WAS i WRONG?

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I have attended other churches besides the catholic church and am sick of the foolishness. The last church I attended with my cousin. He begged me to come and I really believe he and his minister had discussed my coming before I arrived because the first thing he said when he started his sermon was I don’ know who that lady was suppose to have been that those Catholics SAY APPEARED BEFORE THOSE THREE CHILDREN BUT IT WAS SURELY NOT THE MOTHER OF GOD. I GOT UP , LEFT THE CHURCH AND CAUGHT A CAB HOME. I attended a non- denomination church a few months before that and the woman I went with was so stupid. She went into what they called tongues but she was constantly peeking at me to see if I was watching her. It was one big lie. She had not gone or felt any Holy Spirit she was trying to impress me. I vowed I would stay where I belonged after these few times attending these other churches. Now here is where the problem is. My rebellious daughter has always listened to other people and ignored anything I have ever tried to tell her and so she joined the non-denominational church and was so hurt(or so she claimed because I refused to go to her and her sons baptism.) I didn’t go because I told her long ago that I will never again attend any other church but the Catholic Church and that I really only have one reason why. I don’t chose to. I told her that the only way I would attend her church is that it would be her funeral only to pay my last respects and to pray for the repose of her soul. I feel it is my right not to attend these churches if I don’t want too and; I don’t want to. End of story and I don’t feel that I owe anybody an exclamation for how I feel. What do you think? Thank you.
 
I don’t think you did anything wrong. Perhaps you could have been more “tactful” but nothing wrong

Perhaps you could have also turned it into a teaching moment for your daughter
 
It is a difficult question for an outsider like me to answer. I don’t know enough about your situation but I did read in the newspaper that a Pope had attended a Jewish synagogue and that a Pope had attended a non-Catholic Church.
 
I agree I will only go to the Catholic Church because it is the One Holy Catholic and Apostolic Church. I need no other reason
 
Maybe a little harsh if you said that you would only go to her church if it were here funeral. I think you could have gone to the child’s baptism. Harshness will be long remembered, but I admire you reasons for not attending the church that disparages The Blessed Mother. As for fakes-well the world is full of them. Educate through example, not through quick judgements because how you present the church will draw others to the church-or possibly drive them away. Right or wrong? God is your judge. Peace.
 
flower_lady said:
I have attended other churches besides the catholic church and am sick of the foolishness. The last church I attended with my cousin. He begged me to come and I really believe he and his minister had discussed my coming before I arrived because the first thing he said when he started his sermon was I don’ know who that lady was suppose to have been that those Catholics SAY APPEARED BEFORE THOSE THREE CHILDREN BUT IT WAS SURELY NOT THE MOTHER OF GOD. I GOT UP , LEFT THE CHURCH AND CAUGHT A CAB HOME. I attended a non- denomination church a few months before that and the woman I went with was so stupid. She went into what they called tongues but she was constantly peeking at me to see if I was watching her. It was one big lie. She had not gone or felt any Holy Spirit she was trying to impress me. I vowed I would stay where I belonged after these few times attending these other churches. Now here is where the problem is. My rebellious daughter has always listened to other people and ignored anything I have ever tried to tell her and so she joined the non-denominational church and was so hurt(or so she claimed because I refused to go to her and her sons baptism.) I didn’t go because I told her long ago that I will never again attend any other church but the Catholic Church and that I really only have one reason why. I don’t chose to. I told her that the only way I would attend her church is that it would be her funeral only to pay my last respects and to pray for the repose of her soul. I feel it is my right not to attend these churches if I don’t want too and; I don’t want to. End of story and I don’t feel that I owe anybody an exclamation for how I feel. What do you think? Thank you.
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You are correct to stand fast and not attend another church, but be sure to leave room for communication with your daughter; in the future, she might change her mind and want to return to the Catholic Church.
 
You followed your FORMED conscience,
Brenda, just inform your daughter THE
REASON why you did not attend her
and her son’s baptisms and leave the
rest to the Lord to acquit you of wrong-
doing.
 
I’m sure Pope Francis would advise you to carry on being in touch with her in person but without your attending fake churches of whatever description.
 
flower_lady said:
I have attended other churches besides the catholic church and am sick of the foolishness. The last church I attended with my cousin. He begged me to come and I really believe he and his minister had discussed my coming before I arrived because the first thing he said when he started his sermon was I don’ know who that lady was suppose to have been that those Catholics SAY APPEARED BEFORE THOSE THREE CHILDREN BUT IT WAS SURELY NOT THE MOTHER OF GOD. I GOT UP , LEFT THE CHURCH AND CAUGHT A CAB HOME. I attended a non- denomination church a few months before that and the woman I went with was so stupid. She went into what they called tongues but she was constantly peeking at me to see if I was watching her. It was one big lie. She had not gone or felt any Holy Spirit she was trying to impress me. I vowed I would stay where I belonged after these few times attending these other churches. Now here is where the problem is. My rebellious daughter has always listened to other people and ignored anything I have ever tried to tell her and so she joined the non-denominational church and was so hurt(or so she claimed because I refused to go to her and her sons baptism.) I didn’t go because I told her long ago that I will never again attend any other church but the Catholic Church and that I really only have one reason why. I don’t chose to. I told her that the only way I would attend her church is that it would be her funeral only to pay my last respects and to pray for the repose of her soul. I feel it is my right not to attend these churches if I don’t want too and; I don’t want to. End of story and I don’t feel that I owe anybody an exclamation for how I feel. What do you think? Thank you.
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I think you should show her this post. Theres no need to argue or elaborate on the point further.
 
I think you’re missing the forest for the trees.
If it was going to be a valid Baptism you should have gone.
Don’t take your righteous anger out on that innocent child.
Make peace with your daughter. If all she remembers about the Catholic church is how harsh some can be she’ll never return. And you will have to answer for that.
No, you shouldn’t go to “silly churches”.
But you shouldn’t take out your dissatisfaction on others. It’s easy to get mad. Much harder to forgive.
Just my 2 cents.
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I agree with the other posters that your attitude is kind of harsh and a barrier to communication.

You come across as more interested in being more “correct” that others and winning an argument is more important than winning souls. Yes, as you state, you have a “right” to think the other churches are silly but if that is your main focus I think you might be a little self centered.
 
Maybe I’ve been lucky, but I have attended non-denominational churches and experienced nothing like what you describe.

You have to make your own choices, but I can offer you the example of an aunt of mine. Her children have joined various non-denominational churches and although she prays that they;ll return to the Catholic church, it does not stop her from attending the baptisms and weddings of her grandchildren in those churches.

Whatever choice you make, you’ll have to live with the fallout
 
I’ve only recently begun to encounter situations similar to the OP’s, and I’ll admit I am probably not very good at drawing that line.

That said, if someone I knew were earnestly trying to follow Christ by having himself or his child validly baptized, I cannot picture myself not attending the ceremony.
 
Iacomus4566 said:
I’ve only recently begun to encounter situations similar to the OP’s, and I’ll admit I am probably not very good at drawing that line.

That said, if someone I knew were earnestly trying to follow Christ by having himself or his child validly baptized, I cannot picture myself not attending the ceremony.
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We are all good, see each other and ride together frequently. She takes me out to breakfast once a week and her son spent the summer with me and almost every weekend when school starts back. I gave them both lovely gifts, and I have told her that we all have free choice of religion in this country, my choice just happens to be catholic and I can’ see myself going to any other church. I don’t think she likes the idea but we respect and love each other. TY all for your answers.
 
flower_lady said:
We are all good, see each other and ride together frequently. She takes me out to breakfast once a week and her son spent the summer with me and almost every weekend when school starts back. I gave them both lovely gifts, and I have told her that we all have free choice of religion in this country, my choice just happens to be catholic and I can’ see myself going to any other church. I don’t think she likes the idea but we respect and love each other. TY all for your answers.
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Okay, God Bless you.
 
I assume your daughter was baptized in the Catholic Church so there was no need to attend a second and invalid baptism. If your grandson had not been baptized and this particular church was doing it in the name of the holy trinity then the Catholic Church would recognize it as valid and you should have attended to be a witness.
 
WT1 said:
I assume your daughter was baptized in the Catholic Church so there was no need to attend a second and invalid baptism. If your grandson had not been baptized and this particular church was doing it in the name of the holy trinity then the Catholic Church would recognize it as valid and you should have attended to be a witness.
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No she had not been baptized catholic I have been all of my life practically Catholic but had been away from the church for about 12 to 15 years. I came back home but never belonged or joined another other church. No her 10 yr. old son was never baptized and yes as far as they told me they were baptized properly. In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit and dunked in water. I’m not angry, I just am not going to any other church but my own.
 
flower_lady said:
No she had not been baptized catholic I have been all of my life practically Catholic but had been away from the church for about 12 to 15 years. I came back home but never belonged or joined another other church. No her 10 yr. old son was never baptized and yes as far as they told me they were baptized properly. In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit and dunked in water. I’m not angry, I just am not going to any other church but my own.
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Sorry I forgot I did join another church yrs. ago and was baptized and left that church about 2 or3 weeks afterwards. It was foolishness.
 
It’s my understanding that Catholics can visit other churches, especially with friends and family, but it does not satisfy our Sunday obligation and we should not take communion with them. It can help build a dialogue and openness between Christians and other faiths.

We can even attend baptisms and weddings. However, we are advised to not attend these ceremonies if it is for converted former Catholics, as it shows support for their decision to leave the Church.
 
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