What should I do about this friendship?

[SeanF1989]

We have been friends for 3 years however there will be no contact unless I instigate contact either text, email or talking in person. I always plan the hangouts and am always the one to make the suggestion and when we do hangout it is very brief and he always seems to be in a rush to get home and get.more involved with his other friends. When he does visit I feel it’s out of convince or duty since we always try to meet when he comes home for the summer. I have always put more effort into the friendship and even though he says he will try he never emails, calls or texts.

I have never been included in birthday celebrations, this year he went on holiday and told me he would message me as soon as we got back so we could hang out and I could give him his gift. That was in August and since then no texts, no calls nothing. Now he has gone back to college (in another city) and not told me.

I have no idea what to do.

I thought I should mention that he began the friendship with me first. Also I have had this problem before, I tried to let it go and see how it went but now I am unsure.

 

[humbleseeker]

You say your friend is back at college, how old is he? In a previous post you’ve mentioned you were 30.

 

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

You’re being ghosted.
Let this relationship fade.

That being said, it’s okay to remember the good times and give yourself a chance to grieve (because loss of a friendship is a legitimate loss), but it’s time for you to focus on your other relationships.

 

[Irishmom2]

You should not have to work so hard to maintain a friendship. You can’t force it. It sounds like he is not really interested in being friends and is just going through the motions to spare your feelings.

Let it go. It’s run it’s course.

 

[SeanF1989]

1. I have other friends around my age too. I just enjoy his company just as much as my other friends.