I think that this question is a very important question to ask.
I am in RCIA, having done most of my Bible study from an Evangelical Christian point of view.
First of all, we are not promised happiness in this world. But St. Paul found that he could be
content in every circumstance (and he faced an extreme variety of circumstances).
Philippians 4:6-13 (Douay-Rheims)
Be nothing solicitous; but in every thing, by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasseth all understanding, keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. For the rest, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever modest, whatsoever just, whatsoever holy, whatsoever lovely, whatsoever of good fame, if there be any virtue, if any praise of discipline, think on these things. The things which you have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, these do ye, and the God of peace shall be with you. Now I rejoice in the Lord exceedingly, that now at length your thought for me hath flourished again, as you did also think; but you were busied. I speak not as it were for want. For I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, to be content therewith. I know both how to be brought low, and I know how to abound: (everywhere, and in all things I am instructed) both to be full, and to be hungry; both to abound, and to suffer need. I can do all these things in him who strengtheneth me.
The keys to contentment are clearly
mental – “think on these things”. And what things are we to think about? The spiritual things that Paul has taught us and that he showed through the example of his life. As Catholics, we know to look to the lives of canonized saints to see their “living interpretation” of God’s Word – how they applied scriptural truths to their actual life circumstances.
A dear friend of mine (a non-Catholic) who unfortunately died about nine years ago taught me four ways our mental habits can influence our contentment. Just as we might have good or bad physical habits (going to Mass on Sundays, daily prayer, smoking, nail-biting, etc.), we also have mental habits. So it is important to train our minds so we will have good mental habits. And to reduce and eventually eliminate our poor mental habits. Although Larry was not Catholic, so much of what he taught me is also in Catholic writings.
(1) God considers that we are very important. Jesus died for us. We must realize how important we are in God’s eyes. And in our dealings with others, it helps whenever we confirm that the other person and their needs are important to us. If you ever treat somebody like they are unimportant, you are very likely to see their anger and you may make an enemy.
(2) Dwell on the good things in other people. There is good and bad in everyone. If you dwell on the bad things in others, then you will not be content with that other person. Mother Theresa saw Jesus in the sick, poor and dying in Calcutta, India.
(3) We have enough. Do not continue the mental habit of wanting more. Book 1, Chapter 4 of the “Imitation of Mary” by Alexander De Rouville says “
However few our treasures in this world, they are always sufficient; but we can never have too many of the benefits of grace.” I really consider myself quite blessed that I might someday be worthy to have received the book “Imitation of Mary”. Thank you Mary, for answering my recent prayers that I might learn more about your virtues. I also recently got “Mary Day by Day” and St. Louis Grignion de Montfort’s “The Secret of the Rosary”. Many people who are rich according to the world do not see anything else but the things in this world. How much money does it take to be in God’s will? You don’t need more.
(4) Have a giving attitude instead of having a gimme-gimme, get-get attitude. When your relationships with others is based on what you can get from them, you will not be content with those relationships. Because “the greatest of these is Love”. Love requires a sacrifice. Love will last.
Lastly, I suppose praying the Rosary often is as good a place as any to start when it comes to training the mind. When we pray the Rosary, our mind is on spiritual things.
Learn to pray the Rosary if you do not yet know how. If you learn to love the Rosary and like to pray it often, consider joining the Rosary Confraternity. See
rosary-center.org/