What happens if wife divorces me?

[sandmansrna]

I’m a several year old Catholic convert. My wife has not yet converted. We were married in a Lutheran church. We are currently seperated–at her request. It’s likely that she may decide to divorce me even though that’s not what I want. Without getting into the dynamics of the relationship, I’m curious if anyone knows how this will affect my standing with the church. I should emphasize that I won’t agree to a divorce, but I suppose eventually if she wants out then the court will oblige her.

Would I be able to remarry in the Church?

I’m hoping the marraige can be saved, but I’m also worried about my standing with the Church and ability to remarry in the future (someday) should things not work out.

Thanks,
Sandman

 

[SMHW]

I’m a several year old Catholic convert. My wife has not yet converted. We were married in a Lutheran church. We are currently seperated–at her request. It’s likely that she may decide to divorce me even though that’s not what I want. Without getting into the dynamics of the relationship, I’m curious if anyone knows how this will affect my standing with the church. I should emphasize that I won’t agree to a divorce, but I suppose eventually if she wants out then the court will oblige her.

Would I be able to remarry in the Church?

I’m hoping the marraige can be saved, but I’m also worried about my standing with the Church and ability to remarry in the future (someday) should things not work out.

Thanks,
Sandman

Did you get a dispensation to marry in a Lutheran Church?

 

[1ke]

I’m curious if anyone knows how this will affect my standing with the church.

Divorce does not bar you from the Church or the Sacraments. You should discuss your situation with your priest regarding any confession/absolution needed on your part.

Would I be able to remarry in the Church?

Your marriage would need to be investigated by the Tribunal to determine validity and sacramentality. There are many variables, and therefore your question cannot be answered here and can only be answered after a Tribunal examination has declared whether you are free to marry.

Based on the information you posted, you seem to be saying that both you and your wife were Protestants when you married in the Lutheran Church. Your marriage is presumed to be valid and sacramental. Again, discuss your situation-- if and when your wife does move forward with divorce-- with your priest.

 

[sandmansrna]

Thanks for your help. Yes, we were protestants when we were married. I guess what I mean is: if I don’t want a divorce yet my wife leaves me suddenly and won’t consider staying married does that have any impact on MY standing with the church. I’m sure that this happens every now and again to people-- they get blindsided and a spouse leaves.

I’m not saying that a marriage isn’t a two-way street, but when one person gives up (suddenly) there isn’t much the other person can do.

Thanks,

Sandman

 

[1ke]

Thanks for your help. Yes, we were protestants when we were married. I guess what I mean is: if I don’t want a divorce yet my wife leaves me suddenly and won’t consider staying married does that have any impact on MY standing with the church. I’m sure that this happens every now and again to people-- they get blindsided and a spouse leaves.

I thought I answered your question. No, it does not impact your “standing” in the church.

If a divorce does occur you need to discuss it with your priest at that time regarding the situation, any need for confession (there may or may not be that need in your case, the priest can help you discern), and how to move forward in a tribunal investigation if you desire.