When a priest can't help, then what?

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Ok, here is what to do. Get off the internet right now @Lucy_1, and I will pray as you make your phone call. Go on now, I will wait. 😉

No, really, call right now. 🙂
 
I called about an hour ago. No one answered so I left a message for an appointment. If they don’t call back by this afternoon, I’ll call back. Ugh, dread speaking to a priest face to face
 
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I have an appointment tomorrow afternoon. Can you please pray for courage for me, that the Holy Spirit would give Father wisdom and lead him in what to say, that I would have clarity about what God wants, and that my actions would be pleasing to Him? Thanks
 
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Bluebright said:
I’d suggest you ask your angel to go ahead and make the way smooth fir you with the priests angel. I know it may sound an unusual thing to ask your angel, but he loves to help and this is a lovely way he can help us in situations like this where we fear we won’t get on or make ourselves well heard with a stranger.
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I think this is a very good thing to do. God assigned each one of us a personal guide to help us. We should daily and nightly and in all circumstances, ask our guardian angel to prepare our path to make sure it leads safely to God.
 
Hooray! I’ll pray for you! That’s awesome you took that step and made that appointment! Good luck!!!
 
Prayers for you, Lucy.
Hoping that the talk with Father goes well and that the Holy Spirit helps you with your decisions, and gives you peace and tranquillity.
 
Lucy_1 said:
I have two unrelated situations in my life which may be a matter of grave sin (I don’t think mortal sin, because I don’t think they meet the three conditions). They are completely unrelated and do not involve the same sin. In both situations I have a decision to make, and must make a choice between two alternatives. In both situations I feel both choices are sinful.

I have emailed 3 of my parish priests to explain the situations. Two have said they don’t know what to do (one said he would pray about it, but it’s been several months and he hasn’t gotten back to me), one never responded. I know they are extremely busy, so I don’t want to bug them. I can’t even just follow my conscience about one of the issues, because I don’t feel I know what the right thing is! I feel so anxious about these issues, I’m losing sleep and having bad dreams every night. What if this is the beginning of a path away from God and I don’t even know it? I feel no matter what I do God will be displeased. Should I just ask the most moral well balance non-priest I can think of? I’m at a complete loss and feel lost. Has anyone been through anything like this? I feel like a weirdo even posting this.
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First, you aren’t a “weirdo”. You’re seeking answers. Nothing weird about that.

Secondly, I don’t quite get the contradiction. First, you say it may be a matter of grave sin, but then you don’t think it’s a mortal sin because you don’t think they meet the three conditions. In that case, while they may involve grave matter, they wouldn’t be grave sins if they don’t meet the criteria.

Can you make an appointment with a priest to confess those matters? Calling the parish office instead of trying to e-mail a priest would be your best option for obtaining an appointment.

As for the priest who said he didn’t know what to do, some situations are so gray that it really is hard to know, sometimes. But, maybe another priest will have more light concerning it. Keep trying until you can find one who can help. I suspect it won’t be that difficult, if you persevere.
 
Thanks guys. I saw Father this afternoon, and he said not to worry about any of it, that none of the choices were morally wrong. I don’t know if I have scruples or what. I didn’t go to the priest I normally do, so I hope he wasn’t heterodox. I guess I just have to trust he isn’t.
 
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Good for you!

Please, Do not start second guessing. Or comparing priests, Believe what he said and get on with your life. 🙂
 
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