Very hypothetical and curious about a something.

[Cricket2]

Another thought on rebellious teens: Some rebellion is normal, and is totally unrelated to any Faith. It is part of establishing one’s own identity, way of doing things and testing boundaries. That said, a consistent upbringing helps temper how that rebellion occurs.

Regardless of the Faith in which a child is raised, if they experience hypocracy at home the chances of outlandish rebellion are greater. If from infancy and toddler-hood they learn nothing of simple boundaries, the meanings of NO, Thank-you, Please, and basic self-respect and respect of others there will be outrageous expressions of rebellion.

The best teacher is example, not empty words, debates on the Faith or even going to Church. What good is it if a child goes to church with mom and dad, and then when they leave they witness one or both parents driving like fools, cursing at others, lying or stealing and even cheating on each other.=? Just what have they learned?

 

[CarrieSpooner]

Ouch! This thread was painful to read. Yes Kara, you acknowledged right away that your post could have been worded better. You have repeatedly acknowledged that you are young, not ready for marriage and still have a lot to learn. But what about the grown adults in this thread who continue to insult you and tell you how young and inexperienced you are?? By all accounts, grown men and women should know better and I have much higher expectations of them. Why would anyone continue to engage with you after you’ve asked them over and over to stop replying? What new do they add to the conversation?

It would seem that your original question has been answered. None of us can say for sure in regards to mortal sin however he would definitely be going against his commitment to God to do such a thing.

You are still a teenager and I think that actually gives you a benefit in your perspective in raising children. You have a better personal knowledge about teenage rebellion. Don’t forget it! Don’t buy into the myth that children must usually think their parents are “meanies” in order to do your job properly. This couldn’t be further from the truth as evidenced by our lack of considering God the father a meanie. We should always aim to parent just as our Father in Heaven parents us. I was raised Catholic and never rebelled, at least not in any significant way. I attest the majority of that to the graces I received during my Sacrament of Confirmation. It changed my life and I was able to live for Christ in a way that I couldn’t do on my own. I can tell you that my husband was Protestant when we first got married. Seven years into our marriage, he shocked me and converted to Catholicism. His main reason for starting the process of conversion was seeing how being raised Catholic had impacted me vs the way being raised Protestant had impacted him. For him, it led to a deep rebellion and for me, the opposite. He didn’t want that rebellion for our kids so he began to want them raised Catholic. And once he realized he wanted that for his kids, why not for himself? Once he gave in to the Holy Spirit, the rest was history.

 

[kingston1]

 

[PennyinCanada]

You may not be in a place to appreciate this right now, you’ll grow into that.
A husband that goes up for communion every Sunday is really receiving the Body and Blood of Christ, and many graces flow from this. A Catholic husband that goes to confession co-operates with grace, and grows in wisdom, patience, perseverance, kindness, selflessness, and so on, that will make him an even more excellent husband as the years go by. These sacraments, that are not available in the Protestant Churches, keep us walking in grace, and then we can bring down graces upon our marriages, our family, our neighborhood, and the whole world. This is what all of us are called to be, a shining example of ourselves, and to try to ‘get rid of’ the mud that is thrown on us every day just by living.

This is good for your husband, it is most excellent for your children as they grow. There is a whole bunch of trouble they can get into, and having the sacraments, plus the extended family of the parish, will help keep them grounded and move forward into being good spouses and parents themselves one day. It is unthinkable to many Catholic married folks to imagine depriving their children of the benefit of these graces, and eternal life when they are done in this world. Unthinkable. It would be something like a parent saying that they really don’t see the benefit of a child learning to read. Even that would not be as detrimental as denying them the sacraments. If a child comes into the world and lives for 80 years, they can really make a train wreck of it, and it will affect their children and grandchildren, their neighborhood, the world. Jesus, as the Son of God, died on the cross for us, and it was a tremendous price to pay. There are big stakes here, and big losses if we screw it up. My wish is for you to come into the Church yourself and grab on tight, and also gain these benefits that Christ has set up for us during our very short time here. May that blessing be yours.

 

[1ke]

The answer is that the Catholic could face censure or a penatly under Catholic canon law.

Can. 1366 Parents or those who take the place of parents who hand over their children to be baptized or educated in a non Catholic religion are to be punished with a censure or other just penalty.

That would be at the discretion of the bishop.