Wedding Blues

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What is the church’s teaching on attending your daughter’s wedding who has fallen away from the church and no longer considers herself Catholic? Future husband in tinkering with Judaism but non-commital with any religion at this time. They both say Catholism is not an option. My husband feels firm about not going, but sad. I’m torn!:confused:
 
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What is the church’s teaching on attending your daughter’s wedding who has fallen away from the church and no longer considers herself Catholic? Future husband in tinkering with Judaism but non-commital with any religion at this time. They both say Catholism is not an option. My husband feels firm about not going, but sad. I’m torn!:confused:
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Go to the wedding. It’s your daughter. I’m staggered a father wouldn’t show up to his own daughter’s wedding. Very sad. I hope he changes his mind. He’ll regret it one day.
 
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What is the church’s teaching on attending your daughter’s wedding who has fallen away from the church and no longer considers herself Catholic? Future husband in tinkering with Judaism but non-commital with any religion at this time. They both say Catholism is not an option. My husband feels firm about not going, but sad. I’m torn!:confused:
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Talk it over with your priest. There are various reasons to go or not go.The Church does not require that you not go. It requires that you make a good decison on what will help your daughter most. Figure out which side you see as being most efficacious to your daughter’s salvation. You have some options such as limiting your participation or presence at either the wedding or reception.

Search the Ask an Apologists forum for details .
 
Your husband should talk with your priest about his feelings on this.

You both should attend the wedding. Your daughter knows how you both feel about her religious beliefs, and as Catholics you both need to show her your love and support of her, and be there for her on her wedding day. Not being there will cause feelings of abandonment that are hard to mend.

My in-laws did not come to our wedding, which was outside of the church. My husband had fallen away (so had his parents) and we were married in my ‘family’ baptist church (I was not practicing). Last year at our convalidation, also no show. This after 17 years of marriage.

So, if it is any consolation, it took DH about 20 years to come home and I came with him. Imagine what could happen if supportive parents prayed for their daughters return to Catholicism and their SILs conversion?
 
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What is the church’s teaching on attending your daughter’s wedding who has fallen away from the church and no longer considers herself Catholic? Future husband in tinkering with Judaism but non-commital with any religion at this time. They both say Catholism is not an option. My husband feels firm about not going, but sad. I’m torn!:confused:
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I just had this very conversation with a friend today. It is a sad situation, but I completely agree with your husband. I give him a lot of credit for his courage to not attend. It would be hypocritical for one to attend a wedding of this nature and bear witness to a lie. Your attendance at any wedding is an affirmation of the union and you are acting as a witness to the truth of the union, whether you realize it or not. If you do not believe the union is truthful, then you shouldn’t attend, daughter or not.

Good luck to you - it is certainly not an easy decision for any parent to make.
 
Thanks to all of you who answered my question. It was good to get another point of view. We are making an appt. with our priest.
God Bless,
Shellymarie
 
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