When can I begin sleeping with my partner

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My partner recently did his confessions and he was told that he was not able to sleep with me because it leads to sex. He still engages in sex with me although we don’t sleep together. Why can’t we sleep together and just leave the sex instead ? When can we begin sleeping together again?
 
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Sex is reserved for those who are validly married. Are you guys married civilly and working on getting your marriage validated? Or are you just living together?
 
It sounds like one of you misunderstood his confessor. Sex is for people who are married to eachother. Sleeping in the same bed was probably advised against as it makes the temptation to engage in sexual intimacy quite strong.
 
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Perhaps you are just trolling since this seems a bit contrived to be funny… but I’ll reply anyway. Obviously if sleeping together is not allowed because it leads to sex, then you realize it’s the sex that is ultimately not allowed. Sleep together all you wish as long as you are only sleeping. It’s the sex (obviously) that is not allowed outside of a church blessed marriage.
 
God’s design for family life is that a man and woman come before family and friends to declare their commitment to each other before they live together and have sex. There’s a perfectly good reason for this. Sex makes babies. A man and woman married to each other is an excellent foundation for raising a family and building a life together. It’s the building block of civilizations.
 
Women take on a big risk having sex with a man that has not married them. When an unplanned pregnancy happens, and there’s no life commitment from the guy, a woman risks her health, her school, her work, her income, and the guy can basically walk away from the relationship. Just looking at the current society, many women with children live below the poverty line, abandoned by their partners. Millions of women have gone for abortions.

When a man loves a woman, he does not ask her to take all this on without making that life commitment before family and friends. That’s what love looks like. Having sex without being married is what selfishness looks like.
 
Yeah, I get that. I think you missed what I was actually saying… a bit of sarcasm mixed in there. Sleeping is not the issue. Laying next to each other in bed may lead to sex… but the point is, it seems a trolling question. “We have sex, so why can’t we sleep together?” Sounds like someone pretending to not understand was being told to them by the priest or just trying to get posts on the forum. Maybe it is a legit question… but it’s hard to believe an adult would be confused and word this question as such.
 
Assuming you are posting in good faith, if you are not married you cannot have sex. At all. In any form or variation. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.
 
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My partner recently did his confessions and he was told that he was not able to sleep with me because it leads to sex. He still engages in sex with me although we don’t sleep together. Why can’t we sleep together and just leave the sex instead ? When can we begin sleeping together again?
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Your partner seems to have missed the priest’s point.
 
Experiences are always better when they are done well, with intention, discipline, in proper measure, at the proper time.
Don’t just do a good thing, do a good thing the best way in the right time.
 
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And you will find that holds true when married as well. People think marriage excuses a sexual free-for-all. It doesn’t. In fact marriage can be a more exacting practice of chastity than singlehood.
Expecting sex on your own schedule proves problematic. Again, it’s best to be discipline, patient, forgiving, at the right time. And everything is so much better.
 
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My partner recently did his confessions and he was told that he was not able to sleep with me because it leads to sex. He still engages in sex with me although we don’t sleep together. Why can’t we sleep together and just leave the sex instead ? When can we begin sleeping together again?
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You identify as Catholic. May I say, You should know the answer to this already.
 
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My partner recently did his confessions and he was told that he was not able to sleep with me because it leads to sex. He still engages in sex with me although we don’t sleep together. Why can’t we sleep together and just leave the sex instead ? When can we begin sleeping together again?
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May I suggest a different scenario to your question. Let’s face it, we’re all just one heartbeat away from eternity.

suppose today, you get the exact answer you want to hear from a poster, So you take that answer, and continue to have sex without marriage… cohabitating or not. However, What if you find out, you have a week to live. Maybe it’s 5 days from now maybe it’s 7 days from now, you don’t know the exact hour or minute, just that it is a week from today and you will be dead.

Based on that, What would be YOUR decision to your question?
 
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I’m pretty sure the OP must indeed be joking/trolling. I don’t think it’s possible for an adult human to get confused that “sleeping together” is wrong but “sex” is okay. They’re using wordplay (and I presume to mock Catholics, since I don’t see why an actual Catholic would bother to post such a comment. Or if they are Catholic, they’re very bored, possibly a preteen, and think they thought of something funny).
 
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