Weary from temptation

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Hi family,
I need help. My desires are wayward. I used to have a problem with pornography and masterbation. Through prayer and repentance by God’s grace i stopped. That was over a year ago. I have not looked at porn or acted out lustfully since.

I was in a chaste relationship with a girl a few months ago.Ever since we broke up, I have had at times very intense temptations to goto porn sites and engage in these old behaviors. Im scared. To make matters worse, I have noticed that in my desires, I want to go, than God I do not. St. Francis de Sales talks about this affection for sin, like when the Israelites left Egypt but still desired their old ways or when Lots wife turned around mourning the destruction of her home and its ways.

I don’t know what to do. I pray that God would change my desires, im just real frustrated. I feel like im growing weary of these temptations and they are wearing away at me. Please pray for me! I need it. I don’t want to turn my back on God and do waht I know to be displeasing in His sight. However, I wish i did not desire things that are sinful like this.

Thanks family. Grace, mercy, peace from God our Father through our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all.
~Matt
 
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Anonymous_1:
I feel like im growing weary of these temptations and they are wearing away at me. Please pray for me! I need it. I don’t want to turn my back on God and do waht I know to be displeasing in His sight. However, I wish i did not desire things that are sinful like this.
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God bless you for appealing for help! I have read that those in hell regret that they did not seek the help of others, nor storm heaven for grace.

I have prayed for you.

Also, here is something to note:

In virtue of special privileges the intercession of St. Joseph is most powerful:

  1. *] first, for attaining the virtue of purity and overcoming the sensual inclinations of the flesh;
    *] secondly, for procuring powerful help to escape sin and return to the friendship of God;
    *] thirdly, for increasing the love and devotion to most holy Mary;
    *] fourthly, for securing the grace of a happy death and protection against the demons in that hour;
    …

    These and many other favors God confers upon those who properly and with good disposition seek the intercession of Saint Joseph…

    Imprimatur: H. J. Alerding, Bishop of Fort Wayne; August 24, 1912

    hurst
 
Hey man, I can say I’ve been there. Whenever stress enters our lives we look for outlets that we think will make us feel better, whether they are right or wrong; unfortunately porn and the like are outlets which often show up, and they are wrong, as you so rightly have discerned. I don’t say this to justify actions, but I say it to let you know that by knowing the causes of such stresses you can also know how to combat the corresponding temptations.

The important thing is that you recognize you don’t want to be doing it (even if you keep having the desire to look) and that you want to be chaste. A break-up is such an easy way for lustful temptations to hook us in; don’t let it! Parts of last semester were pure hell for me because I let that happen! BUT, through lots of prayer, the sacraments, and staying busy with other non-stressful stuff will help. I’ll say a prayer for you.

Peace and prayers,
RockAndHoops

p.s.—I found it hilarious that your username is Anonymous_1 and you signed your post with Matt!
 
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hurst:
God bless you for appealing for help! I have read that those in hell regret that they did not seek the help of others, nor storm heaven for grace.

I have prayed for you.

Also, here is something to note:

In virtue of special privileges the intercession of St. Joseph is most powerful:

  1. *] first, for attaining the virtue of purity and overcoming the sensual inclinations of the flesh;
    *] secondly, for procuring powerful help to escape sin and return to the friendship of God;
    *] thirdly, for increasing the love and devotion to most holy Mary;

    hurst
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  1. I agree with Hurst. Because I also had problems with that (of course, I do NOT have it now …oh well…).
    But you know what really helped me (before I entered a porno site), I took a picture of our blessed Mary and prayed to her for help.
    It seems that She has the power to redirect my mind right away, in fact, rather quickly. Maybe it is her motherly nature, I don’t know, but she is a great helper in this tough temptation.
    tomas
 
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Anonymous_1:
Hi family,
I need help. My desires are wayward. I used to have a problem with pornography and masterbation. Through prayer and repentance by God’s grace i stopped. That was over a year ago. I have not looked at porn or acted out lustfully since.

I was in a chaste relationship with a girl a few months ago.Ever since we broke up, I have had at times very intense temptations to goto porn sites and engage in these old behaviors. Im scared. To make matters worse, I have noticed that in my desires, I want to go, than God I do not. St. Francis de Sales talks about this affection for sin, like when the Israelites left Egypt but still desired their old ways or when Lots wife turned around mourning the destruction of her home and its ways.

I don’t know what to do. I pray that God would change my desires, im just real frustrated. I feel like im growing weary of these temptations and they are wearing away at me. Please pray for me! I need it. I don’t want to turn my back on God and do waht I know to be displeasing in His sight. However, I wish i did not desire things that are sinful like this.

Thanks family. Grace, mercy, peace from God our Father through our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all.
~Matt
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Matt: Daily Mass and frequent Holy Communion (properly disposed, Confession, etc.) is an enormous help against the temptations of the flesh. I said a prayer for you.
 
I can’t repeat it any more…daily mass is incredible in defeating temptation as well as adding a rosary a day to your prayers.At the minimum regular recitation of the Lords Prayer…“lead us not into temptation!” One more thing…put a block on your computer in receiving email etc…use all the terms that could be sent in an email site…and before long you won’t be getting all the popups etc…If you are really serious about cleaning up your desires for porn…you must act on it in a genuine way.
 
thanks for your insites and prayers…

blessings, grace, peace and mercy to you all…
 
Try googling for some wallpapers displaying Jesus or your patron saint. If that’s not possible, place a crucifix or a holy card near you computer. It will definitely deter you from viewing porn.
 
Chastity is my big temptation / struggle too.
I suggest reading about JPII’s Theology of the body. A few authors have been putting out material on these teachings.
JPII - between 1979-1984 I believe- gave about 129 talks on this subject. It deals with every aspecct of sex and human sexuality.
It will blow you away.
The trick with this temptation is to stop desiring to sin. Once you no longer desire to commit a sin you are free.
You only need the law if you want to break it. E.G. Assume your married- I ask you if you want to kill your spouse. You say certainly not.
You don’t need a law telling you not to kill your spouse- so you are free from the law.
It’s the same with chastity. It can be done.
Look into it- I guarantee it’ll blow you away.
 
John Russell Jr:
The trick with this temptation is to stop desiring to sin. Once you no longer desire to commit a sin you are free.
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You’re quite right, but it’s easier said than done.

Yes, Theology of the Body is wonderful, but the we end up doing things that we don’t want to. Concupiscence is really strong and, as St. Anton, I believe, said, lust will cease its power over only a few moments before our death.

I’m afraid that this is the cross of our age, yet Christ has already carried the heavy cross for us. Instead of trying to hide from God out of shame, it’s better to go to His embrace whenever one falls, even if over and over again.

:blessyou:
 
Hi Augustine,

Sadly it is true that we live in a very hedonistic society in the west. We are confronted by pornography and immorality in this area every day. It takes a monumental effort to remain pure without all this - For most men.
But God has commanded it, and God only ever commands what is possible. No matter how hard it is we have to try to overcome lust in ourselves. With the grace of God all things are possible.
As one grows spiritually these battles get easier. I suppose to quickly conquer most sin we would have to do as the saint from Assissi did. We don’t try hard enough to strive for holiness. Myself included. I struggle too. But it has been done many times before.
With the grace of God, all things are possible. A big struggle is needed. And humility when we fail, and trust in God’s mercy.
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Augustine:
You’re quite right, but it’s easier said than done.

Yes, Theology of the Body is wonderful, but the we end up doing things that we don’t want to. Concupiscence is really strong and, as St. Anton, I believe, said, lust will cease its power over only a few moments before our death.

I’m afraid that this is the cross of our age, yet Christ has already carried the heavy cross for us. Instead of trying to hide from God out of shame, it’s better to go to His embrace whenever one falls, even if over and over again.

:blessyou:
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