Warning people a post is inappropriate instead of flagging user

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Anyone think it would be kinda better to let a poster know a post isn’t appropriate,instead of just flagging the post?

Like the time spent flagging a post could be used to tell a user their post isn’t appropriate, due to it being graphic or such.

And plus it kinda makes me angry when i’m flagged and get suspended,when they could just tell me to edit a post. I have feelings as well.
 
Anyone think it would be kinda better to let a poster know a post isn’t appropriate,instead of just flagging the post?
No. That causes confrontations. Moderation has instructed users to refrain from calling out posters and instead flag them.
 
I saw a post where someone posted a video that was inappropriate and they took it down when someone told them it was.

In a online game i play, some people warn me to remove a really loud vehicle in a building area,before informing the land officers.
 
I have occasionally told a new user that a post was inappropriate if it seemed like they might not be aware because they just started posting. I have also tried to explain to some non-Catholic posters or non-US posters if they say something that might be perceived as upsetting to Catholics or US residents. For example, we had a Protestant come on here recently and ask his first questions referring to “the church of Rome” and “converting to Rome”; that’s the sort of thing where I point out that references to “Rome” by a Protestant are possibly insulting and he shouldn’t do that, since he may honestly not know if all he meets are non-Catholics who talk like that.

If you’re referring to one of your own posts, you’ve been a member of this forum for a very long time and you should have some idea by now about the forum rules and what other posters expect. I don’t remember flagging anything by you lately but I do know that many, perhaps the vast majority, of your posts in the past have been about furries, a subject that most other people here aren’t that interested in and that some might see as “agenda posting” or even as offensive depending on what you post. You may want to broaden your scope of topics.

We all get annoyed when flagged and/or suspended, but it’s best for you to either take it up with the mods or else just accept that it’s something we all deal with on this forum. Many people do not want to spend the time issuing warnings because it provokes confrontations (I’ve had my share, including people who proceeded to send me angry PMs or followed me around the forum making snarky remarks or flagging posts of mine for no good reason), often doesn’t result in any positive change, and they also think an experienced poster should know the rules.
 
I’ve done both - advising someone to not use so much personal information; flagged when the poster was clearly “off their rocker” and I’m not going to say that to someone 🙂
 
flagged when the poster was clearly “off their rocker” and I’m not going to say that to someone 🙂
An OP can sometimes seem to be mentally unbalanced, and in cases like that my practice is to flag the post and explain why in the notification to the mod, without posting anything on the thread. But if it’s someone being offensive or breaking the rules in some other way, I would normally challenge them first on the thread and wait for a response before flagging them.
Moderation has instructed users to refrain from calling out posters and instead flag them.
I see now we are advised not to do that. I wasn’t aware of that. Thank you, @Cruciferi. I suppose I’d better stop doing it. However, flagging is something I do very sparingly anyway (except in the mental health cases), and will probably do even more sparingly in the future. Flagging unnecessarily means I would be wasting the mods’ time, and I don’t like being the cause of other people wasting their time.
 
I take it on a case-by-case basis.

If the person was acting reasonable but said something that was a bit of a gray area, I’ll reach out to them. I know I once asked a user to change the wording in a post because they used a racist idiom, and I had no reason to believe that they were trying to be racist. (Unfortunately, I can’t always assume that here.)

However, in most cases, either the whole post is out-of-line or the user is being clearly antagonistic. In those cases, I don’t think a friendly conversation will help or even be had. In those cases, it’s flagging time!
 
It depends is the person is behaving like a jerk.
If they are, I won’t always warn them before I flag.
But if it seems like an honest mistake, I usually will.
 
Last time I flagged the user was a minor discussing sex behaviors, from a Christian perspective though, on her topic. I flagged and explained to the mods and also replied to the OP, on her own post, that she being a minor makes it not ok to discuss all those things. Not so much for her but for others on the thread who probably missed the post when she was saying she is not an adult. The OP of course replied that it is all okay she can handle it even if she is young. I don’t know what happened to the post in the end.
You can say something in the thread instead of PM. In public people behave better than in private …usually.
 
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Yeah. I’m sorry for that. Of course many in the furry thing seem awesome. I saw a video a few days ago of a fursuiter doing screamo in fursuit and headbanging.
 
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