What concerns me about those is that I have tried things like that, too. Be careful with that! Well, people on those aren’t always what they seem. They had one case I heard of where a lesbian put up a picture on a site, saying she was a man, and I think she had hundreds of replies!
I had some bad personal experiences with that, where I once was corresponding with a guy in another country. We seemed to really hit it off. I went all the way over there, and he had used an old photograph of himself, when he was younger. He lied about a bunch of stuff. He told me he was supporting his mother. Turned out his mother was supporting him! He said he was working in tourism. He was unemployed!
Also, if somebody is married and lies, says she’s single, how would you know?
If anybody was going to go the internet route, anyway, wouldn’t it be more prudent to start off as friends, not go directly to dating? Well, you don’t know if you want to date that person, yet. How can you know? You can’t.
Since I’ve gotten “burned” on this, I’d just say to take it
SLOW!
I’ve never gotten it to work, personally. However, it seems it’s a little like trying to chase a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it will flee from you. My recommendation is to stop trying so hard.
Times I’ve had relationships were generally when I was not even trying! Honestly! In fact, people have advised others to stop trying…that it makes one look desperate. When we look desperate, it pushes people away, like it or not.
I have this problem, as well. My mother advised me that, and I’m passing this advice along to you.
I’m an introvert, VERY different. I don’t fit in, but in all honesty, I guess I also don’t want to!
I find people, and I have even had people offer to take me out. I mean I had a doctor and a dentist just since I’ve been here this last time! However, I’m pretty sure these two were both married! So, that’s no good!
It’s hard. I have decided not to compromise, though. As rough as this is, I’d rather be alone than go with someone who isn’t right for me.
I’m also not unsympathetic. I know VERY well what it’s like to be alone. It’s brutal. We weren’t designed for that. I wish I had advice, but I’m in need of it myself on this matter. When I get some advice, I’ll let you know!
