What should I do? Wife found a medal on the floor at Mass

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While In the Crying Room during mass trying to calm down our kids my wife found a miraculous medal and showed me, I don’t remember if I Told her to leave it where she found it but it looked old and lost for a good while…But she took it for her own.

So anyway I forgot about the whole thing since it happened so long ago and she showed me her charm bracelet the other day with all her medal collections, and there was the miraculous medal on it, she’s quite happy with it…

Should I tell her to bring it back to mass and leave it where she found it or should I not confront her about it and let her decide? Not sure what to do.

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There’s no problem. She found it; it’s her’s. Who knows, maybe it was left for someone to find?
 
Kind of why I’m apprehensive to confront her and cause her unnecessary guilt, i feel guilty for picking up a quarter on the ground so I know what I’d do but she doesn’t seem concerned
 
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I think it approaches it because there is reason to believe it belongs to someone else
 
There’s no reason to confront her and no reason for her to feel guilt. She didn’t steal it… she found it.
 
Miraculous medals are generally inexpensive and easy to replace, no one had reported it lost, and she is treating it with respect.
It’s fine for her to keep it.
And yes, often religious items that people don’t want are left randomly in churches hoping another will pick it up and use it.
 
I would think it useless to put it now where it was found long ago.
There is no way to return it to the owner now.
Personally, I would have left it where it was found in such a case. If I lost something I valued, I would go to all the places where I had been with it. The owner might have done this.
But I wouldn’t rebuke your wife about it.
 
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Tis_Bearself said:
Miraculous medals are generally inexpensive and easy to replace, no one had reported it lost, and she is treating it with respect.
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This. If it were gold or diamonds, someone would have placed an announcement in the bulletin or something.
 
I appreciate the insight all! I think I will just let it be since it doesn’t seem to have much of any monetary value, I suffer from scruples and I’d hate to trigger some in my non scruples wife
 
Parish lost & found baskets are overflowing with certain items. Reading glasses and rosaries and medals are in the top 5.

By extension, the mailboxes of the faithful are overflowing with unwanted trinkets. If you donate to a Catholic charity, you are placed on their mailing list (and eventually sold to other charities). Then you receive medals, rosaries, relics, and other tchochkes, which they hope will induce you to donate. Then people come to church and try to leave it conspicuously on a shelf.

Even if the medal was purchased in a gift store, it was about $1.50 and came from a box of hundreds. They are sold without a chain and there’s one stamped for every saint in Heaven, and then some.
 
Believe me, when people lose something, they call the parish and ask for it. We also have a “lost and found” that is kinda shocking what gets lost. After no one has claimed something for awhile, we donate it.
 
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i feel guilty for picking up a quarter on the ground
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You sound like you may suffer from scruples. Hopefully if you “confront” your wife about this she will laugh. Most people do not feel guilty about these type of things. Either way is fine of course, but he sure you let her have her own feelings! Just because it makes you feel guilt does not make it wrong. Finding a cheap trinket - even if a religious one - and picking it up to keep is not immoral. Some may choose to leave it on the ground anyway, others may not. If you leave it, there’s a good chance the vacuum would get it.
 
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I suffer from scruples and I’d hate to trigger some in my non scruples wife
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Does she know about your scruples? I doubt you’d trigger them in her - some personalities seem to be immune. But there’s a chance her perspective could help YOU! 🙂
 
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