They talk to me as what they see a Catholic to be, which, believe me, is not what I am, have never been. They really stereotype, oversimplify. I find this in both nonCatholics who dislike and those who like the Catholic Church. Or the image of the Church I mean. Their image of the Church, not mine, nor how I view the Catholic Church, what it is to be Catholic, to be Christian. The latter is the lens through which I see my experience in the former. Usually this is the first thing you have to try and get a (hostile) nonCatholic to understand is even possible. For me this is the most important part, this is what you take with you, what my faith is all about.