Was asked to give man on street $

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Don’t dwell on it. A lot of homeless people do need help, but many are also looking for money for other means. If you want to help the homeless, it’s probably best to donate to a charity that helps the homeless. I know some churches also have a program that feed the homeless
 
I sympathize and I believe there is no moral obligation to give anything at all, be it cash, food or any form of assistance directly to panhandlers or strangers. We should fulfill our obligation to help one’s neighbour by going through the right channels such as church, charity, shelters, etc. It’s perfectly fine to politely refuse and walk away.
Yes, I agree. We should be polite and at least give a response when someone speaks to us, even if the answer is “no”. Completely ignoring someone asking for help is unacceptable, IMO.
 
Another idea…

You can get plastic, credit card like gift certificates for meals at Subway in as little as 5 dollar increments. Keep a few in your wallet.

So that way you can give a card and you can be almost 100% sure that your act of charity will go to food and not booze or worse.
 
Another idea…

You can get plastic, credit card like gift certificates for meals at Subway in as little as 5 dollar increments. Keep a few in your wallet.

So that way you can give a card and you can be almost 100% sure that your act of charity will go to food and not booze or worse.
Great idea! Thank you! I have asked a friend of mine who is the director at the local Rescue Mission for cards with their information on them. The idea of gift cards/gift certificates in 1 meal increments is also an awesome idea. Thanks so much!
 
Another idea…

You can get plastic, credit card like gift certificates for meals at Subway in as little as 5 dollar increments. Keep a few in your wallet.

So that way you can give a card and you can be almost 100% sure that your act of charity will go to food and not booze or worse.
Except that they then try to sell the card - or at least they do here.

I don’t usually give money to panhandlers. Of course 99% of the time I really can’t afford it. I always smile, make eye contact, and say I’m sorry I can’t help. I do try to treat them like human beings at least. But I agree, it does get tiring to see the same guy 4 days in a row asking for bus fare to one of the outlying towns (about $5) - and you want to say gee buddy, either don’t leave home without return bus fare or you must be really bad at this begging thing. You could have walked home by now…

I think the most enlightening conversation I had was with a woman who used to be homeless, and now had an apartment of her own and a job and a cat (she was so excited to have a pet cat 🙂 ) - actually when she first approached me I thought she was homeless. I chatted with her while I was waiting for the bus, and there was a man panhandling on the corner. She said that she wouldn’t give him any money - she said that she had gone over to see if he needed help getting to a shelter or soup kitchen and he refused. She said that there’s no helping people like that. I don’t know, but if a former homeless person won’t give money to panhandlers… well, it makes you think anyways. 🤷

I’ve said this on other threads like this before, but our parish has told people several times not to give money to panhandlers, but to give to charities to help the poor and homeless instead. We also take up a collection for charities for the poor every month. We’re in the middle of downtown, and in the winter there are always homeless coming in to get warm - which is always fine as long as they don’t start pestering people. At least once a week or so we have a homeless person pass out in the church bathroom. We used to have people practically mugging little old ladies as they left Mass trying to get money and it was getting very dangerous. The no giving to panhandlers is also promoted by the local police department. Just some food for thought.
 
Another idea…

You can get plastic, credit card like gift certificates for meals at Subway in as little as 5 dollar increments. Keep a few in your wallet.

So that way you can give a card and you can be almost 100% sure that your act of charity will go to food and not booze or worse.
yes, but they can sell those and then still get the cash they want to go towards purchasing alcohol or whatever. believe me, these people are pros at what they do.
 
But I agree, it does get tiring to see the same guy 4 days in a row asking for bus fare to one of the outlying towns (about $5) - and you want to say gee buddy, either don’t leave home without return bus fare or you must be really bad at this begging thing. You could have walked home by now…
Has anyone had success calling a panhandler out when you know they’re lying - in a polite way of course? I’ve been tempted to say the same things myself, hoping I could get through to them a little, but I always thought it would just make things worse for them… 🤷
 
Well… he was spared the agony of McDonald’s anyway. I do agree with the method, though… if a person really needs food, he’ll accept food. If he wants liquor or cigarettes, he’ll find a way to refuse any food offered.
 
Has anyone had success calling a panhandler out when you know they’re lying - in a polite way of course? I’ve been tempted to say the same things myself, hoping I could get through to them a little, but I always thought it would just make things worse for them… 🤷
My uncle had seen someone begging for money at the same spot for awhile, so one time when he went into the place the man stood outside of, he was accosted too. After the man gave him his sob story, my uncle gave him an even worse sob story. He said the guy was actually pulling his wallet out to give my uncle money when a security guard came along and ran the guy off.
 
It is not hard to see many of the beggars as being “the least of my brothers”.
 
It is easy to see most beggars as scam artists, especially when we all have stories like those being shared on this thread. It is hard to see them as children of God, even if they are scammers.

I want to make it clear I am not trying to lay a guilt trip on anyone. The decision to give to a beggar has to be made by each and every person and neither I nor anyone else can tell you what you should do.

However. For all of the scam stories that you have, have you never heard of a sincere begger, someone who needs help? Have you ever thought that those people who intend to use your gift to by cigarettes or booze may just need one kind person to start them on the road to change?

We all (and I include myself here) have reasons not to give to people on the street. When I find those reasons, I have to remind myself of a character in a story who was walking along a road when he came on a man who had been beaten by robbers and left to die. Several people, all of whom had good reasons not to stop to help, kept on walking and avoided the injured man. It took a foreigner, an outsider, to stop and render aid and save the injured man’s life. The story of his compassion will remain with us forever.

I think we sometimes need to channel the Samaritan man when we meet those children of God who have, for whatever reason, fallen on hard times. We need to be true neighbors.

Peace

Tim
 
It is easy to see most beggars as scam artists, especially when we all have stories like those being shared on this thread. It is hard to see them as children of God, even if they are scammers.

I want to make it clear I am not trying to lay a guilt trip on anyone. The decision to give to a beggar has to be made by each and every person and neither I nor anyone else can tell you what you should do.

However. For all of the scam stories that you have, have you never heard of a sincere begger, someone who needs help? Have you ever thought that those people who intend to use your gift to by cigarettes or booze may just need one kind person to start them on the road to change?

We all (and I include myself here) have reasons not to give to people on the street. When I find those reasons, I have to remind myself of a character in a story who was walking along a road when he came on a man who had been beaten by robbers and left to die. Several people, all of whom had good reasons not to stop to help, kept on walking and avoided the injured man. It took a foreigner, an outsider, to stop and render aid and save the injured man’s life. The story of his compassion will remain with us forever.

I think we sometimes need to channel the Samaritan man when we meet those children of God who have, for whatever reason, fallen on hard times. We need to be true neighbors.

Peace

Tim
Well put. Thank you.
 
I appreciate all of your responses. For me, as I thought and processed this, I really wanted to think about what made me say no to begin with. Where was I in this? What thought process guided my actions? I work with marginalized people every day and I have come to expect more of myself and when I fell short of what I expected of myself it was more than disappointing.

It could have been a friend or relative, or myself in that position - would I not want someone to treat me respectfully? With dignity? With a caring glance or smile? It’s way more than just $ or food.

Thanks for listening & pondering/reflecting w/me!
 
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