This may not be helpful for you, but I find that I really need outside structured time to keep up with people. I don’t remember to call, then feel embarassed to admit that I forgot, and then suddenly I haven’t seen a person in months (or years!) even I really got on well with them. I find that if I have a regular time I see someone, especially if it’s associated with some kind of group, that it really helps me keep up friendships. When I was in college, this was my sorority and other interest groups. The outside “pressure” (aka I wasn’t in charge of scheduling the meetings, but was told when they were) was really helpful for me. I just had to show up.
). Maybe you could check out a site like Meetup? You can find groups with similar interests and then events are already scheduled - you just go when you can! I found a great Catholic moms group for my area. You can also get involved in a ministry with your parish that fits your scheduling needs.Have you tried reading time for toddlers at your local library? I see a lot of moms talking to each other there as little ones are listening to the librarian read them a story or if they watch a little puppet show. You can meet some other mom’s there, some may even be single moms as well. I think you said you were a single mom, if not please forgive me.
Yes - be interested in other people, and ask them about themselves. Forget about yourself for a while and be fascinated with everything that they have to say to you, and be interested in what interests them. I don’t mean faking it; I mean, really be interested, and really want to know. Mention things that you like about them - even the ugliest person has a charming smile, so there is always something to compliment.
Exactly. Her interests do not at all match mine for instance. But if I meet someone who likes horses like her for instance, I would try to show interest and learn about horses…Yes - be interested in other people, and ask them about themselves. Forget about yourself for a while and be fascinated with everything that they have to say to you, and be interested in what interests them. I don’t mean faking it; I mean, really be interested, and really want to know. Mention things that you like about them - even the ugliest person has a charming smile, so there is always something to compliment.
That’s how you make friends.
I love horses from afar, lol (biiig racing fan).
I really like nana’s idea!!Have you tried reading time for toddlers at your local library? I see a lot of moms talking to each other there as little ones are listening to the librarian read them a story or if they watch a little puppet show. You can meet some other mom’s there, some may even be single moms as well. I think you said you were a single mom, if not please forgive me.
Also you said horseriding is an interest of yours. Does the place you have your horse, offer riding lessons to kids? That is a great place, the barn, to meet other moms who have their kids taking lessons. You don’t have to be the teacher giving the lessons, just hang out around the barn. I know my daughter made friends with this single woman who had a beautiful horse. In fact, she knew most of the kids who took lessons at that barn because she was there so much. I knew her as well. So the barn is a great place to meet someone. As someone else said, be a friend and soon you will have friends.
Those are just two ideas I had from what you wrote. I hope it helps.