What I've been thinking about on the awful day I had

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Hello everyone,
I had a really awful day today. I have been dealing with severe depression and anxiety and my mother just blows off some of my problems. I tried to talk to her so many times, but she does not listen. Lately, I have been questioning God,it seems like I have no purpose and he is just ignoring me. I just wish my heart would stop hurting and I could feel like a normal person for one day. Prayers/advice would be appreciated.
 
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If you have been feeling depressed and anxious for a period of time and it doesn’t let up, maybe you should consider speaking with a clinical psychologist, who might be able to help you sort things out.
 
Prayers for you. Please also do not neglect to consult a therapist if need be.
 
It’s possible your mom’s not being mean so much as she really doesn’t know what to say or do, especially if this is a long standing situation.
 
It must be hard. It is hard to trust God when it seems like he is just letting you suffer. I also suffer from anxiety and depression and I know how it must feel for you. I’m not sure how it is at your house, but it must be hard if she doesn’t listen to you. Maybe you can talk to your dad or some other adult you are close to. You could also try writing your mom a letter. That way she has no way of interrupting what you are saying. And if you are not able to get treatment because of your mom then at least talk to a trusted adult like a family member or priest or teacher. I hope things get better for you!

Sometimes the pain is so much and you feel alone and hopeless. Turn to God and tell him how you feel and ask him to shoe you his love for you. Also turn to Mary your mother
 
Unfortunately, my dad is the same is my mom and my family isn’t helpful either. I can’t talk to any adult that actually listens to me(which happens to be a priest and the pastoral associate)because my parents don’t like me talking to them. Thank you.
 
I’m sorry about that. I wonder why your parents don’t listen to you. Do you go to school? Could there be someone there who could help? What about friends or their parents if you know them well enough? Or your godparents or confirmation sponsor if you are close enough. Even if you don’t feel very comfortable telling someone you don’t know very well I am sure someone would be willing to help or at least give you a listening ear. It must be a hard situation. I am sorry
 
I’m not even Catholic, but I want to be and of course my parents are completely against me becoming one. My family knows some of this, but I gave up on them. I do go to school and I have talked to my guidance counselor and he’s been somewhat helpful. Anyway, thank you for your comment, it was heartwarming.
 
I will pray for you. Please see a doctor and/or mental health counselor regarding your depression and anxiety. A parent is often not equipped to deal with that, any more than a parent is equipped to remove your appendix or fill a tooth cavity.
 
Wow, I never would have guessed you were not Catholic from reading your other comments. Once you officially become an adult you can choose for yourself to become Catholic, but if must be hard if your parents don’t like it. It is great that you are trying to learn more and embrace the Faith even when in a sense you are being “persecuted” for it
 
Many of the saints have had periods of emotional dryness that almost drove them to despair, often called the “dark night of the soul”. St. Teresa of Calcutta spent most of her life in this state. Suffering is often an invitation by God to make your love of Him more genuine; less dependent on emotion. I will pray for you, and I’m happy you’re interested in Catholicism!
 
On the other end of the spectrum, I can remember a story about a saint who would regularly pray “Please God, no more joy. I cannot stand so much joy!”.
 
You feel that your parents don’t listen to you, but could there be some truth in that they feel you don’t listen to them?
Do you go over the same ground with them often, so that they feel weary and don’t know anymore what to say to you?
Sometimes lack of effective communication goes both ways.
Lots of words spoken don’t always add up to genuine mutual communication.

This may not be true. It’s just a thought. I’ve seen this happen, so it’s, at the least, one possible view of the situation.

A difficulty with the distance of internet discussions is that we have no way of seeing what is actually occurring in anyone’s life or in their actual situation, and conversely, how the other people in the situation or relationship perceive and understand the issues.

Regardless, may God bless both you and your parents, and may He give joy to you all in each other, and in your lives
 
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If I can make a recommendation, if your circumstances allow find some daily time to spend in nature (just sit, observe, and breathe) and some time for journaling. Coupling those times with prayer can have a very powerful effect on stress and depression. They are no substitute for therapy or medical attention where that’s needed, but they are nonetheless helpful, especially when you have difficulties finding a voice for your thoughts and feelings. It won’t end there, but it might make a decent start… continue to try (gently) to reach out to your parents - you’re at the age where that’s a challenge for most. Continue taking with the guidance counselor. Continue to vent here with us. Spout off with a good friend. Whatever it takes - just bear in mind we’re all human and have our faults.
 
Perhaps she doesn’t know what to say? This was 25 years ago for me, but at first my mother didn’t understand my depression. It took a little time, but she learned about it and even went with me to a couple of appointments with the doctor. Maybe she needs a bit of time and education. If you don’t suffer from depression it can be a difficult thing to understand.
 
My mother actually does understand my depression and even let me go on antidepressants but I don’t think she understands what depresses me, even though I told her and tried to explain it many times. She went through a similar problem like mine when she was my age and I thought she would understand me.
 
@awesomecatholic , The Lord is with you in your suffering, and you are with Him in His sufferings. Tell Him to use you as He wishes (if you haven’t already).

It is OK to not feel OK. It is painful, yes, but don’t try to run away from the pain; that will only make it worse. Sit with the pain, with Jesus. Constantly be telling Jesus how you feel, and how much it hurts, while at the same time not giving up on healing your depression.

Depression is a real illness and it’s usually curable or at least manageable. It isn’t the same thing as the Dark Night of the soul, although they can overlap sometimes.

Please be encouraged. This too shall pass. I’ll keep your in my prayers.
 
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