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Title says it all…And how did you know that it’s true love?
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rayne89
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Do think your in love? 
Why are you asking?
Why are you asking?
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khkhk
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Well, I was just wondering.
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Finella
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Well, I can tell you that I didn’t meet my spouse when I was 13… .
But it sure was fun imagining what it would be like to be married to my first crush
I had several serious relationships before I met the man who would become my hubby… and each time I thought:
“Oh boy! This the the one!!!”.
But they weren’t, lol. Each time I think God stepped in and saved me from myself, lol.
I met my hubby when I was only 22. He was 23. I believe that we should have dated for a longer period of time before we got married but it is all working out now.
We have been married for just over 5 years, and I am so thankful that I didn’t end up marrying one of my previous boyfriends…it would have been a disaster, lol.
From your other posts I know that you have a good head on your shoulders and are very mature for 13. I know that you will make a wise decision for a spouse when the time comes.
Take care Sarah!!!
Finella
.But it sure was fun imagining what it would be like to be married to my first crush
I had several serious relationships before I met the man who would become my hubby… and each time I thought:
“Oh boy! This the the one!!!”.
But they weren’t, lol. Each time I think God stepped in and saved me from myself, lol.
I met my hubby when I was only 22. He was 23. I believe that we should have dated for a longer period of time before we got married but it is all working out now.
We have been married for just over 5 years, and I am so thankful that I didn’t end up marrying one of my previous boyfriends…it would have been a disaster, lol.
From your other posts I know that you have a good head on your shoulders and are very mature for 13. I know that you will make a wise decision for a spouse when the time comes.
Take care Sarah!!!
Finella
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Tom
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I met my wife in high school, I was a junior and she was a sophomore,
and no we weren’t high school sweethearts. She was dating someone else and so was I. We became very good friends, I’d walk her to her classes, and we’d eat lunch together. No romantic entanglements, just great friends. Since she wasn’t allowed in cars with boys, I’d walk her to and from Church, about ½ of a mile. We hung out together and if she had problems with her b/f or I had problems with my g/f we’d use each other to sound out, we were more like brother and sister. After high school I went in the Army and went to Viet Nam as a helicopter pilot. She continued on to college. While I was in Viet Nam my g/f of almost 4 years decided to break-up with me, at the time I had other pressing thoughts on my mind, my father had just died, my mother was dying and, I was half way around the world and was rather occupied. About the time I came home her b/f of several years decided to break up with her. She was depressed and since she was a great friend, my brother and I started taking her out. It was always the three of us. We were a team. I got stationed close to home and would come home on weekends and my brother, she, and I would all go out. She was still in college. We (the three of us) “dated” for several months. Things developed in our relationship on a “friends” basis for over a year. Things progressed and I realized she was “the one” when I got orders back to Viet Nam. As things turned out my orders were changed to Korea, (the war was ending). Prior to going to Korea I proposed (Christmas, midnight Mass). I spent 10 months in Korea came home for a month, we were married and I brought her back to Korea for the last 7 months of my tour. After Korea we were stationed in Germany for 3 years then in Texas for 3 years. We’re now in southern Louisiana, been here for 23 years. We’ll be married 31 years this January. We knew each other as friends for about 4 years prior to “dating” then dated for 2 years, were engaged for another year prior to marriage. I married my best friend, and she still is. Secret to a good marriage? Marry your best friend, and then take her half way around the world so families don’t interfere… LOL
and no we weren’t high school sweethearts. She was dating someone else and so was I. We became very good friends, I’d walk her to her classes, and we’d eat lunch together. No romantic entanglements, just great friends. Since she wasn’t allowed in cars with boys, I’d walk her to and from Church, about ½ of a mile. We hung out together and if she had problems with her b/f or I had problems with my g/f we’d use each other to sound out, we were more like brother and sister. After high school I went in the Army and went to Viet Nam as a helicopter pilot. She continued on to college. While I was in Viet Nam my g/f of almost 4 years decided to break-up with me, at the time I had other pressing thoughts on my mind, my father had just died, my mother was dying and, I was half way around the world and was rather occupied. About the time I came home her b/f of several years decided to break up with her. She was depressed and since she was a great friend, my brother and I started taking her out. It was always the three of us. We were a team. I got stationed close to home and would come home on weekends and my brother, she, and I would all go out. She was still in college. We (the three of us) “dated” for several months. Things developed in our relationship on a “friends” basis for over a year. Things progressed and I realized she was “the one” when I got orders back to Viet Nam. As things turned out my orders were changed to Korea, (the war was ending). Prior to going to Korea I proposed (Christmas, midnight Mass). I spent 10 months in Korea came home for a month, we were married and I brought her back to Korea for the last 7 months of my tour. After Korea we were stationed in Germany for 3 years then in Texas for 3 years. We’re now in southern Louisiana, been here for 23 years. We’ll be married 31 years this January. We knew each other as friends for about 4 years prior to “dating” then dated for 2 years, were engaged for another year prior to marriage. I married my best friend, and she still is. Secret to a good marriage? Marry your best friend, and then take her half way around the world so families don’t interfere… LOL
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Princess_Abby
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I met my husband at 22. We were friends for about 6 months, then dated 6 months and got engaged, then married 6 months after that, when we were both 23. We’ve been married for 14 months now (and are almost 25–our birthdays are a month apart.) 
I, too, speculated on previous boyfriends being “the one” before I met my husband. But I found myself always settling on matters of their personal core values and beliefs…which didn’t feel right. I knew that to be equally yoked, God would have to send me a man who shared my interests, ideas, values and faith. Before my husband, I dated someone who was finally “very Catholic”–but he was devoid of a fun personality. When I met my husband, it was like “recognizing” someone I had long searched for. An amazing faith, a generous heart, a deep spirituality, an extremely hilarious sense of humor and many of my same interests. We just clicked and had that “chemistry,” as well.
For years I had prayed for my spouse: “Lord, prepare the mind, heart, body and soul of my future spouse. Protect him and keep him close to You. I ask that when I meet my spouse, I will recognize and know him as the one You have intended for me.”
God came through, as always. Pray hard, and never settle.
I, too, speculated on previous boyfriends being “the one” before I met my husband. But I found myself always settling on matters of their personal core values and beliefs…which didn’t feel right. I knew that to be equally yoked, God would have to send me a man who shared my interests, ideas, values and faith. Before my husband, I dated someone who was finally “very Catholic”–but he was devoid of a fun personality.
When I met my husband, it was like “recognizing” someone I had long searched for. An amazing faith, a generous heart, a deep spirituality, an extremely hilarious sense of humor and many of my same interests. We just clicked and had that “chemistry,” as well.For years I had prayed for my spouse: “Lord, prepare the mind, heart, body and soul of my future spouse. Protect him and keep him close to You. I ask that when I meet my spouse, I will recognize and know him as the one You have intended for me.”
God came through, as always.
Pray hard, and never settle.
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Princess_Abby
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btw…
most good things don’t come very easily. my spouse and i endured countless obstacles and all sorts of unforseen situations that were very difficult. but, with God on our side and in our hearts, we endured. just don’t expect “true love” to always be easy! it requires a lot of perseverance.
Abby
most good things don’t come very easily. my spouse and i endured countless obstacles and all sorts of unforseen situations that were very difficult. but, with God on our side and in our hearts, we endured. just don’t expect “true love” to always be easy! it requires a lot of perseverance.
Abby
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Sir_Knight
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I had three earlier girlfriends who I was SURE was the woman that I was going to marry but things just didn’t work out. One of those relationship went on for 6+ years only to end unhappily
I met my wife at work when we were both in our early thirties and it was FAR from “love at first sight”. She was a release manager and I was a senior technician. We fought like cats & dogs. She didn’t understand the technology and I didn’t understand the requirements. Since we both have a “problem solver” mentality, instead of trying to understand the other, we tried to present the solution ourselves. Her request didn’t make any sense to me and I’m sure that my recommendations made even less sense to her. We had actually screaming sessions where other workers came out of their rooms to see what all of the yelling was about. After a few years of that, we some how fell in love and got married. That was over a decade ago.
Love will find you when you least expect it and in the eyes and arms of someone you may also least expect.
I met my wife at work when we were both in our early thirties and it was FAR from “love at first sight”. She was a release manager and I was a senior technician. We fought like cats & dogs. She didn’t understand the technology and I didn’t understand the requirements. Since we both have a “problem solver” mentality, instead of trying to understand the other, we tried to present the solution ourselves. Her request didn’t make any sense to me and I’m sure that my recommendations made even less sense to her. We had actually screaming sessions where other workers came out of their rooms to see what all of the yelling was about. After a few years of that, we some how fell in love and got married. That was over a decade ago.
Love will find you when you least expect it and in the eyes and arms of someone you may also least expect.
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khkhk
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Thanks to all who posted-they are really interesting
Keep them coming please!
Keep them coming please!
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Amber101
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I met my husband at 7-11!
I always went to this same 7-11 after and after work, etc, because I knew the owner and wanted to support his business. So one day I am gassing up my car and I look over and see this new guy working and I think, “wow, he sure is cute”. But I had just come out of a nasty break-up and I had sworn off dating and men, so I didn’t think anything other then that.
Well, every time I went into the store and he was working he would flirt with me! It was pretty funny. Finally he asked me to go to a concert with him and I said yes, but the date of the concert was a little far off so he asked me to go baseball game so we could have fun and get to know each other.
We went to the baseball game and laughed and had a GREAT time. We went out a few more times and then one day while we were at Pizza Hut he fashioned a ring out of straw paper and asked me to be his girlfriend! It was so cute and funny, I think I kind of new then that he was the one.
Anyway, while we were sitting talking with friends the topic of our age came up. (I guess we hadn’t discussed this before!) I mentioned I was 18 and Robert eyes popped out of his head:bigyikes: and I thought he was going to pass out. He was 24. He got over it, we got married 8 years ago, the day before my 21 rst birthday, he was 27.
My husband and I are best friends. We can talk about anything and he makes me laugh like no one else. Yup, it’s love!
I always went to this same 7-11 after and after work, etc, because I knew the owner and wanted to support his business. So one day I am gassing up my car and I look over and see this new guy working and I think, “wow, he sure is cute”. But I had just come out of a nasty break-up and I had sworn off dating and men, so I didn’t think anything other then that.
Well, every time I went into the store and he was working he would flirt with me! It was pretty funny. Finally he asked me to go to a concert with him and I said yes, but the date of the concert was a little far off so he asked me to go baseball game so we could have fun and get to know each other.
We went to the baseball game and laughed and had a GREAT time. We went out a few more times and then one day while we were at Pizza Hut he fashioned a ring out of straw paper and asked me to be his girlfriend! It was so cute and funny, I think I kind of new then that he was the one.
Anyway, while we were sitting talking with friends the topic of our age came up. (I guess we hadn’t discussed this before!) I mentioned I was 18 and Robert eyes popped out of his head:bigyikes: and I thought he was going to pass out. He was 24. He got over it, we got married 8 years ago, the day before my 21 rst birthday, he was 27.
My husband and I are best friends. We can talk about anything and he makes me laugh like no one else. Yup, it’s love!
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KCT
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University of Steubenville- summer of '82. He worked for the maintenance department and I worked in the cafeteria. He used to come in looking for free food; the cafeteria ladies usually gave it to him. During the Priest and Deacons conference, as I was taking meal tickets, one of the cafeteria ladies introduced us. We graduated in May of '84 and married in Aug of '84. We have 3 kids (18, 16, 13). —KCT
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khkhk
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Cool! My mom was married to my dad in May of '84. Yeah!!! 200 posts!!!
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Mamamull
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I met my husband at a Halloween party. So many people I knew were happy to Sean and his humor was just my cup of tea.
How did I know it was true love? My grandfather asked if we had set the date yet and we had been dating just two months.
In retrospect, I see God’s hand in bringing us together. We met at a time when each of us really needed a true friend. We are still best friends. It has been a swift 24 years since we met.
Without my hasband, I wouldn’t be Catholic or half the person I am today. He returns the thought that he wouldn’t be the man he is today without me.
He is the spiritual leader of our family and a wonderful father and husband. Do I sound grateful enough?
How did I know it was true love? My grandfather asked if we had set the date yet and we had been dating just two months.
In retrospect, I see God’s hand in bringing us together. We met at a time when each of us really needed a true friend. We are still best friends. It has been a swift 24 years since we met.
Without my hasband, I wouldn’t be Catholic or half the person I am today. He returns the thought that he wouldn’t be the man he is today without me.
He is the spiritual leader of our family and a wonderful father and husband. Do I sound grateful enough?
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SeekerJen
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I met my husband (Jeff) at our workplace when I was 23 and he was 26. I was actually engaged to a college sweetheart at the time, and so I only saw Jeff as a friend. I ended up breaking off my engagement due to differences that were becoming too much to deal with (and when you’re having problems to the point of not being able to stand your fiance or trust him, it’s worth asking if you want to spend the rest of your life in such a state).
Jeff and I started dating not too long after that. After a month he took me home to meet his parents. Before long we were spending most of our free time together, and what I felt for him was so different from what I had felt for my ex-fiance. I knew I wanted to have a life and a family with Jeff, I knew he would be an excellent father and best friend and lover, supportive of me in all things (including my faith, as he is not a Catholic) and I could see our future together. We got engaged 7 months after we started dating, and were married 11 months after that (in May of 2003).
Life as a newlywed isn’t always easy. We have our squabbles, and our adjustments to make to each other. But I can honestly say though that I have never had a moment’s regret about the marriage (and Jeff has told me the same). I’m glad I trusted in God and didn’t settle. Jeff is the man of my dreams and the love of my life.
PS- Like others have said, don’t discount the personality issue. It’s great if you can find a Catholic spouse, but if the faith is the ONLY thing you have in common, you might want to ask if that’s really the person God has in mind for you. My ex-fiance was a Catholic (at least in name) and he was definitely NOT who God had chosen for me. Don’t settle.
Jeff and I started dating not too long after that. After a month he took me home to meet his parents. Before long we were spending most of our free time together, and what I felt for him was so different from what I had felt for my ex-fiance. I knew I wanted to have a life and a family with Jeff, I knew he would be an excellent father and best friend and lover, supportive of me in all things (including my faith, as he is not a Catholic) and I could see our future together. We got engaged 7 months after we started dating, and were married 11 months after that (in May of 2003).
Life as a newlywed isn’t always easy. We have our squabbles, and our adjustments to make to each other. But I can honestly say though that I have never had a moment’s regret about the marriage (and Jeff has told me the same). I’m glad I trusted in God and didn’t settle. Jeff is the man of my dreams and the love of my life.
PS- Like others have said, don’t discount the personality issue. It’s great if you can find a Catholic spouse, but if the faith is the ONLY thing you have in common, you might want to ask if that’s really the person God has in mind for you. My ex-fiance was a Catholic (at least in name) and he was definitely NOT who God had chosen for me. Don’t settle.
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rayne89
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I met my husband at a favorite local park on an unusually warm day in January when I was a month shy of 17. (1989) He went to my highschool but it was a really big highschool and we’d never talked before.( Iwas a Jr. he was a Sr.) We started dating about 6 weeks later. He was my first (and only) love.
I wouldn’t recommend to others the way we did things. We are very lucky we’ve come thru all of our problems with our marriage intact. We both came from difficult family situations and leaned on each other a lot during some pretty painful stuff. We broke up 1990 and for the next year got back together and broke up several times. My husband (at the time boyfriend) had a drinking problem but I was too young to see it for it was.
At the end of 1990(we weren’t together) he joined the Navy and I wrote him a goodbye letter. I thought I’d never see him again. We met at that same park to say goodbye but instead we knew we both still loved each other and got back together. In Feb 91 we got married at a wedding chapel (against my parents wishes.
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We had some absolutely great times mixed with very dark times. When I became pregnant with out 1st child I returned the my Catholic faith. (My husband was not Catholic, he claimed he was “agnostic”). My husband finally was forced into A.A. after a car accident and began his own faith journey.
I won’t get into all the “stuff” we went thru but we were a hair away from divorce at one point. I fought and prayed, I still loved him and refuse to give up. We did a retrouvaille weekend which jump started our healing process. Fast forward to now, we are both strong, devout Catholics and best friends (only by the grace of God.) We had our marriage convalidated in the Church this past July (It was so beautiful!) and had a celebration afterward at the local park where we met. I could have never imagined the relationship we have now a few years ago. I take nothing for granted.
Like I said before I don’t think this is the way anyone should start a marriage but I do believe God put us together for a reason, we just had to give it all we had to get here.
I wouldn’t recommend to others the way we did things. We are very lucky we’ve come thru all of our problems with our marriage intact. We both came from difficult family situations and leaned on each other a lot during some pretty painful stuff. We broke up 1990 and for the next year got back together and broke up several times. My husband (at the time boyfriend) had a drinking problem but I was too young to see it for it was.
At the end of 1990(we weren’t together) he joined the Navy and I wrote him a goodbye letter. I thought I’d never see him again. We met at that same park to say goodbye but instead we knew we both still loved each other and got back together. In Feb 91 we got married at a wedding chapel (against my parents wishes.
).We had some absolutely great times mixed with very dark times. When I became pregnant with out 1st child I returned the my Catholic faith. (My husband was not Catholic, he claimed he was “agnostic”). My husband finally was forced into A.A. after a car accident and began his own faith journey.
I won’t get into all the “stuff” we went thru but we were a hair away from divorce at one point. I fought and prayed, I still loved him and refuse to give up. We did a retrouvaille weekend which jump started our healing process. Fast forward to now, we are both strong, devout Catholics and
best friends (only by the grace of God.) We had our marriage convalidated in the Church this past July (It was so beautiful!) and had a celebration afterward at the local park where we met. I could have never imagined the relationship we have now a few years ago. I take nothing for granted.Like I said before I don’t think this is the way anyone should start a marriage but I do believe God put us together for a reason, we just had to give it all we had to get here.
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khkhk
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I think you do…I know it’s hard to put exactly how you feel…
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Carolyn
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I met my FUTURE husband at Home Depot! (we are engaged).
When I started with the company I was amazed at how much everyone at HD seemed to like their job. Everyone was friendly and would say hello as we passed in the aisles, but the only notice I made of Chris was where ever he was (100 ft down and aisle, driving by on a hi-lo, 16 feet in the air on an order picker retrieving stock) whenever I would pass by his department he would stop whatever he was doing and say “Hi!”
One day (a warm Memorial Weekend Saturday) the store was holding a holiday BBQ for those of us working. I went outside for a quick bite and sat down at the only table with chairs still available. Chris was there sitting with one of the cashiers, Tasha. Tasha said “carolyn, you’re not married are you?” and I said “no”. “Chris you’re not married are you?” Chris said no. Tasha smiled slyly: “CHRIS LIKES YOU”
Like we were in 3rd grade! HA!
But suddenly it was if a lightning bolt had stuck me and I felt like hearts were floating around my head (Like Sally when she looks at Linus! )
We became great friends and soon started dating and finally engaged. He is the love of my life and he was worth the wait (I am going to be 39, he is 43)
Sigh, yup, Home Depot, I owe ya!
When I started with the company I was amazed at how much everyone at HD seemed to like their job. Everyone was friendly and would say hello as we passed in the aisles, but the only notice I made of Chris was where ever he was (100 ft down and aisle, driving by on a hi-lo, 16 feet in the air on an order picker retrieving stock) whenever I would pass by his department he would stop whatever he was doing and say “Hi!”
One day (a warm Memorial Weekend Saturday) the store was holding a holiday BBQ for those of us working. I went outside for a quick bite and sat down at the only table with chairs still available. Chris was there sitting with one of the cashiers, Tasha. Tasha said “carolyn, you’re not married are you?” and I said “no”. “Chris you’re not married are you?” Chris said no. Tasha smiled slyly: “CHRIS LIKES YOU”
Like we were in 3rd grade! HA!
But suddenly it was if a lightning bolt had stuck me and I felt like hearts were floating around my head (Like Sally when she looks at Linus!
)We became great friends and soon started dating and finally engaged. He is the love of my life and he was worth the wait (I am going to be 39, he is 43)
Sigh, yup, Home Depot, I owe ya!
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theMutant
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Sarah,
I met my spouse near the end of our freshman year of high school. We dated briefly in our senior year and, after graduation, I moved some distance away. Five years after that, I was not seeing anyone and so I decided to take all of the girls I knew out for their birthdays that year. When Deann’s birthday came around, I was taken immediately. I never did take any other girl out for a birthday that year. Nearly two years later, we married. We are now heading toward our 16th anniversary.
I met my spouse near the end of our freshman year of high school. We dated briefly in our senior year and, after graduation, I moved some distance away. Five years after that, I was not seeing anyone and so I decided to take all of the girls I knew out for their birthdays that year. When Deann’s birthday came around, I was taken immediately. I never did take any other girl out for a birthday that year. Nearly two years later, we married. We are now heading toward our 16th anniversary.
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Feanaro_s_Wife
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I met my wonderful husband at a bar!!! I don’t recommend it though… too many creepy guys with one thing on their mind, lol.
I had broken up with my boyfriend of two years about 6 months before…
That night my friends insisted I go out with them… I didn’t want to. But they finally convinced me. I swore to myself and them that I wasn’t even going to look at a guy that night… I was done trying to find a boyfriend!!! Ha ha…
Funny thing is that my now husband had the same situation that night… he had sworn off women after being devastated by his ex-fiancee but his friends dragged him out anyway.
We met…we dated… I met his family…and we married just over a year later
It has been just over 5 years of marriage now.
Malia
I had broken up with my boyfriend of two years about 6 months before…
That night my friends insisted I go out with them… I didn’t want to. But they finally convinced me. I swore to myself and them that I wasn’t even going to look at a guy that night… I was done trying to find a boyfriend!!! Ha ha…
Funny thing is that my now husband had the same situation that night… he had sworn off women after being devastated by his ex-fiancee but his friends dragged him out anyway.
We met…we dated… I met his family…and we married just over a year later
It has been just over 5 years of marriage now.
Malia
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AlanFromWichita
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I met my wife in 1985, at the age of 26.
She was a phlebotomist at the Red Cross, I an engineer at Boeing.
We used to get paid leave to go donate blood; on one of those days I did. I thought the girl draining my blood had a cute smile so I hit on her.
I said, “I just ordered a new grand piano that should be delivered soon. Would you like to come over and hear some Mozart?” I told her she could find my phone number on my paperwork but she said she wasn’t allowed to take notes on that information. :nope:
After the donation, while I was in the room where they handed out sloppy joes to donors, she took a break and as she walked by, dropped a scrap of paper with her phone number on the table. :dancing:
Now we are married and have six beautiful children and all the music we want.
I used to say, “she started by draining my veins and then went for the wallet.”
Alan
She was a phlebotomist at the Red Cross, I an engineer at Boeing.
We used to get paid leave to go donate blood; on one of those days I did. I thought the girl draining my blood had a cute smile so I hit on her.
I said, “I just ordered a new grand piano that should be delivered soon. Would you like to come over and hear some Mozart?” I told her she could find my phone number on my paperwork but she said she wasn’t allowed to take notes on that information. :nope:
After the donation, while I was in the room where they handed out sloppy joes to donors, she took a break and as she walked by, dropped a scrap of paper with her phone number on the table. :dancing:
Now we are married and have six beautiful children and all the music we want.
I used to say, “she started by draining my veins and then went for the wallet.”
Alan
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