasn’t Catholic and sterilization might not have been agains his faith. Although it a grave wrong, he wasn’t culpable.

Speak to your priest.
 
I have an annulment, and he wasn’t required according to our priest. So that is taken care of!
 
Catholicmomof4 said:
My question is, what is the catholic stance on marrying someone who had a vasectomy years ago?
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As far as I know there is no impediment to marriage for someone who has had a vasectomy. I would run the question by your priest though.

In order to marry, you would both possibly need an annulment in order to proceed. Again, check with a priest.

If you fiance is going to become Catholic, and has already been validly baptized in another Christian denomination he may need to confess this sin.
 
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