What should I do when my friend outright tells me that he is sinning gravely?

[TLM08]

I don’t think the lack of porn is the reason women are mistreated in these countries. It’s not that black and white. These societies lack the idea of human diginity in general. Human life isn’t held as precious. Hurting and killing people for minor offenses is the norm.

Porn takes an act that is reserved for married people and is sacramental and cheapens and degrades it. How is this GOOD for society? What good comes from porn??

btw, I don’t allow VS catalogues in my house any more–I personally think they cross the line of good taste, I don’t need seductive poses to buy undies . Perhaps not porn, but not needed.

I agree with you. Porn does not make a society better. But I think that we are barking up the wrong tree when we focus too much energy on sexual sins.

Do you really believe that society is harmed whenever some lonely old man looks at a Playboy magazine?

I believe in that Jesus is much more saddened by war, genocide, abortion, torture and the incredible greed that runs amok in this world.

 

[rwoehmke]

Hi everyone. Last night, I was talking to my best friend who will remain unnamed. Anyway, he outright told me over the internet that he was viewing pornography. I didn’t know what to do. I told him that I could not condone his actions. This got in to an argument where he thought I was judging him and I didn’t know what else to do. I mean, if a person is speeding towards a bridge that is out, the best thing to do would be to warn them that the bridge is out, right? He already knows that viewing pornography is a grave sin in the eyes of the Catholic Church but he does not agree with the Catholic Church on hardly anything. He is an Agnostic. He hopes that there is a God but he does not know that there is a God. What am I supposed to do? Should I just simply say something like “Oh ok.” when he tells me this and leave it at that or should I tell him that it is wrong? He already knows that it is wrong so what good would it do to tell him that when he disagrees with me? I’m so confused. Please help!

Could he possibly be one of those guys who says something like this hoping to draw you into some computer sex? Fortunately you responded appropriately. Burn him off and communicate with someone who is not a slime ball.

 

[Podo2005]

I agree with you. Porn does not make a society better. But I think that we are barking up the wrong tree when we focus too much energy on sexual sins.

Do you really believe that society is harmed whenever some lonely old man looks at a Playboy magazine?

I believe in that Jesus is much more saddened by war, genocide, abortion, torture and the incredible greed that runs amok in this world.

Sin is sin my friend,whether or not we can distinguish between some really grave sin ( i.e. Pride) and something less graver ( Lust) sin equals sin. Jesus is saddened by ANY sin. And any sin ( no matter how trivial it may seem to you) will harm society. And considering a good number of people struggle with this particular sin we cant leave it alone.

 

[The_Stig]

Tell him to stop.

Tell him to go to confession.

Wow, we could have saved an entire thread. Think of all of the trees that had to die to make the electricity that got wasted on needless posts!

I’m kidding, I really hate trees.