What Are Your Joys & Challenges As A Parent Or A Spouse?

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Counting our blessings is an ability we should be able to master in adult life. In our day and age, parents/spouses who constantly face challenges in family life need this habit of counting blessings.

Let us know about your joys/ blessings and challenges as a parent or spouse. Your experience will surely be helpful to others.
 
My greatest joy is the woman God blessed me with as a wife. Close runner-ups are are 3 children. I am so happy when I hear the kids get up in the morning laughing and having fun…
 
i dont have children but my greatest joys as a wife are knowing that someone in the world loves me unconditionally and lying next to that man every night. he is an amazing husband and partner. my greatest challenges are letting go of control of so many things i was in charge of in my single life such as the bills and the decisions. also adjusting my lifestyle to meet the needs of my husband. and allowing myself to mess up with out feeling like a bad wife. i adore my husband and being married, it is the greatest gift God has ever blessed me with.
 
This IS a great thread.

I have so many joys. God lead me to a spouse who adores me. He never fails to tell me how much he loves me at least a dozen (or more) times a day. He does so many little things for me without being asked. I don’t always deserve them either!

I was granted the blessing of two wonderful children - my daughter is 13 going on 40. She doesn’t like pop music or any of those ‘stars’ (which we don’t have on at our house, but from what she’s seen she’s VERY turned off on how these young ‘ladies’ dress and act). She’s really learning to make some great choices, things I wouldn’t expect but am so proud that she came to them on her own.

As I said in another thread, my son is 10 and autistic. He has been one of my biggest blessings ever. HE has taught ME so much. I do think that God brings us children like my son, not because they’re mistakes, or ‘not normal’ but to teach us things we never would have learned otherwise. Everyone who is in contact with my son just adores him and wants to take him home. I think he has spread much joy to many people with his perspective on life.

When I sit back and think of what God has given me. I really feel unworthy. These are times when I try harder to be a better wife and mother. I just hope I can give them a little of what they’ve given me.
 
I love to hear my kids laugh. What joy. I also find joy in seeing them pray. I take them to Adoration with me and find such joy in seeing them learn our wonderful religion.

I got teary when my oldest got up from the pew on his own and said the stations of the cross by himself. True joy!
 
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Counting our blessings is an ability we should be able to master in adult life. In our day and age, parents/spouses who constantly face challenges in family life need this habit of counting blessings.
Let us know about your joys/ blessings and challenges as a parent or spouse. Your experience will surely be helpful to others.
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Bless You. I do think counting blessings is so important rather than dwelling on the negative and how hard things are. (I tend to do this sometimes)–as many do.

I have had many challenges in my life, particularly with my husband, and of course the challenges as well of having all very strong-willed children.!!! WOW–just last night one of my sons is learning about the Colonial Period in History. The definition of a “slave” was “someone who works all the time”. I said “that’s mom”…we both laughed! I never would have dreamed having a marriage and a family was such hard work!!! But it surely is. That’s why I cannot even comprehend moms who have families and work full-time.

I thank God daily for my life and all He’s given me. There has been many divine providences in my life–too many to even name. Maybe we should start a thread for such. Probably many have some they’d like to share sometime.🙂

Love, Sparkle
 
Challanges in marriage?

Most of mine were in earlier in my marriage. When were were young, immature and when I wanted to “win” the arguement, when I wanted things “my way.”

Challenges included watching my alcoholic husband fight with every inch of his energy to say sober and lose. To pick him up from from jail after him being arrested for drunk driving (and smashing our only car.) Thanks be to God not hitting anything but a pole. Seeing my beloved husband so chronically depressed he could barely raise himself from the couch. Getting a letter in the mail from the county about an exgirlfriend claiming a paternity suit against my husband. And after spending thousands of dollars in legal fees, we with relief get the test results -negitive. And others I rarely like to recount.

Joys? The day I got married. But better yet this summer getting our marriage convalidated. Watching my husband get baptized. Seeing my husband hold our tiny baby up for me to see after my cesarian section. Seeing my husband smile again afer finally being treated for depression.Hearing my husband read scripture aloud for our daughter before bed. Seeing my formerly agnostic husband close his eyes in prayer at Mass. Joys - seeing my daughter do a happy dance on my hubby’s last pack of cigarettes on new years - he is now offically addiction free. Glory to God!

Joys are having my bestfriend for my husband. Having someone who really understands me and supports me. Having someone to talk to that never makes me feel stupid. Being married to a “toys r us kid” who keeps me laughing and keeps me from taking myself to seriously.

Challenges now are keeping the house clean, paying the bills ontime and getting enough sleep. Cake walk compared to the earlier years. (Not that I do any of the above particularily well.)

What’s the best? Looking into my husbands eyes and knowing those are the same eyes that looked at me with love when he was only 17 and after all these years and trials (ok I know it’s only been 14 years) knowing the love is sweeter than ever.
 
Joys:
My children laughing and playing together, comforting each other.
My husband’s smiles and compliments.
Nursing my babies.
Holding my sleeping infant.
Seeing my children develop.
Seeing my children enjoy their various interests.
Seeing how different our children are from each other.

Challenges:
Non-Catholic husband, and trying to instill the faith pretty much alone.
Rarely any adult conversation during the day.
What to do when the children are bickering.
Family far away, so no help or support.
Tough to give up cleaning or “doing” something concrete, for the less concrete task of baby- or toddler-tending.
Tough to live in a messy house when baby comes home!
 
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