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The following is my explanation of why women can’t be priests and the response I received from a classmate in an online New Testament College course with a debate forum much like this one. Tell me, was I rude? I tried to be diplomatic, but it was difficult.

Me:Point 1: Holy orders are a sacrament.

Point 2: The sacrament of Holy orders must include the right matter in order to be valid. As water is the only acceptable matter that can be used in baptism instituted by Jesus as a sacrament when he began baptising with the Holy Spirit, a man is the only matter acceptable to use for the sacrament of Holy Orders. This is based on the Pentacost. Being breathed on by the Divine Jesus as he says “receive the Holy Spirit” is extremely significant. He also told them, “As the Father has sent me, so I send you” and “whatever sins you retain are retained, whatever sins you forgive are forgiven”. All of this together in John 20:19–23 is Jesus granting the authority of the priesthood to the Apostles. This was the first Holy Orders, the Apostles made priests, ministers of sacraments.

Point 3: Jesus was a nonconformist, yet he only ordained men. To make the argument that Jesus was for equal rights is true, but then ordination is not a right. It’s a sacrament, again requiring the right matter to be valid. Jesus was not afraid to go against the grain, he even died for his beliefs. If he wanted to make the matter of the sacrament a woman, child, animal, balloon, he would have. He didn’t.

Point 4: The authority of the Church comes from Jesus. Because Jesus only breathed the Holy Spirit on men, men are the only thing the Church can bestow this sacrament on. The Catholic Church can never ordain women as priests.

Girl Responding: With all due respect, I’m not sure that more clarity on what the Bible and your church has taught you to say is where the confusion is, I think your missing the point that by following everything word for word in a book that was written thousands of years ago has inabled you to see that it is not impossible for women to be of leadership roles in the church or anywhere else, your only saying it’s impossible becuase that is whatyou’ve been taught by human beings , and that’s alright, but remember that the true God of our world holds women higher than the men that have dictated society for years.

And my response to her (was I rude?):

I am just explaining the Catholic perspective and the fact that the priesthood never ever will change because of the nature of Catholic Sacraments. I’m not even making the argument that everyone should agree with Catholic Church. I’m just explaining why women priests will never happen in my church.

I am troubled by your post because I feel you have mispoken against me and I don’t think you meant to do so.

I am not clouded by “what I’ve been taught by human beings”. I’m not an idiot, walking around brainwashed, like I never question things about my faith. I’ve had six years of college in Applied science. I know what it is to contemplate a question using reason and logic. I did not respond with “what the church taught me to say”. That is extremely offensive. It took me hours to research everything for my post to make sure I explained the issue as clearly as I could. I feel I delineated how the sacrament of Holy Orders came to be and why it will never include women priests. Catholic history is well documented and their theology ancient and profound. There is great ignorance about Catholic exegesis in your suggestion that I follow the bible word for word. Protestants follow Sola Scriptura, not Catholics.

I offered a history lesson and you responded with your perception about me, a perception which is clearly biased against male leadership in the Catholic Church which I will say again, was Jesus’ decision no one else’s. With all due respect, I haven’t missed the point, you have missed mine. But no hard feelings. 🙂
 
Wow, thanks for reading that. I know it was long, but I had to include it to keep her response and mine in context. 🙂
 
I thought your response was excellent. Your answer to the question was also great. She was being rude, and quite ignorant as well. She is to be forgiven for both of course, and gently but unequivocally told the truth about the Catholic Faith. Moreover, her response was not an argument, but an ad hominem attack. Your subsequent defense was right on, and not rude in the least. You showed her why her uninformed opinion of you was mistaken and very clearly spelled out the truth of the matter at hand without resorting to the tactics she relied on exclusively. It is never rude to refuse to debase oneself or the truth by playing into someone’s game. Actually, placating and appeasing her would have been both rude and uncharitable. Keep up the good work.

God Bless

Jon Winterburn
 
Nope. There’s a big difference in being rude and assertive. 🙂
 
Stay-at-Home Catholic Dad of 3… is me! (and proud to be)

I don’t think your response was rude but like Newbie2 said you were just being assertive and trying to make your case.

I find that there are certain subjects, and your topic is certainly one of them, that will set the secular groups into a frenzy and start pointing finger and say" Well, you Catholics…"
I’m sure we’ve all heard it and lived it, and I think they fly off the handle (and the whole bike for that matter) cause of the lack of information they actually have about the Catholic Faith.

If they knew as much real truth about the Catholic Faith as they percieve to know, or have been told, we wouldn’t have anyone who misunderstands our faith.

Paul
 
Me:Point 1: Holy orders are a sacrament.

Point 2: The sacrament of Holy orders must include the right matter in order to be valid. As water is the only acceptable matter that can be used in baptism instituted by Jesus as a sacrament when he began baptising with the Holy Spirit, a man is the only matter acceptable to use for the sacrament of Holy Orders. This is based on the Pentacost. Being breathed on by the Divine Jesus as he says “receive the Holy Spirit” is extremely significant. He also told them, “As the Father has sent me, so I send you” and “whatever sins you retain are retained, whatever sins you forgive are forgiven”. All of this together in John 20:19–23 is Jesus granting the authority of the priesthood to the Apostles. This was the first Holy Orders, the Apostles made priests, ministers of sacraments.

Point 3: Jesus was a nonconformist, yet he only ordained men. To make the argument that Jesus was for equal rights is true, but then ordination is not a right. It’s a sacrament, again requiring the right matter to be valid. Jesus was not afraid to go against the grain, he even died for his beliefs. If he wanted to make the matter of the sacrament a woman, child, animal, balloon, he would have. He didn’t.

Point 4: The authority of the Church comes from Jesus. Because Jesus only breathed the Holy Spirit on men, men are the only thing the Church can bestow this sacrament on. The Catholic Church can never ordain women as priests.
She didn’t respond to a single one of these points. I would ask her why. Is it that she is unable to?
I think your missing the point that by following everything word for word in a book that was written thousands of years ago
I would tell her, “I had no idea truth was determined by the time of day, the time of year, or what century it happens to be.”
 
My reflexive answer to your question is:

Yes.

If you have to ask the question, you most likely noticed a negative reaction to it from the person you were conversing with.

It’s not your judgement that decides if something you said was “rude”.

Conversation is ART. The “quality” of art is in the eye of the beholder. Guess who gets to decide the “rudeness” of your art?

The REAL question is WHY they might consider your “art” rude?

(( As well as, why she chose the “interesting” spelling, grammar, and sentence structure that she did in her “response”, which reflects not overly well on her qualifications as regards intellection. But, hey, public schools beign what they are these days… ))
 
(( As well as, why she chose the “interesting” spelling, grammar, and sentence structure that she did in her “response”, which reflects not overly well on her qualifications as regards intellection. But, hey, public schools **beign **what they are these days… ))
…and of course, I manage to miss a spelling error myself, which only proves…

…wait for it

…wait for it

…public school is where I hung out, as well.

It feels GOOD to be self-deprecating! Rather like a good shower, with the cold water, algae uncrusted floors and stinky towels that I remember so well from… Public High School!

(( I managed to err with “depricating” the first time through with THAT post. We all know that “depricating” is ENTIRELY different, thank goodness, from “deprecating”. ))
 
My reflexive answer to your question is:

Yes.

If you have to ask the question, you most likely noticed a negative reaction to it from the person you were conversing with.

It’s not your judgement that decides if something you said was “rude”.

Conversation is ART. The “quality” of art is in the eye of the beholder. Guess who gets to decide the “rudeness” of your art?

The REAL question is WHY they might consider your “art” rude?

(( As well as, why she chose the “interesting” spelling, grammar, and sentence structure that she did in her “response”, which reflects not overly well on her qualifications as regards intellection. But, hey, public schools beign what they are these days… ))
Actually I had to ask because I have scruples and tend to be extremely paranoid about right vs. wrong. Also, I wanted to get an outside opinion about my post because as we all know, exchanges over the internet allow for introjection of tone and I wanted to be sure I represented the Church in a respectful way.
 
In my opinion not rude at all, but when you are dealing with obtuse individuals a little rudeness, not ruditity, is not a bad thing. 😃
 
In my opinion not rude at all, but when you are dealing with obtuse individuals a little rudeness, not ruditity, is not a bad thing. 😃
“Ruditity”!?

Is that somewhat like the quality of “ruditatiousness ruditudinocity”?
 
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