Whatt do you all think?

[pakengkeng]

three nights ago ,my dear young sister passed away from cancer.when she placed under hospice care ,her MDs told her husband and parents in law that she may die in 2-3 days.it didnt happen .she lived longer for over a week ,and during those days ,my b-i-l and her m-i-l were alternately doing vigil at the hospice facility.about an hour,after her demise ,my b-i-l called and told me , that he spoke to my sister and told her ,that if she is ready to go ,then she should go ,as he and my nephew will be okay .just few minutes after that ,she took her last breath.i guessed he was tired of ‘waiting’ .im not happy of what he did .was it okay for him to say those words ??? im deeply hurt ,as i was going to visit her next week ,thinking that she would still be alive at that time.now ,i will fly to see her for memorial service.i dont know ,but while she was still on palliative care,he was already calling concerned individuals about what my sister left her e.g. stocks ,life insurance etc…do you all think ,im overreacting? my sister was very secretive,she even hid her disease from us ,as she didnt want us to worry. the last time ,i spent time with them ,before she got ill ,my nephew was cold to her mother .he used to be very close .b-i-l told me recently that my sister was the 3rd woman in his life ,who passed away at his young age of early 40’s. further narrated that he will not remarry anymore.

 

[Gilly_flower]

It is impossible for doctors to be accurate in their predictions as to when death will occur. I was told when my mother was diagnosed with cancer that it was terminal, but that she could live “for days - even weeks” yet. In the event she died in less than 48 hours, a peaceful death with those she loved best at her side.
My father was himself ill when my mother was dying, and I knew that his ongoing care would have been a source of great anguish to her - so although she was unconscious I took her hand and promised I would care for him, and that she was free to leave us.
She died very shortly afterwards, and I was relieved her suffering was over, even as ours began.
You would not have wished your sister to linger on in pain or in fear, so try to be happy that she is in God’s very gentle hands. As are you.

 

[PaulfromIowa]

I am sorry for your loss. Remember the happy times that you had with her. Yes, it was all right for her husband to say what he did. Surely, you didn’t want her suffering to be prolonged if she was ready to go. Say a prayer for the repose of her soul.

 

[Roseeurekacross]

I am so sorry for your loss.

St Mary MacKillop of the Cross is Australia’s Saint. She spent a lot of her time in my Diocese.

One very famous anecdote about her is this.

There were a group praying to her to heal a woman with cancer. The woman held on for weeks.
One day they decided to pray for God’s Will, through our great Saint (not canonised then).
The woman died very shortly after,

I will keep your family in my prayers.

 

[Catholic1954]

Yes, it was ok for your brother in law to give your sister permission to go. God was calling her home, but she needed to be reassured that her loved ones would be ok. I am sorry for your loss; my sister died from cancer, three years ago, and it is a horrible, horrible experience.

 

[St_Francis]

Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord. Let They perpetual light shine upon her, and may she rest in peace.

I also wouldn’t worry about what your bil said about any inheritance. Sometimes when people have an enormous sorrow unfolding, they need to distract their minds from time to time, and they do odd things like paperwork, or cleaning out the fridge.

Be at peace and pray for her soul and for your family members.

 

[tawny]

Praying for the repose of your sister’s soul & for her family. As others have stated; there was nothing wrong in what was said.

 

[pakengkeng]

thanks for all your responses.i feel better now. im glad though that i was able to say goodbye to her in person ,while she was on palliative care rather than not.i just wished i was able to spend more time with her ,when she was still well .i didnt expect that god will take her away soon .thanks for your condolences!