I don’t think that showing your mom anything ought to be a major concern.once the boundaries are in place, what can I do that still shows that I’m honoring her?
I think this is where I’m hitting. The way I learned honor, there was no difference. The only model of honoring a parent I’ve ever heard involved listening to them and respecting their opinions and being available when they need you and all that. So if that’s not working, I feel like I have nothing left other than “try to manufacture nice feelings about her” or something.Your job is just to honor and love your mom, not make her feel honored or loved.
You can’t make her feel honored, especially if she’s determined to feel otherwise (which seems to be the case, I apologize if I’ve misinterpreted). You can’t wrap your entire life around someone’s whims, not even a parent’s. I know it’s very hard – my relationship with my own mother was quite difficult – but you have to do the best you know how.I think this is where I’m hitting. The way I learned honor, there was no difference. The only model of honoring a parent I’ve ever heard involved listening to them and respecting their opinions and being available when they need you and all that. So if that’s not working, I feel like I have nothing left other than “try to manufacture nice feelings about her” or something.
I mean, I got that. But the issue is, I literally have nothing other than “do what she likes” or “don’t bother honoring her at all.” And I know neither of those are right, but I don’t know what is.You can’t make her feel honored, especially if she’s determined to feel otherwise (which seems to be the case, I apologize if I’ve misinterpreted). You can’t wrap your entire life around someone’s whims, not even a parent’s. I know it’s very hard – my relationship with my own mother was quite difficult – but you have to do the best you know how.