Very embarrassing question...

[ilovemywife]

I need some advice on how to combat premature e…
“More practice” is not much of an option as nfp is limiting our opportunities to twice a month or less for the last several months.
Backing off or stopping when it is close will be extremely difficult as it goes from 0-10 on the “pleasure scale” very quickly and without warning.

It is extremely frustrating and embarrassing. The last several times I have finished before my wife. Last night it happened while I was “taking care of her” before I even entered and I could not stop it. I am way too mentally stimulated from her enjoyment of intimacy and it takes almost nothing to cause this issue.

Someone please help me!

 

[Tarpeian_Rock]

I believe there are “numbing creams” available to help counter this problem. Your doctor can probably help you with this, although they typically don’t require a prescription.

 

[crystal_waters]

I need some advice on how to combat premature e…
“More practice” is not much of an option as nfp is limiting our opportunities to twice a month or less for the last several months.
Backing off or stopping when it is close will be extremely difficult as it goes from 0-10 on the “pleasure scale” very quickly and without warning.

It is extremely frustrating and embarrassing. The last several times I have finished before my wife. Last night it happened while I was “taking care of her” before I even entered and I could not stop it. I am way too mentally stimulated from her enjoyment of intimacy and it takes almost nothing to cause this issue.

Someone please help me!

Why not go and see your doctor…he can give you advice and also check you over for any underlying health issues that could be causing it

 

[RPRPsych]

I second what the other posters have said: if this is a problem you’ve had only recently, then a medical opinion would be in order. Various factors, including alcohol / tobacco use and thyroid dysfunction, can contribute - as can anxiety (my own unpublished research shows this - I must really stop being lazy and send it in somewhere ) There are a variety of pharmacological treatments available, but they’re all prescription drugs. I hope you get the help you need.

 

[joebillington1]

I agree with the others, If I were in your situation, I would seek the advice of a doctor.

 

[ilovemywife]

Wow really? A doctor?

How the heck am I supposed to tell him that? This could quickly get MUCH more embarrassing!

 

[Zachary]

Go for “round 2”

 

[RPRPsych]

Wow really? A doctor?

How the heck am I supposed to tell him that? This could quickly get MUCH more embarrassing!

Not at all, we’re used to hearing such things. We’re like confessors, in a way.

(Also, best estimates show that around 4-20% of men have this problem, so take comfort; you’re not alone.)

 

[ilovemywife]

Go for “round 2”

The passion isn’t there like the first time and it is not nearly as fun. In fact, round 2, if even possible within a reasonable amount of time is like work.

 

[LilyRose_8891]

I need some advice on how to combat premature e…
“More practice” is not much of an option as nfp is limiting our opportunities to twice a month or less for the last several months.
Backing off or stopping when it is close will be extremely difficult as it goes from 0-10 on the “pleasure scale” very quickly and without warning.

It is extremely frustrating and embarrassing. The last several times I have finished before my wife. Last night it happened while I was “taking care of her” before I even entered and I could not stop it. I am way too mentally stimulated from her enjoyment of intimacy and it takes almost nothing to cause this issue.

Someone please help me!

Can your wife “take care of you” first, then after you are “finished” you can “take care of her”?

 

[RPRPsych]

Can your wife “take care of you” first, then after you are “finished” you can “take care of her”?

An excellent suggestion.

(Also, OP: if you’re going to post about PE on a public Internet forum that anyone, male or female, can read at their leisure, what’s wrong in talking to a doctor in his office? Just sayin’.)

 

[Zelie_Louis]

Please discuss your medical issue with a health professional.