What will be required of a non-Catholic spouse when his child seeks confirmation?

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My son, who is Catholic along with my wife, will probably be confirmed in a year or so. I have no clue how to proceed, to make this a good experience for him (and her). What will be required of me? What will be expected? Any thoughts will be welcome. Thank you.
 
Outside of attending the confirmation ceremony and being supportive, there really aren’t any requirements of you. You can be as involved as you want.
 
As a catholic husband with two catholic girls, my wife is not a catholic. She supports me simply by accepting our journey of faith as our own journey and that’s about it. In turn, the only suggestion I could offer is to accept that your wife and son are on a journey and you are a helper, drive them to classes, go to the special masses and retreats, just support whichever way you can. And, as a bonus round, if you’d like to just keep your eyes and ears open for the actions and words from your wife and son, their spiritual energy, guided by the Holy Spirit, may just might seep into your soul and start stirring things so you might just join them in their journey of faith.

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The Church will not require you to do anything.

However, the priest, deacon, or parish staff might (or might not) invite you to attend RCIA classes. RCIA classes teach you about the Catholic Church and taking them does NOT automatically mean you intend to become Catholic.

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Thanks for the information. I should throw some kind of party, though, right? Also, are godparents required?
 
Thank you, 1ke. Turning the question around, then, what can or should I do?
 
I think it’s very important for teens to see their father active in a faith. You are not Catholic but you can still lead your family in prayer, Christian charity, and living a Christian life. Take an interest in what they are learning. Talk about it. Especially morality. Go to church with the family. If you’re comfortable with that. I don’t know what you are currently doing.

As for confirmation itself, learn about the sacrament from the Catholic perspective and what it means. It is a completion of baptism and a strengthening of the gifts of the Holy Spirit. Learn about the gifts of the Holy Spirit, the fruit of the spirit, and the beatitudes. Talk to your teen about those three things. Talk about what it means to be a Catholic and practice the faith.

I think it’s wonderful that you want to support your child in his confirmation or her confirmation.
 
I am the director of youth ministry in our parish. You can volunteer when needed. We have several events every year and I am always begging for male chaperones. To help with many things in youth ministry you don’t have to be Catholic.

Other than that, support your child, ensure he makes it to class/group, and be there for the big things.
 
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My son, who is Catholic along with my wife, will probably be confirmed in a year or so. I have no clue how to proceed, to make this a good experience for him (and her). What will be required of me? What will be expected? Any thoughts will be welcome. Thank you.
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God bless you for being so supportive of your wife and son. May you have a blessed experience seeing your son receiving the Sacrament of Confirmation in the Catholic Church.
 
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