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TonyC
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Hello, Brothers & Sisters in Christ,
I seek your opinion/advice, please.
Since my wife and I have been married (6 years), I have made it a tradition to wash her feet on Holy Thursday. I suppose she likes this. She hasn’t objected anyway.
Why do I do this? Well, it seems that our Lord was trying to set an example for us at the Last Supper to be a servant to each other. We sing something or another about being “Christ to one another,” and I suppose that’s perhaps especially so in the context of marriage, so I’d think this would be in keeping with that. Further, it helps keep me humble. I have to admit feeling a tad odd about it, however – but I’ve continued.
God has blessed my wife and me with children, so I’ve continued the tradition with them. I wash their feet too, even though they are only toddlers.
But now the tradition is getting tricky: We’ve moved away from our home in the USA to a country where having domestic live-in help is rather common. We have a good rapport with our live-in maid; she seems to think (or at least act) like we treat her well, pay her well, etc. She addresses me as “Sir” and my wife as “M’am,” and we address her by her first name, but it’s otherwise a friendly relationship. She minds (along with my wife) the children, cleans, cooks, launders, etc. We frankly treat her like she is part of the family. My wife and I are in our mid/late 30s, and our helper in her late 20s, and she is married herself, but her husband lives far away. The helper is a devout Catholic herself.
So, now what do I do this Holy Thursday – wash everybody’s feet, including the helper’s? Just my wife’s and children’s feet? Nobody’s feet? I frankly feel very odd about washing our helper’s feet, I know she would protest and say not to, and that she would feel very uncomfortable with it, but perhaps that’s the whole point?
Your thoughts?
Tony
I seek your opinion/advice, please.
Since my wife and I have been married (6 years), I have made it a tradition to wash her feet on Holy Thursday. I suppose she likes this. She hasn’t objected anyway.
Why do I do this? Well, it seems that our Lord was trying to set an example for us at the Last Supper to be a servant to each other. We sing something or another about being “Christ to one another,” and I suppose that’s perhaps especially so in the context of marriage, so I’d think this would be in keeping with that. Further, it helps keep me humble. I have to admit feeling a tad odd about it, however – but I’ve continued.
God has blessed my wife and me with children, so I’ve continued the tradition with them. I wash their feet too, even though they are only toddlers.
But now the tradition is getting tricky: We’ve moved away from our home in the USA to a country where having domestic live-in help is rather common. We have a good rapport with our live-in maid; she seems to think (or at least act) like we treat her well, pay her well, etc. She addresses me as “Sir” and my wife as “M’am,” and we address her by her first name, but it’s otherwise a friendly relationship. She minds (along with my wife) the children, cleans, cooks, launders, etc. We frankly treat her like she is part of the family. My wife and I are in our mid/late 30s, and our helper in her late 20s, and she is married herself, but her husband lives far away. The helper is a devout Catholic herself.
So, now what do I do this Holy Thursday – wash everybody’s feet, including the helper’s? Just my wife’s and children’s feet? Nobody’s feet? I frankly feel very odd about washing our helper’s feet, I know she would protest and say not to, and that she would feel very uncomfortable with it, but perhaps that’s the whole point?
Your thoughts?
Tony