What are some good dating advice books for the single catholic man

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Hey there. I’m looking for some suggestions on books out there on dating. I’m catholic so while I’d like to read a good book for that is a single catholic male guide to dating, or a dating advice book that is secular but does not promote the hookup culture.

Any suggestions would be appreciated!
 
Do you know other Catholics who are happily married? Ask them.

Books of that sort are written to sell books.

You make friends, you ask women on dates, you are respectful and do not push the boundaries of chastity. When women say no to a date, you don’t think it is the end of the world, you ask someone else.

Date Catholic women.

Make sure you are the best version of yourself, well groomed, confident, compassionate, well read and love God.
 
Your best option would probably be CatholicMatch. They have quite a few resources.
 
I’d like to know where is “there”. That’s a serious question. Where do you go to meet a 40 something catholic single woman? At mass, it’s the same people every week. Not an option at work. Bars are out. I’ve looked at the online thing, and have mixed feelings about it. It’s a great way to filter people. For example, catholicmatch let’s you specify important things such as politics (convservative, very conservative), faith (how often you attend and what mass you prefer) and whether or not you accept all the teachings of the Church, or just some. I like that feature a lot. But you also have to be a good salesman/writer and photogenic. I’d much rather go to a place and be seen in person and speak freely about whatever comes up.

There really isn’t much of anything going on here in South Jersey for that. All the Church sponsored groups are for young Catholics or couples. I checked that site meetup, but there is no Catholic groups for my age group.
 
Granted, I do not know my Jersey Geography, but, the Diocese of Camden has Theology on Tap (ToT events don’t kick you out if you are in your 40s)


Diocese has many active ministries, this one would pique my interest:


National Catholic Singles


What are your interests? Join or start a Singles Ministry at your parish or a nearby parish. All you need is to get the Pastor to give the OK, reserve the Hall or decide to meet at a local restaurant or host a Game Night. Advertise on the Parish Social Media, have the Diocese blast it out to area parishes, make announcements at Mass, and start a club!
 
Thank you for the links and ideas. I heard about the ToT before and looked it up. But it was geared towards college kids.
This week I started going to a Church history class at the Parish I go to (I live in the Trenton Diocese but go to a Camden Diocese parish as they have the Traditional Latin Mass). I’m also thinking of sitting in on the RCIA classes as a refresher.
 
For me they are out because I’m not a drinker, but also because I think it’s the wrong demographic. Maybe groups of 20 or 30 something single women may try a bar, but single women in their 40s probably don’t have a group of single friends without responsibilities to go bar hopping with.
 
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but single women in their 40s probably don’t have a group of single friends without responsibilities to go bar hopping with
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Wow, and that is why, as a young widow, I do not think I will ever date.

I hope you did not meant his to sound as “patronizing” as it comes across. As a woman, couple years ago when I was in my 40’s, my friends and I would go out to hear bands/comics or to have some drinks, we are very responsible and not at all unique.

If I, as a woman, feel a kinda judgy tone in your post, maybe that is coming across in your personal interactions? Really, find a group of friends, mixed genders, and get to know some women as real people as opposed to what one sees//reads in media.
 
I’m very sorry if that came out wrong. From experience, 40s are usually taken up with working late, carting kids around, sports practice and games, tournaments, birthday parties and family gatherings. With all of this craziness going on, you don’t have much time to get out (I know, I was married for 21 years). So if a single buddy wanted to hangout, our schedules usually didn’t sync.
Again TheLittleLady, I apologize for not being more clear in what I was trying to convey. Please take no offence.
 
Also, please note that I wasn’t the one asking for a dating book. Just ideas for places to go.
 
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