Tom,
Your position is not in line with the Catholic church which also believes in baptism by blood or desire, as well as the possibility for others to “unite” themselves to the church despite their not knowing about it. The Catholic church even acknowledges the salvation of people who reject the church because of an ingrained bias that keeps them from seeing the truth about it.
It was not very long ago that suicide victims were denied church funerals and everyone knew that the person was in hell for his choice. Today, the Catholic church teaches that mental and emotional illness mitigate their full knowledge and consent, which means they very well might be in heaven. It says we must leave these people to the mercy of God and pray for their souls.
OK–let me give it to you in western terms.
People who have not heard the Good News can reach salvation (according to the Catholic Church) by aligning themselves with the natural law.
People who die in what appears to not be a state of grace might have mitigating influence which did not allow the person to freely consent to the turning from God.
A baby in the womb or out of it who is incapable of understanding the Good News is living according to the natural law. Though he might die in what appears to be a lack of grace, mitigating circumstances about the child’s full consent and will bring into question any distancing from God. Therefore, according to this round-about argument that comes straight from the western church, this baby could very well have full salvation upon its death.
I prefer to simply say that we leave the child to the mercy of God.
It is obvious that you do not hold views in alignment with the very same church you quote, and that you desire the last word. I will let you have it.