Victims of the Sexual Revolution

[JimG]

I am a little reluctant to link to this article, just because of its first paragraph. None of us has the knowledge of the individuals attending the synod to draw any personal conclusions about them. So ignore the first paragraph. But the rest of the article is about the victims of the sexual revolution and it is spot on. It is well worth reading because it shows why the family is in such bad shape that a synod was needed in the first place.

“The Sexual Revolution promised fun and freedom. It delivered hurt and heartbreak. With the possible exception of a handful of predatory Alpha Males, everyone in society has been harmed, men, women and children, rich and poor alike.”

crisismagazine.com/2015/laity-should-act-when-clergy-dont

 

[3DOCTORS]

Thanks for posting that, JimG. It is a thoughtful article that deserves a read. This passage in particular resonated with me:

The Sexual Revolution has taught us that adults are entitled to have the sex lives they want, with a minimum of inconvenience. What we never hear anyone come out and say is: “And kids have to accept whatever the adults chose to give them.” You don’t usually hear people blurt out that last part, because we would be too ashamed of ourselves.

It resonates with my memories of dating a man from a Catholic family way back in my college days. His mother had remarried outside the Church - so she stopped going and my boyfriend in his mid-teens had gone by himself for awhile but gave it up. His dad was shacked up with a girlfriend. His aunts and uncles were all on their second marriages.

It resonates with my memories a few years after when I had a good friend who was in a series of lesbian relationships after divorcing her husband. Her kids and the kids of the lesbian partners would be forced to go to counseling to be brainwashed into accepting the new “normal.” The mother, my friend, did return to the Church, but her kids still struggle in part because of what happened in their formative years.

It resonates when I visit extended family and most of the middle-aged cousins have had multiple marriages or common law, and the younger ones hookups or cohabitations, and they support abortion and “gay marriage” and have lost their Catholic Faith (if they had even been baptized as babies).

I’m going to check out the author’s “Ruth Institute” - it sounds very interesting. It may even be helpful to me as the ex-girlfriend of the guy I described, because although I’ve let go of a lot, I’ve never had any success dating again. I’m okay with the single life, yet I want to be sure I’m not just running from my old heartaches.

In any case, thanks - good post.

 

[JimG]

What struck me, reading the article, is how may children have been hurt by the divorces of their parents, through no fault of their own. We have gone through several generations of this, to the point where many not even have a recollection of what real marriage is supposed to look like. In my youth, I never met a kid with divorced parents, no Catholic kids, no Protestant kids, every kid I knew lived in an intact family with mom and dad. The only instances of mom or dad being missing was natural tragedy, death of one or the other.

Now, the society has extended what was once a rare tragedy to a normal thing.

“Kids need their own parents. I learned from my experience as an adoptive mom, a foster mom, and a birth mom, all kids want the same thing. They want their parents to be there for them, and be appropriate parents. No matter how old the kids are, no matter what their parents have done, all kids of all ages, long for their parents to get it together and be good parents.”

 

[Trad_Catholic27]

This article is correct about the issues that the evil sexual revolution has caused and Blessed Paul VI warned the world about these evils in Humane Vite almost a decade before they happened.

This provides proof that Catholic sexual ethics are really the best way to protect society and children from ruin.

 

[edwest2]

That’s right. I lived through it. I watched radicals say peace, love and freedom and sold us corruption instead. We must know what happened. The destruction of REAL families was job one and the objectives in this battle took 40 years to take. Now, if we don’t know why and how, we will remain confused. Don’t be. Tell others. The lies need to stop, the slavery to the flesh needs to stop, the radicals are to be recognized and told the truth each and every time they post here.

amazon.com/The-Marketing-Evil-Pseudo-Experts-Corruption/dp/1581824599

amazon.com/Noise-Media-saturated-Dominates-Dismantles-Families/dp/1932927948/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1445568066&sr=1-1&keywords=noise+tomeo

amazon.com/Extreme-Makeover-Transformed-Conformed-Culture/dp/1586175610/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1445568109&sr=1-1&keywords=extreme+makeover+tomeo

We were too trusting in the 1960s when the wolves arrived. Do not let it happen again. Marriage preparation and dating must be retaught. Abortion must end. Here is the truth:

catholicnewsagency.com/resources/abortion/articles-and-addresses/an-ex-abortionist-speaks/

No, it was not 100% perfect growing up in the late 1950s and early 1960s but we lived out our lives as Christians as best we could every day. The lie of No-Fault Divorce must end. Divorce for cause is the only way.

The radicals took something that worked (for the most part) but failed to destroy it. They will never destroy the truth. The family lives as it should and for those who were victims, healing and forgiveness are waiting for you.

Ed

 

[bobballen_18]

Thanks for posting that, JimG. It is a thoughtful article that deserves a read. This passage in particular resonated with me:

It resonates with my memories of dating a man from a Catholic family way back in my college days. His mother had remarried outside the Church - so she stopped going and my boyfriend in his mid-teens had gone by himself for awhile but gave it up. His dad was shacked up with a girlfriend. His aunts and uncles were all on their second marriages.

It resonates with my memories a few years after when I had a good friend who was in a series of lesbian relationships after divorcing her husband. Her kids and the kids of the lesbian partners would be forced to go to counseling to be brainwashed into accepting the new “normal.” The mother, my friend, did return to the Church, but her kids still struggle in part because of what happened in their formative years.

It resonates when I visit extended family and most of the middle-aged cousins have had multiple marriages or common law, and the younger ones hookups or cohabitations, and they support abortion and “gay marriage” and have lost their Catholic Faith (if they had even been baptized as babies).

I’m going to check out the author’s “Ruth Institute” - it sounds very interesting. It may even be helpful to me as the ex-girlfriend of the guy I described, because although I’ve let go of a lot, I’ve never had any success dating again. I’m okay with the single life, yet I want to be sure I’m not just running from my old heartaches.

In any case, thanks - good post.

Exactly, 3DOCTORS! The victims of the Sexual Revolution are the children, and this is what is so, so sad today - now that the ideologies behind the Sexual Revolution have been ingrained into multiple generations, and continue in prevalence today, many adults don’t even think about what effects their actions might have on any children in their lives - both present and/or future children. It is heart breaking.

 

[zz912]

Excellent article. Very spot on.

 

[MarcoPolo]

Isn’t it funny how the 60s sexual revolution promised “love,” and all it delivered was self-centered myopia. And here we are, some 50 years later. And what word has the sexual revolution sold us once again? “Love is love” anyone?

The bad news is many are fooled by this serpentine language deception. The good news is many are not.

 

[edwest2]

Isn’t it funny how the 60s sexual revolution promised “love,” and all it delivered was self-centered myopia. And here we are, some 50 years later. And what word has the sexual revolution sold us once again? “Love is love” anyone?

The bad news is many are fooled by this serpentine language deception. The good news is many are not.

Deception is a favorite weapon. To some, love is just sex, without the necessary bond and commitment belonging to traditional marriage. The family must be nurtured.

Ed

 

[Robert_Sock]

Anybody who gets pleasure from viewing pornography is abusing themselves. It’s pigs’ food. Many lay victims here.

 

[exnihilo]

I am familiar with the author. I think she has the best, most consistent, and most honest approach to the enormous problem we face in our culture.

I am a victim. My parents divorced and my dad remarried. There was nothing happy for me at my dad’s wedding. I can’t say what my life would have been like had my folks not gotten divorced. But I definitely got off track for a long time. I suffered emotional pain and anxiety over the divorce throughout my youth. It still causes pain today. The divorce didn’t lessen the fighting. It is no fun to have to tell your parent to stop running down your other parent. Who likes it when anyone runs down there parent? How much worse it is to come from one of your parents? Every family event that should be joyous is filled with anxiety whenever my mom and my dad and stepmom are together.

It makes me very angry that people don’t treat divorce as the abuse it really is for children. It is bad enough for secular folks to do that but inexcusable for Christians. I find it interesting that in an age when the state mandates all sorts of rules for the care of children it doesn’t do anything about the most important aspect of good care of children.

 

[JimG]

I am reminded of this every day even in minor things in the newspaper. A woman wrote in to the “Dear Abby” column about how she divorced her husband after discovering a long term affair. She wanted her son to have a normal relationship with his dad, so she didn’t tell him the reason for the divorce, and she didn’t speak ill of his father. But the dad did not reciprocate. Now her son blames her for the divorce and is angry at her for splitting up the family. Not only did the father break his vows, now he has turned his son against his mother. These kinds of outcomes are commonplace anymore.

When a couple make vows to each other, to love, honor, cherish, to forsake all others, they also need to realize that they are making a similar commitment to their future children, who are powerless against the adults’ ability to damage their lives.

 

[kozlosap]

We have to be very careful about believing that divorce is evil for the kids in all situations. Physical abuse by either spouse, or aimed at children is a totally legit reason for divorce and annulment.
When my dear baby sister was 25, back in 1980, she had the perfect Catholic engagement and wedding - no living together beforehand and they participated in the pre-canna classes. Upon returning from their honeymoon, they had six weeks of married life when the unimaginable (at least in our family) happened. My sister was cooking dinner when the groom came home from work quite drunk. He began to verbally abuse her concerning her lack of skill in the culinary world and when she just laughed, he proceeded to give her a black eye and broken rib. Of course he apologized the next morning. When he left for work, she packed all of her clothes and moved back to my parents home. She did not leave him a letter, and this fool could not understand why she would leave their wonderful marriage. I thank God everyday that she took our Mom’s advice and left that so-called marriage before they had children. Our dear Mama had made it clear to us from a very young age that love has nothing to do with domestic abuse.

 

[JimG]

We have to be very careful about believing that divorce is evil for the kids in all situations. Physical abuse by either spouse, or aimed at children is a totally legit reason for divorce and annulment.
When my dear baby sister was 25, back in 1980, she had the perfect Catholic engagement and wedding - no living together beforehand and they participated in the pre-canna classes. Upon returning from their honeymoon, they had six weeks of married life when the unimaginable (at least in our family) happened. My sister was cooking dinner when the groom came home from work quite drunk. He began to verbally abuse her concerning her lack of skill in the culinary world and when she just laughed, he proceeded to give her a black eye and broken rib. Of course he apologized the next morning. When he left for work, she packed all of her clothes and moved back to my parents home. She did not leave him a letter, and this fool could not understand why she would leave their wonderful marriage. I thank God everyday that she took our Mom’s advice and left that so-called marriage before they had children. Our dear Mama had made it clear to us from a very young age that love has nothing to do with domestic abuse.

I agree, she was right to get out and get out fast.

Without knowing the details of your sister’s situation, the account does raise another issue, about how well couples know each other before marriage. It seems there are a lot of surprises sometimes. It almost makes one wish for the days of arranged marriages, when the potential spouse was well vetted by others.

 

[exnihilo]

We have to be very careful about believing that divorce is evil for the kids in all situations. Physical abuse by either spouse, or aimed at children is a totally legit reason for divorce and annulment.

Divorce would still be harmful even if physical abuse is present. It may be the best solution but it is still a harmful one. It might likened to chemotherapy which might kill the cancer but still itself harms the body. This will no doubt be unpopular, but I think a certain amount or level of physical abuse is less harmful than divorce. I’m not saying any amount or interested in debating at what point physical abuse is worse. I just have the opinion that divorce is so emotionally damaging that there are in fact worse things a child can endure.

 

[kozlosap]

Divorce would still be harmful even if physical abuse is present. It may be the best solution but it is still a harmful one. It might likened to chemotherapy which might kill the cancer but still itself harms the body. This will no doubt be unpopular, but I think a certain amount or level of physical abuse is less harmful than divorce. I’m not saying any amount or interested in debating at what point physical abuse is worse. I just have the opinion that divorce is so emotionally damaging that there are in fact worse things a child can endure.

Please don’t teach your children this point of view. There are men and women in their graves today because they were taught that there is no good reason for divorce and their spouses ended up going too far with their abuse. The last thing our society, as a whole, needs is the idea that is normal to be beat up and it’s OK for kids to witness it. Before I retired there were two girls in my 11th grade Homeroom Class that would come to class with bruises on their arms, legs and necks. I was sure it was child abuse and had the psychologist speak to them. It was not their parents, but their boyfriends, who were the abusers. Both young women told the psych that they DESERVED to be punished and they knew they were loved since the boys loved them enough to try and FIX their bad behavior. Even writing this makes my skin crawl with disgust. It’s not only girls, boys also are abused by their girlfriends. Unless we make it clear that if you are ever physically abused you leave the relationship immediately, the cycle of violence will continue.

 

[edwest2]

I agree, she was right to get out and get out fast.

Without knowing the details of your sister’s situation, the account does raise another issue, about how well couples know each other before marriage. It seems there are a lot of surprises sometimes. It almost makes one wish for the days of arranged marriages, when the potential spouse was well vetted by others.

Real dating.

Earned trust.

Real friendships.

And you meet her family and she meets yours.

Marriage preparation needs to be mandatory. And yes, if abuse occurs, that is an issue to be addressed immediately.

Before the ceremony, make sure both of you understand what you expect from marriage beforehand, and each other. And what your marriage vows really mean. The Church is not insensitive to abuse.

I discourage anyone reading to get married if you believe, and I heard this from a stranger I’d just met in the 1980s. “Well, if it doesn’t work out, we can always get a divorce.” And no, this goes to general wrong thinking about commitment and what it means, not abuse.

Ed

 

[PRmerger]

I am a little reluctant to link to this article, just because of its first paragraph. None of us has the knowledge of the individuals attending the synod to draw any personal conclusions about them. So ignore the first paragraph. But the rest of the article is about the victims of the sexual revolution and it is spot on. It is well worth reading because it shows why the family is in such bad shape that a synod was needed in the first place.

“The Sexual Revolution promised fun and freedom. It delivered hurt and heartbreak. With the possible exception of a handful of predatory Alpha Males, everyone in society has been harmed, men, women and children, rich and poor alike.”

crisismagazine.com/2015/laity-should-act-when-clergy-dont

I wish this article had been written way back in 2010, when I was in discussions with a poster who claimed that divorce was a good thing for society.

"I won’t even bother listing all the positive examples that I am aware of, and that in no way have effected “society”.

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=422021&page=7

 

[edwest2]

ncregister.com/daily-news/wages-of-the-sexual-revolution

catholiceducation.org/en/culture/politics/the-church-vs-the-sexual-revolution.html

Ed

 

[PRmerger]

Ah. I see this writer has a collection of essays published this year that she’s trying to promote and sell about…wait for it…the sexual revolution!

Yes.

Not sure what the exclamation point at the end of your response means?

So what does she mean by this phrase?
Sexuality–it’s rules, mores, practices and beliefs–have changed, ebbed and flowed throughout history and within different cultures for thousands of years.

She makes this generalized statement as if it is a fact:
*
The Sexual Revolution promised fun and freedom. It delivered hurt and heartbreak. *

There are many people it did indeed free…

Well, yeah. The Predatory Alpha Male. That’s who Morse says benefited from the sexual revolution.

Everyone else has been its victim.

Implying or accusing Pope Francis and other bishops of trying to water down the church’s teaching…is that not blasphemous?

Nope.

Not sure what definition of “blasphemous” you’re using, but saying she has her doubts about Pope Francis definitely doesn’t fall into the Catholic def.